Tuesday, October 18, 2011

Dealing with my Sociopath: Yes UKan, Yes UKan, yes UKan!

From UKan's wife:
My husband asked me to write my thoughts on how it is I put up with him as a sociopath, so after some thought I've decided to indulge him. I don't typically like to let him into this many of my thoughts, but I think it'll be an interesting post to the many on this site who've long been wondering about him. And I think it's a good thing to be open about, even if vicariously.

To start with a bit about myself, I am a rational personality type, so my underlying motive for my life is to understand things. In my past I have always dated people I was curious about. Curiosity is my idea of interest, or caring, if you will. Every man I dated was bizarre to say the least, and I will not choose here to go into that further.
My husband is no exception to strangeness, not because like some idiots on here think that he's complicated and so full of dimension, but because he is so simple. The tedious thing about exes is that though they all vary dramatically socially, and often think they're different, they tend to be simple, and the same fundamentally. Like Asians, they start to all look alike.
Just kidding.

But seriously, most people are too simple once you discover their issues of particularity. In some cases I'd try to help them grow up but their inherent blindness to themselves and their own simplicity is even more tedious. They're inherent undesire to change and fears of coping all begin to look alike, no matter how variable.

With my husband, his natural complexity is not in how he doesn't deal with some glaring issue, but in elusiveness and nonchalance about his glaring issues. It consistantly amuses me how he deflects others from who he is, and pulls their own glaring issues to a forefront. I don't get bored of my husband because he never ceases to amuse me with his naturalness and fundamental-ness. He has impulses and he follows them. No fronts.

I call him a Demon because it has a natural symbolic picture of who he is. He tries to convince me that he isn't, or tries to convince himself sometimes that he's human, but he just isn't. Everything for him all falls back onto a few inherent humanistic desires like sex, territoriality, amusement, procreation, vanity or pride etc. His lack of any social rounding amuses me and never ceases to feed my curiosity not because he's trying to be complicated, but because he's so fundamentally simple.
I hate when people try to add fluff to who they are; meaning, or reasoning to something that breaks down so simply. My husband just comes out as simple, and I don't tire of it.

I suppose that's a bit of a contradiction; not being bored of my husband because he's simple, but that's how I am.

So to advise the silly people who come on here with ideals about their sociopath being so complex, stop projecting your "Complications" on something so inherently uncomplicated and you'll begin to understand that just because you like to sugar coat things with your emotions, that doesn't mean the rest of the world does.

A sociopath is not a sensitive man with deep poetic complexities, but an animal seeking amusement. You are expendable, as you have the specialness of an ant. Unless you can see him for what he is, or get him to show you what he is.
My success with my husband is not that I idolically look up to him with blind batting lashes, but that I see that he's just an animal, and that I cope with the shallowness of reality, and can demand no more from him than he's capable of. I am satisfied by the reality of our relationship, and ask for no delusions. Though sometimes they feel nice, I'd rather have the cold reality.

Bad things happen for good reasons.

406 comments:

  1. Whats the point?
    Complex is just another way of saying confused.

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  2. Does one have to be a sociopath to be an effective serial killer

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  3. does one have to be a sociopath to skin animals alive and not feel anything? not necessarily.

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  4. so if ukan's wife has dated men out of her curiosity for the bizarre, she "loves" his character. She loves his simple honesty, but does she point out to him his own solipsism? Do they have a relationship wherein she challenges him? I did this to an extent with my ex, but he was not so willing to trust me with it all. The only thing he told me was that he didn't know he was capable of loving and that i was not to tell anyone about it. He told me my intellectualism was a turn on for him. He also liked my logic, as did the other unempathic boyfriend, the one I really wanted, the one that did not mirror me. They liked me for my willingness to put up with them. I am tired, though. I am tired of being the understanding one. It is too much work. I will do what Sparkleplug suggested and be the socio for a while and see how that feels. It is easy enough. I don't love, she said. I can take her word for that right now. Idk, perhaps I have been trained sufficiently to be just as lackadaisical about relationships as any sociopath. Fuckin blows, but i need regular sex, i need to go out, i need to be social with a man. I love men. What can I say? I will choose the ones that want to treat me like a queen but I will see them only when I care to. NOT OFTEN. I don't like most people for more than a little while anyway. My longest, happiest relationship was with a boy 25 years ago who bashed in another kid's head with a baseball bat. He killed him. He broke my heart. He is a real pos. I saw him on the street a few years ago talking to his ex wife on his cell arguing how he was entitled to see his "goils" that night --xmas eve. uggh. I am lucky. I've had fucking lousy taste from day 1. I have had countless lovers, and tried to love again, and -not really much "passion". Logic and curiosity has, indeed, taken over. I am spent. I am a drone. (I am pmsing. I hate.)

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  5. FUCK you to the world.

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  6. I would say yes, I'd argue that a narcissist would make a better serial killer as they would be more planned.

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  7. most serial killers are malignant narcs.

