Sometimes I feel guilty for it because I know I was gone, being on the stage and trying to figure out what would bring happiness in my life and I was gone way too much. I should have been home more and keeping tabs on things.
I know you were always closed off, like affection. You weren’t ever very affectionate, as far as hugging. You were kind of closed off emotionally. I don’t ever remember you crying. Instead of you being sad, you usually chose to be angry. That was your emotion of choice. It seems like when you got angry, you would just get in someone’s face verbally and then you would try to get that person to have their own emotional explosion. I remember you would try to push dad’s buttons and get him to get really mad. It’s almost like you liked the emotional turmoil of anger and every now and then you would feed into that and make it happen. Then things would calm down, until they would build up again. But I don’t know. Dad was like that too. But it seemed like you and he butted heads a lot. I don't remember you ever being sad or hurt. Even when you were in the hospital with the physical hurt, you weren’t crying or sad. You know, like a normal person would do. Especially girl. You know teenage girls, they would cry over stuff, be hurt or have their feelings hurt. I don’t remember you ever being like that. So you were definitely not the typical teenage girl. I think that’s why you didn’t have a lot of teenage girl friends. Most of your friends were boys, maybe because you related to them a lot more. Boys aren’t very emotional, they’re more thinking.
I think you have a little ADD. It’s hard for you to focus on one thing at a time. You have to be doing like 3 things at once, even in church you’ll be doing multiple things. You can’t focus on one thing at a time, or at least not for very long. But I also think you’re always just thinking about things and wondering about things, so something will catch your interest and you’ll want to explore that. You’re kind of an explorer type of personality; you like to explore new and different things.
In the way that you did far more and went far more than any of the other kids, that was a little bit of a surprise because I don’t think it was anything normal. You were like super child, going out and doing things far beyond what was expected.
I don’t think you’re trying to corrupt people, but I think you like to do things for shock value—just throw things out there and see how they land, see how they would fly. So I think I was a little uncomfortable with your influence over your younger siblings. I think you’re influential. Sometimes I see the whole family bending to what you want to do and I think we have set you or accepted you in that role of figuring out what we want to do or how we are going to do it, and I think we enjoy that. And I don’t think you carry it too far either. I don’t think you’re too pushy about it. But you are definitely a natural born leader. I think that’s what makes you such a good teacher. I think you’re influential because you’re smart and determined and passionate about the things you want to do, and I think people tend to want to follow someone like that. I think the family follows you because we know you’re smart and efficient and you can figure out probably the best way of doing things and you have novel and fun ideas. You’re always full of ideas. And you’re always coming up with good ways of solving problems or making things happen smoothly.
I remember one time when I was super proud of you, singing this particular song I like. That was a proud moment because you were just up there saying I’m my own person, I don’t care what other people do to me, I’m going to live my life the way I want to. And I was just proud of you for that. I don’t think I’ve ever been that way. I’m getting to be more and more that way, but I used to not be. I used to be codependent, trying to manipulate people from the wings but never really voicing my opinion and saying what I wanted, what I needed. I was always kind of in the shadows. That’s why I liked the stage I think, because I could be somebody else, another person. And I was good at it and people thought I was wonderful, so I think that’s why I kind of got addicted to the stage.
I think the book is kind of cool. I see it as another step in your healing and becoming more your own person. Kind of dealing with all of the stuff that’s happened to you and figuring out who you really are. I think the book is part of this process.