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  8. the ex who killed the boy was a narcissist. He needed attention from everyone. He dressed up as the sweet transvestite on halloween and had a 3some. He also let his male roommate blow him, and kept cheating with a mother figure. He needed constant narc supply.

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  9. uggh been dating fucking narcs my whole life. Disgusting.

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  10. Knock me over with a feather.
    Mrs Ukan
    I have some questions for her, though.
    Do you want that senseless ape near your kid?

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  11. booooring. next post and more commenters, please.

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  12. Back to your real life, Mrs Ukan. Do you like getting your head smashed against the wall?

    How are you going to feel when that happens to your child?

    What if you had the infamous crippled child of Lukes as your child?
    Then, would UKan be such a prize, or whatever you call him?

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  13. You're both self absorbed. Living in your own fantasy world where you matter one squit.

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  14. I wonder if tik or sceli is ukan's wife

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  15. Ukan acts like an immature asshole.

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  16. What the fuck? When did she write this?

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  17. My ex was telling me he wanted o have a kid. Ha! I NEVER wanted kids. Know what my family said?

    ---If I was ever in doubt and this man could provide for us, then I SHOULD HAVE ONE . FOR US . FOR THE RELATIONSHIP.. ---Do you see how crazy people are? These were my family members.

    My friends were like: Get the fuck away, Bella. N O W. You are talking crazy. You are not being you.

    So I tested him. I sat him down and I said sweetheart I have been giving it some thought and I am open to it..

    Know what? Glazed-over post orgasm look. A disappointment-in-me, or realization of a backfiring look. I knew he was fuckin nutso. He was testing ME. Testing me to see how much I loved him.. That's why I think he has a bit of borderline, too. Whatever. Fuckin wack job.. I mean wackier than me, tnp. Way. Thankfully, later in pillow talk he did admit he was too old. I was fucking relieved. That guy was yanking me around. Nuts. Couldn't make up his mind about anything. couldn't get out of his apt till someone said he had thirty minutes to meet them or else no go. (-A bit like me in that sense, yes. We had lots in common. He was probably an undiagnosed bipolar. He said he was depressed. Angry as fuck. All. The. Time. )

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  18. Ukan made fun of my child with CP. How can you be proud to be the wife of a man who would do that?

    How can you respect a man who would do that to a handicapped child?

    What if you had a child with CP? Would you want UKan as his father?

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  19. I am curious, Ukan. Since you are usually very honest an upfront here, it is always refreshing.

    Do you also test people's loyalty like Bella's ex, or do you think that is a narc thing or a borderline thing?

    Are you attracted to strong personalities who stand up to you?

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  20. Anon 8:28, I'm not his wife and from everything Sceli has said she's not either.

    I'm a lot like her. I am very rational which makes it like living a fantacy. It gets exhausting though.
    Sometimes discouraging. Always exciting.

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  21. OMG no, Luke. No. My ex would have been disgusting. Cold and distant. He had no patience for children. A friend died and her widower was having a breakdown and he offered to discipline the kid (SPANK) in a joking manner. But if it were his own kid, he'd prob beat the shit out of it.

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  22. I would ask a couple of things. My ex, who is a sociopath, and I were together off/on for 8 years. He would be honest and tell me he wouldn't be faithful to me. Then I would be devastated when he wasn't. He would come and go on a whim, desperately need me, or want some free time to toy w/another heart, then be back at my door again. He always made me feel like I was his whole world for a time. Then he'd be gone for a week or two and back for a few months, be gone for a couple weeks, than back again. This was our relationship. It drove me CRAZY! I loved him and accepted he was incredibly selfish. But, after a time I could no longer handle being on a such a rollar coaster. So, my questions are: If you have the importance of an ant to your husband, then how do you deal with knowing any minute, any day he would be out the door and with another woman on a whim?

    Also, how do you handle that every aspect of your day is about meeting your mans needs and yours matter squat? From sex, to what we talk about, to whats for dinner, to what's on the tv or radio, it's all about what he wants and needs. Don't you ever want something for yourself?

    Last of all, w/my socio he relished in misery. Do you get tired of every moment that could be great, being brought down to misery because that is how he likes it?

    Maybe your husband isn't like my ex, but it seems that my ex is very typical of what I know about sociopaths.

    Thanks for your response!

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  23. I'm a lot like her. I am very rational which makes it like living a fantacy. It gets exhausting though.
    Sometimes discouraging. Always exciting.

    a lot like sceli or a lot like ukan's wife?

    It gets exhausting living rationally and it feels like fantasy and is discouaging? Will you please explain this to me?

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  24. Some of the sociopaths, on here, have some level of maturity.
    UKan seems like the most immature.
    Just the fact that he is a huge baby would be bad enough, I would think.

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  25. how do you deal with knowing any minute, any day he would be out the door and with another woman on a whim?

    uggh.

    how do you handle that every aspect of your day is about meeting your mans needs and yours matter squat

    uggh.

    Last of all, w/my socio he relished in misery

    uggh.


    I would say that wen you are miserable you should sit with him because it will be fine in those moments.

    Have your own lovers and don't tell him,

    Only make believe his maters matter more,get your own tv and habve your own wing in the house. Have many friends.. talk about him behind his back and laugh a lot about him,

    get off the roller coaster as often as you like, and be willing to walk away when he dumps you for it. Pack your bags, baby. Be ready to take him or leave him, cuz he will discard you for taking care of your own needs.

    Or be a doormat. He will hate you for it. Good Luck!

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  26. What if you got ugly, for some reason, like an accident or a burn?
    Would you want to go through life with UKan by your side?

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  27. Luke, how can you respect yourself? I've heard about what he did to you. You're one of those people with such a glaring fault you're trying so hard to cover that your tedious, unrespectable, ignorant, blind and delusional. How can you put your family in tat position with your ownpride and narcissism. You come on here talking about how much your wife sucks, and expect that to go well?
    Bella, you're dumb and trying to make up for dating people that hurt you by becoming cold. And your comments about your life are tedious. Like your talking to a therapist.
    Living rationally can be painful because it removesfantasy, not because it builds fantasy.

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  28. anon

    A lot of "normal" men cheat, lie and leave their wife. You can't count on anybody to stay by your side your whole life.

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  29. LOL well that's exactly what happened. I did talk about him behind his back, have all my own friends, get my own tv and take care of my own needs, and yes he could not stand that!

    Yes, he loved it when I was miserable. But, hated it when I was joyful. I'm w/out him now and quite happy.

    I guess I'm still trying to figure him out. I can't imagine a world in his brain. It seems so tortured all the time. Makes me feel sad that he appears to want to feel things he's unable to. See there I go being empathetic. How dare I.

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  30. And to Lisa Jean, I don't make my husbands matters everything that is important to me. You're dating an asshole. He's toying with you emotionally. My husband treats me like a queen, all the time. And I have learned not to center around his decisions or wants because it becomes painful for me. It isn't like having a normal relationship where both are trying to feel secure by going above and beyond for their lover, so I've stopped doing the above and beyond... we have tasks we each do, and we carry our own weight and our relationship is fair, and wonderful. My husband can be close minded to my needs sometimes, and I can be a silly girl sometimes,
    But generally we keep each other happy. My husband spoils me and I him... and we don't get bored.

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  31. He doesn't feel, he makes you think he does because it makes you do what he wants. He knows how to make you feel special so he can get your love and attention, and every other woman he was with felt the same way.

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  32. And anonymous, you sound incredibly bitter, and reacting that way will be painful to anyone's own sense of self, as you are not a sociopath. Move on and release your anger and bitterness.

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  33. why is ukan impersonating his wife?

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  34. Every woman has a sociopath/narc ex. He is a regular prick, not a socio or narc, they are very rare.

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  35. So he's a sociopath AND an asshole. Well, that is good to know because I used to just think he was an asshole. Then when I discovered he was a sociopath or psychopath (?) not sure I know the difference, I thought he couldn't help himself and being a self-centered ass was just his genetic nature. Good to know there's a distinction and I can remain thinking of him as an ass rather than a victim to his nuerological parameters.

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  36. What if you got ugly, cunt? What of you got fat, after you had a kid?

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  38. All sociopaths are pricks, but not all pricks are sociopaths.

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  39. Do you really think that's me? I would've wrote a more flattering article.

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  40. Kanamiss get your stuff out of the car

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  41. Lisa

    Why are you wasting your time trying to figure him out? If he is that much of an asshole...

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  42. do sociopaths make a conscience decision in their late childhood/teens, that they are going to use people as objects from then on?

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  43. what happens then?

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  44. Lol. Anonymous, you amuse me with your hatred.
    I have self respect so i will not get fat and ugly. Not an issue I really need to worry.maybe you should work on your level of self respect so you feel better about yourself and stop hating other peoples ability to be better than you are.
    An I have to agree with sweetcheeks if that was directed toward Lisa. Who cares why he treated you like such an ass hole. You give him too much power over you still. And seriously, you have some kind of a masochistic issue if he was so up front with you andyoustill put yourself through hell. Direct your focus inward and stop blaming him for how stupid you were. Why did you do that to yourself?

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  45. Big Stupid Asshole
    You did not answer the question. What if you had a retarded kid?


    What if you became ugly from an accident?

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  46. You tried to commit suicide, so how wonderful are you to judge other people?

    You let your husband bash your head in to the wall. That makes you an abuse victim.

    How great are you?

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  47. Answer the question A hole. What if you have a fucked up kid?

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  48. What happends when? There's no sudden moment. You used people as objects when you were a child. Everyone does. I just never stopped.

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  49. What if your aunt had a cock. She would be your uncle.

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  50. Lisa

    Think of it this way:

    What if he found out how much time you spent researching him and talking about him online? Imagine how powerful he would feel. Your life still revolves around him after all he did to you. What's ironic is he probably doesn't think about you much at all.

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  51. Sw psychologist said...
    Every woman has a sociopath/narc ex. He is a regular prick, not a socio or narc, they are very rare.


    I do realize it is very rare. The things he did/does go beyond lieing, cheating, and self-centeredness. It would take pages to go through everything. But, he has every trait in varying degrees of a socio, down to the cold medicine aversion (lol) that I thought was fairly funny when I read about it last night. I always wondered why he would never take medicine he so clearly needed.

    No woman, (other than me) has ever lasted more than 15 months with him. (don't ask what my problem is;why I stayed in it so long - that'd take pages as well.)

    In early childhood parents, drs. and teachers all tried to figure out "what was wrong" with him. He "wasn't like other children" he has said all his life that his brain is different and doesn't work like other peoples. He literally has never acknolwedged his responsability for anything in his life. Down to his first marriage which if asked he can't give a reason for marrying in the first place. He'll tell you he never loved his ex wife. When asked why he married her then, He only says "she planned the wedding, she did everything." He doesn't even take responsibility for having agreed to marry her, or for having gotten himself to the church and gone through with the ceremony. Just repeats "She did everything I didn't even want to, she just planned everything." He has no answer for how that occured. Maybe aliens dropped him off there and erased his memory of how it occured.

    His daughter fell in a campfire when she was 2 years old sustaining 3rd degree burns. His only concern was how angry he was at the camp ranger for making him leave the campsite for refusing to take his daughter to the hospital. He didn't want to look like a bad parent to his ex during custody negotions. His concern was the way HE would "look" for seeking medical treatment for her burns was worse than her having gotten burned and suffering from the pain and ensuing infection from lack of medical care.

    I can go on and on, but you get the idea. He truly can't "get his head out of his ass to see anything beyond himself" (which is what I often said to him)

    I won't bore you with his entire history. But, he is very clearly more than a typical "ex prick." It's possible I could be wrong, but the more I learn the more of him I see in all I read about both sociopath/psychopaths. Feel free to educate me. I'm here to try to make sense of him and the past 8 years.

    It really is very confusing. I can think of lots of times I saw him express emotion, most times it is in relation to himself though.He's sort of like Eeyore. Walks slowly, talks low and monotone, seems very downtrodden all the time. He's incredibly sensitive when it comes to his own needs. Oblivious to anyone elses.

    Gee what the hell did I see in this guy?! He does have a boyish charm that draws you in. Something about him makes you want to take care of him. I guess there is an allure to a person who seems distant yet, not at the same time.

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  52. @KanaMiss
    I have asked UKan before if he has ever felt contempt toward you, and would be interested to hear what you have to say. Also i assume there is trust and respect to some degree, was that there from early on in your relationship or did it take a fair amount of time (and maybe difficulty) to reach that point.
    A list of do's and dont's would also be helpful for dealing with someone with sociopathic traits.

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  53. It's easy to judge you. You're so fucking obvious. You're bitter and dripping with hatred.
    I'm no abuse victim, he was drunk, we were fighting and he lost control. Now I know better than to fight him. He reacts as an animal.


    And wow, UKan, that's a lot of personal information out there. Any more surprises I can expect?

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  54. I imagine he has felt contempt toward me at some point or another, but as I tell him, I'm human. Sometimes I can be crazy. I'm a girl. Sometimes that's just something he has to understand, and doesn't.
    Trust and respect is something we've been building as we've been growing, but it's also something to a degree we always had. Our relationship constantly improves. Particularly in areas of trust and respect.

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  55. sweetcheeks said...
    Lisa

    Why are you wasting your time trying to figure him out? If he is that much of an asshole...


    LOL! Exactly!! Well, as you can see I am a bit obessive.
    Making sense of him, helps me make sense of what made me put up with him so long. It also helps me put my feelings for him in perspective and put away.

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  56. Well Fuck Brain
    If you want to be married to an animal, you will get what comes from that.
    Good luck to you, you stupid piece of shit.
    You deserve UKan.

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  57. Do you want to have a baby with that fucktard?
    I have not seen the answer?
    Do you want that fucktard to be your child's father?
    How smart are you, if you do?

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  58. Lol.
    I LOVE how bitter you are! It's seriously so amusing to me. I can hear the quiver in your voice. And you don't even have a name to make for yourself. He must have gotten under your skin deep. WHich one are you, I wonder. The retarded kid, or the Tranny.

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  59. Good luck being alone anon. Enjoy masterbating and watching romance movies by yourself.

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  60. Ah, there it is. The retarded baby. Maybe you should not put your family out there like that. You failed as a man to protect your family for your own stupid pride, and now you're angry. You're pathetic. You're more of a fucking ass hole than my husband will ever be. My husband protects me, from everything. Like you couldn't do.

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  61. Judging how he used the word cunt and fucktard its jason. Those are two words I used on him and he's obsessed with me. Its creepy. He's a rejected worshipper

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  62. Lol. Sad little man. I don't read often enough to pick up on the idiosyncracies or character traits, thank you Bunny.

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  63. You two deserve each other. That is clear.
    It is good two shit heads have each other.

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  64. If you are so great, why did you try to commit suicide, Fucktard?

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  65. "Making sense of him, helps me make sense of what made me put up with him so long. "

    That's where you are wrong. Making sense of why you put up with him for so long lies within YOU. It really never had anything to do with him, he just saw a opportunity and took advantage of it. He is not broken, you are.

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  66. Idiot, I hope we can see the day when UKan has a fucked up kid to go along with his fucked up wife ha ha ha

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  67. Maybe broken is the wrong word, but you time is better spent going through your own history and why you fell in love with him rather than trying to understand him.

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  68. I agree. You've got to stop blaming him for your searching for someone to hurt you. You said so yourself that he told you how he would be and then it devastated you. That's your fault, not his.

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  69. Anonymous, you bore me already.

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  70. Ha ha ha. Look at the envy. It makes you angry that we love each other because you failed at relationships. Pathetic

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  71. Fuckhead
    You didn't answer the question. If you are so great, why did you try to commit suicide?

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  72. @KanaMiss 10.45
    Thankyou.

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  73. You are nothing but what ifs and what coulds. Just like in your actual life.

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  74. Fuckhead
    Why does such a wonderful person like you, try to commit suicide.

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  75. Miss Fuckhead won't answer the question? Why is that?

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  76. Jason

    Why would anybody respond to you? Go outside and be normal. Most boys your age are out there in the world trying to motorboat titties and you are here carrying on conversations with yourself.

    Sounds like you are the one who is pathetic and should off himself.

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  77. Mrs Fuckhead does not want to answer the question.
    Why? She is a wonderful, strong woman.
    Is that not so?

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  78. KanaMiss = UKan?

    is this just a character of yours, Ukan? sounds alot like you.

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  79. Mrs Fuckhead is silent. Why would a wonderful person like she not want to share her wonderful life with us?

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  80. Once I showed her how pathetic and worthless jason and lukes life was she suddenly found value in her own.

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  81. Why should anyone respond? Look at you- fucking NO BALLS launching attacks under anon when its apparent how miserable your little life is.

    At least put a name to your shit and ask a semi logical question or launch a half way decent attack. The best you have is Mrs. Fuckhead?

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  82. Why would anyone intelligent answer questions that are obvious hooks. Only you woupd do that. That's why you can't even use your name anymore. Because I embarrassed you so badly.

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  83. Any other questions for me? I'm bored, and I think I'll retire if the only idiot with anything to say is Jason the psycho.

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  84. That is wonderful, Mr Fuckhead.

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  85. Fuckhead
    You did not answer about the suicide. You are a weak bitch, just what you hate in others.
    Fuck yourself

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  86. You still don't get it? HA You are just as fucking thick headed as that ugly retarded bitch Ami.

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  87. Ha ha ha. Did you think that was going to have a effect on her. Look at you bashing your head against the wall over and over. Your just mad that I'm fucking her and not you jason. Your jealous.

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  88. Oh, I'm not blaming him at all. I realize full well the mistakes I made and the part I played in our relationship. I'm not in it any longer because I'm choosing not to participate in the game any more.

    Yes, he told me. But, he was very contradictory. He would change what he wanted moment to moment. He would also act one way and say something else. He would love me and be charming one second and hate me and try to hurt me the next. But, it was never that obvious. He wouldn't come out and say "I hate you stupid bitch." He likes to be "the good guy" or have it seem that he is. He is very, very good at talking in circles so I end up thinking w/out him directly saying it, that I had done something wrong. Soon as I could figure what behavior, or thing I needed to change and changed it, things would be great, calm for a bit of time. Then suddenly, he would change the game again, and it'd be something else. That type of behavior is difficult to make sense of.

    When I saw your post about coping with being married to socio,
    I was making the assumption that all socio like to fuck with their partners head and get enjoyment from watching them squirm. It appears that isn't the case. I doubt you and your husband would have a healthy fulfilling relationship if that were the case.

    @sweetcheeks going through my history is going through his history. He is a big part of my history for a lot of years. We had a symbiotic relationship. I'm going through everything we, both he and I experienced together. Trying to see where I should have been more discerning and what if anything I should have trusted. Why did I trust this/that. What signs was I reading or misreading. What was I being blind to and what should I be more aware of next time. Things like that.

    In going over the past and learning more about what a sociopath is and isn't, I find it very interesting and confusing. I'd like to make sense of it. Plus I enjoy researching, writing and learning. This topic is my current interest and I'll drink in all I can and then move on to another topic.

    Thank you for your responses! I'm enjoying learning from each of you.

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  89. That don't call it a PD for nothing.

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  90. I bet your get the shit beat out of you all the time Jason and that's why you hide out in your house. Hide behind your computer where no one can get you...

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  91. He did. He was the fat nerd in school that got picked on by the other kids.

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  92. It's really such a shame we aren't living in more primitive times. Natural selection at its best would ensure people like Jason wouldn't survive to waste our natural resources.

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  93. Why did Mrs Fucktard try to commit suicide, Mr Fucktard?

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  94. Forget about Jason. If Mrs Fucktard is so great, then let her answer.

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  95. Sigh, what a sad little man. Alright, than I'm off.

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  96. It still works. It just takes more time now a days for them to die. Look at lukes child.

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  97. Come back Mrs. Fuckhead, when you have some truth to tell.
    Your bullshit reeks.

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  98. True! Bahahahaha

    I doubt Jason will ever reproduce

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  99. There goes two Fuckheads who deserve each other.

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  100. At least, those two deviants have each other so no one else has to get them ha ha ha

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  101. Yes we deserve each other. Just like you deserve to be alone.

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  102. She is one fucking gross bitch.
    You wonder who would want UKan. Now, you know. It makes sense.

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  103. There go two mental deviants Rotfl

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  104. It is good to know what would mate with UKan and I mean what lol

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  105. I want to get on to an interesting subject, not fucking UKan and his mental deviant wife.

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  106. Lol. Does it not make sense?

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  107. Yeah you can kiss the ring, but you can never touch the crown
    I smoke a million Swisher blunts and I ain't never coming down

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  108. Fuck this talk about pathetic loser Ukan and his pathetic loser wife.

    Anyone have anything interesting to talk about?

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  109. I know, let's play a game!
    Combination name that anon, and who's the biggest loser?

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  110. Talk about what kind of fucking spawn those two would have. I shudder to think of it.
    You are right, Anon. Lets change the subject.

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  111. I want to get off this subject, too.
    Ukan is the biggest loser on SW.
    Who fucking cares about his stupid loser wife?

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  112. You know what I think is funny...

    all you bitches are talking shit about UKan but you are too fucking weak to even attack him with your name attached to it.

    Do you see the irony in that? It is cheap and cowardly

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  113. ukan and his wife have fourways with medusa and misanthrope lol ukan and mis go 69 on eachother while ukan's wife licks medusa's asshole ha ha

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  114. Go to erins blog. I'm sure you will fit right in.

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  115. Hmm. Sounds pretty Hot. Where are Medusa and Mis when you need them?

    And I found that to be grossly amusing as well, sweetcheeks. It seems to be a spineless time of day.

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  116. You have a retarded wife who is just like you, Ukan.

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  117. "It is cheap and cowardly"

    tats psychopaths for ya

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  118. I see it as they have already been reduced to anons therefore they LOST. Launching attacks under anon just reinforces that.

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  119. That does sound like fun. Mis and I can be the robbers. We can role play

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  120. I am not an Anon. I think Ukan is the worst loser on SW.
    He can take that loser wife and fuck off.

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  121. They are embarrassed to use their name after everything that happened to then here.

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  122. You are a stupid twat, UKan. Shut up, already.

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  123. Lol.
    You're stupid! STUPID STUPID STUPID, and I HATE you!!!!

    Sounds like insults coming from a four year old throwing a tantrum.

    I'm un-phased.

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  124. I want attention guys! Stop givng it to ukan and his wife! Look at me!!

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  125. Mother of Zarquon. Are you trying to sounds as pathetic as possible? You really have no imagination whatsoever, do you Jason? All of your characters, and I use the term loosely, sound exactly the same and all of their names are just one incredibly dull and common name.

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  126. Sam John Bob Frank JasonOctober 18, 2011 at 12:48 PM

    I hate you ukan! You are a fucktard!

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  127. I can see why you all fall to My husband's mischief. Your glaring faults and sense of superiority are begging him to fuck with you. And you don't even know that that's what makes you so easy for him to toy with. I can see how he's ruined all of the anons, even with their anonymity. And the funny thing is you'll all come back here and jump on the next person he takes apart to make you feel better by cutting someone else down. You can't even leave. You're drawn to the pain.

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  128. Lol, "Bunny".

    The two of you certainly seem to share a sense of humour.

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  129. Mrs Fuckhead
    Why did you try to commit suicide when you are such a wonderful person?

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  130. They love being tormented bundle. They come here everyday for the abuse.

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  131. Twat Why won't you have a baby with that pathetic loser?

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  132. Two questions were asked of the Fucktard family.

    Why did Mrs Fucktard try to commit suicide?

    Why won't Mrs Fucktard have a baby with the pathetic loser she calls her husband?

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  133. Don't worry about the Anons, Losers. Answer the questions if you have such a wonderful relationship.

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  134. Why won't Mrs Fucktard have a baby with Mr Fucktard?

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  135. Jason, Erin, Truth etc are all easy targets. Only a retard would stomach their shit. Some people are actually here to learn and those idiots get in the way. Others are here to play.

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  136. Lol. Bunny, I love you. This is almost like seeing your office. I get to see all the people you laugh about. They're even more pathetic in "type". The one you all call Jason is really getting annoying. He's soo broken, it's disgusting to see him type.

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  137. Who cares about this loser and his wife? Lets change the subject.

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  138. I can see that sweetcheeks. You guys can show me the ropes. I don't know enough details to distinguish the idiots, but I can see that they are idiots, at least.

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  139. I will come back when that loser and his wife are gone. Maybe, we can talk about something that matters, not their stupid shit.

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  140. You two are disgusting. This is like that movie natural born killers.

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  141. Honestly, whether you are UKan's wife or just UKan, it doesn't matter to me. This is much more interesting that yesterdays bullshit. Another day of Jason dominating the comments section would have been a waste. He isn't even smart enough to play :(

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  142. I might add that he is way too weak to have an online jizzfest with which is always entertaining.

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  143. Weak, ugly, inexperienced, too creepy...

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  144. I am Ukan's Wife. I've learned a lot from him about how to see people, so we can pick out a lot of the same stuff. Didn't he tell you about that girl we were fucking with? The narcissist Pathological Crazy Bitch we were toying with and calling her on her bullshit? We work well together, we just have a different style. I like to help people to see they're issues (Usually, Jason's just too pathetic) and he likes to fuck with them for his amusement. SO we have a good cop bad cop thing. He pulls out bullshit, and I decipher it. I'm not quite as fucked up as he is, we compliment each other.

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  145. nastycheeks
    You should be shot like a lame horse. You are a fucking disgusting person.

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  146. There's no way it can be me. Some of our cmments are simaltaneous. And I can't spell as good as she.

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  147. Lol. No wonder he thinks I'll grow up to be ugly weak and useless. And everyone will leave me. I'm happy not to ever let myself go that much. I can see why everyone left him. His parents probably don't even love him. I can see why.

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  148. I want a sexy woman who does not act like a whore.

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  149. They probably don't remeber that story. That was before the mass exposures.

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  150. 'Some of our cmments are simaltaneous'

    you could be commenting on a phone, and a computer.......

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  151. Lol. Like that one. I was typing mine while he posted his. I do exist.

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  152. I am going to tell the truth. UKan makes me want to throw up.
    I put up with him because maybe he will make money and then go to prison.
    Then, I can find a good man that I can trust to have a baby with.

    Ukan is trash.

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  153. Seriously, the paranoia is making you stupid.

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  154. He goes into overkill. He flogs a dead horse. He doesn`t stop inflicting pain where a normal person would stop, because what stops a normal person from inflicting pain is empathy, and he hasn`t got any.

    Lack of empathy is extremely terrifying, and completely inhuman. It should not be underestimated. Lack of empathy is THE defining characteristic of a psychopath. It`s not, oh the poor things, they haven`t any empathy, that must be terrible. Lack of empathy turns human beings into machines, monsters or both. Lack of empathy caused the Holocaust, the Pol Pot regime, the brutal wiping out of countless noble and enlightened cultures, child abuse/pornography/murder and almost everything bad you could name in this cesspit of a culture we live in.

    No, I don`t think they are aware that they are destroying someone`s self-esteem or anything else for that matter. I don`t think they view others in any which way except as regards their usability. As long as we`re milkable, they milk us (and get us to work for them) the way an ant does a greenfly. When they no longer need or want to milk us and our usefulness to them is done, they just give us a spray with some lethal pesticide and move on to the next plant.

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  155. Ukan is pure trash. He came from a trash family and acts like it.

    I have to teach him how to act in public.
    It gets old.

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  156. I guess you can believe anything. Doesn't matter to me.

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  157. It gets old to have a man who is trash. He acts like it. I am embarrassed when people see him.

    His family is worse than he is. That is what happens when trash produces trash.

    I don't want to have a baby with trash.

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  158. True, but you forget that it is also lack of empathy that fought the holocaust, gained America the necessary resources for it to be a super power during the Roosevelt era and back door policy, Caused corporations to provide countless amenities to the general population, and spread the Roman empire and civilization as we know it. Lack of empathy is not to evoke sympathy, which it stupidly does. Lack of empathy is another word for capability. Sometimes we need machines, as our global progress depends on it.

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  159. Oh is that my wife? I was so fooled. Keep repeating yourself erin. Your learning disability is apparent.

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  160. "I don't want to have a baby with trash. "

    You did... and he died

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  161. "True, but you forget that it is also lack of empathy that fought the holocaust, gained America the necessary resources for it to be a super power during the Roosevelt era and back door policy, Caused corporations to provide countless amenities to the general population, and spread the Roman empire and civilization as we know it"

    That's empathy, not a lack of.

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  162. You think the roman empire wa spread through empathy? You are a fool and blinded by your own situation. A situation you put yourself in.

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  163. Lol. Damn. She's a cold piece of work.
    So we're onto Erin now. Just because you failed at raising your son because you didn't care about him doesn't mean the rest of the world is doomed to the same failures. My Husband already cares more for my dogs than you ever did for your son, and he's a sociopath. Bet it kills you that he's going to be a better father than the piece of shit trash you procreated with.

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  164. Lack of empathy is not the defining characteristic of sociopaths. It is present in a lot of personality disorders.

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  165. Lol. You think the spread of civilization was on the backs of emotional empathetic generals, leaders, and decision makers? Corporate l;eaders just have so much feeling for the masses that they bring them the joys and riches of life? That's pretty retarded.

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  166. If you think we fought in WW2 because of empathy, then you need to brush up on your history. We got involved because we were attacked and felt threatened. If there was any empathy involved then Germany would have been stopped sooner.

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  167. a burglar breaks into a ladies home and grabs her young daughter, he is raping her in her bed with a knife at her throat. the old lady has a knife in her hand, what is she going to do? she is going to stab the knife into the intruder and try to inflict as much damage as possible. does she lack empathy? of course she doesn't, to her, it's necessary.

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  168. I married the trash man. He came from the trash family.
    I won't have his trash babies, though.

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  169. They were playing both sides as long as they could until CHurchill put together the German ships by putting guns on cargo ships. So the German's shot down a US boat and forced Americans to get involved. It was at a time when both sides were at a standstill and just wearing themselves thin, So CHurchill had to get Americans involved. Up to that point they could've gone either way. And they still didn't get involved until after the election for obvious, and un empathetic reasons

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  170. Why do they even think we aren't going to have kids?

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  171. There was a beginning to that last comment that got deleted while I was typing.

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  172. I love studying WW2. When I was in elementary school and my Grandma was telling me about Hilter, I was amazed at the sheer power that man held. I would lay in bed just thinking about what that kind of power felt like. Even though he died, his name still invokes such a reaction in people.

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  173. UKan is trash. His family was drunken trash. I won't have his trash babies.

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  174. My wife won't have a baby with me.

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  175. They are hoping we don't have kids. They think you will refuse to uave kids with me so that they feel better about their failed family

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  176. Wow, seriously, that's a little too obsessive. Trash trash trashety trash. I know you are but what am I. Quit hittin yourself. These idiot anons seriously sound like they can't be any older than 5. I'm losing patience.

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  177. If I didn't tell you already, erin let her husband molest son. If anyone shouldve not had children it should have been her.

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  178. Just ignore her. She just rants all day saying the same thing over and over like some dribbling muppetin the streets yelling at the sun.

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  179. Well KanaMiss, you are a natual born mother, so I pray you get the chance to be one. This is why I believe your relationship works.

    I'm sure you've been able to experience things that many others haven"t and would not be able to imagine.

    They say things to degrade you because your husband has been degrading to them, but the truth is your a seperate human being who has found what you want in life.

    Someone loving him after all the stuff he slings on here doesn't sit well with their sense of fair play but it's just the internet.

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  180. I love studing the life of Jesus Christ. When I was in elementary school my father was telling me about Jesus, I was amazed at the sheer power that man held. I would lay in bed just thinking about what that kind of power felt like. Even though he died, his name still invokes a reaction in people 2000 years latter.

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  181. Truth

    They can't even provide physical evidence that Jesus ever walked the earth.

    Good try though.

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  182. The only physical "original" copy of the the gospel they found is the size of a credit card from the book of John that was written decades after Jesus was supposedly crucified.

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  183. That is right, Truth. My mother read the Bible to me.

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  184. Nice try sweetcheeks, but anything you say doesn"t make it true and doesn"t mean a thing to me.

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  185. It's fine by me Truth. You will always be controlled by some fictional fairy tale that was created to control the masses.

    I wouldn't be boastful about your ignorance.

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  186. Why do you have such a huge chip on your shoulders?

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  187. I saw your picture. You are a nice looking lady.
    Why are you so nasty to everyone?
    Is it just on SW or every place?

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  188. "Now I know better than to fight him. He reacts as an animal."

    I'm a bit skeptical but If KanaMiss is real(most of it applies anyway): In some ways this sounds like something an abuse victim would say to rationalise the treatment they receive. I don't understand women who knowingly enter relationships with sociopaths. The fact that you know exactly what he is and have found a way to work around all the shit and make the relationship work could easily be considered a strength. But it could also be considered a weakness since alot of women wouldn't put up with it especially after seeing through some of the smokescreens. Mabye its both. Could be a matter of perspective.

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  189. The scrap is refereed to as Rylands Library Papyrus P52. The exact dating is widely disputed, of course, but the rest of your gospel is just a long game of telephone until proved otherwise.

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  190. I was married to a sociopath. I think it is an act of self hatred.
    Misanthrope, I think it is weakness.

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  191. She's talking about knowing better than to play fight with me while we are drunk.

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