Saturday, October 22, 2011

Top page Google

I mentioned a while ago that if the site got to the first page of google search results for the word "sociopath" then we should celebrate with a question and answer session. I noticed a couple days ago that I was trending around 7th-9th ranked on the first page, but it's not consistent and by the time you read this, it may already be back to page two. Regardless, I thought it would be fun to memorialize this joyous occasion because life is fleeting.

I never reply in comments, but for the next 16-24 hours or so, I will try to reply in a timely manner to anything people want to ask me. I should be reasonably available, but have to bathe, eat, and do a few other things, so be patient if I don't seem to be around--I will get around to responding.

383 comments:

  1. I have just been randomly poking around your blog. I will say it's quite amusing! Very good information and insight. Thank you much for the time you are taking to create this space.

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  2. ah thanks, it's my pleasure.

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  3. I'm CUDDLES.

    This is about my EX. I discovered his lies right away but I didn't know what sociopathy was until recently. It's a difficult concept for an empath to grasp. He lied to me all the time, slept with other women, wanted me, pushed me away, was unkind, pretending to be kind. It was miserable.

    Three questions.

    1. Why did he hurt me on purpose?
    What purpose does HURTING serve?

    2. What's the best way to get revenge on a sociopath?

    3. Would it be really mean if I stay visible, so he thinks about me and gets angry cuz he knows he no longer controls me? Would that piss him off to no end? Or would it be best to just completely disappear? Would that create more madness?

    I hate him.

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  4. ME, what do you, personally, get out of the blog?

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  5. I come here frequently and see so much of what I think is ignorance about sociopaths. But maybe it's not ignorance, but the truth exaggerated?

    My question: What do you thing of so many people coming here teaching that sociopaths are like invincible, infallible machines, who are always calm, rash, and never react to anything?

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  6. cuddles--sometimes people do hurtful things because that's the objective, sometimes they do hurtful things unintentionally (either because they weren't aware that it would hurt someone or they just didn't care if it would hurt someone). if he actually did hurt you on purpose, it was probably a power thing or the same impulse that makes people want to dissolve a pearl in champagne and drink it.

    the best way to get revenge on a sociopath is to move on and no longer care about him.

    out of sight out of mind, but if he ever does remember you and knows he can't access you, that can also be an unpleasant feeling.

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  7. i personally get the opportunity to shape the dialogue on this issue. i like the power, and i like that this blog will live forever influencing the dialogue on this issue forever, the immortality of it.

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  8. ME, you said you were 15% a sociopath. What do you mean by that? Thank you and thank you for being here, today.

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  9. @9:34 I meant rational

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  10. i think the idea of sociopaths is both scary and compelling, so there is bound to be some degree of mythology about them. also people tend to believe things that they personally have had experience with. that means that people who have met a sociopath or are a sociopath expect all sociopaths to look sort of like that. it also means that those that have not met a sociopath may have a difficult time understanding how and to what extent someone could be so different from their own experience of what it means to be human. these biases lead to misinformation (or even disinformation).

    the more i write this blog the more i realize that i had initially greatly underestimated the inherent variety of both the sociopath community and everyone else.

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  11. I'm not interested in addressing the questions to my religion or my understandings of a spiritual battle. Its not only somewhat close enough to crazy to be difficult to explain, but its not anything I intend to address further with people I do not know.
    To me, what's the biggest thing you learned, or the thing you were surprised by the most in creating this blog?

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  12. "the inherent variety of both the sociopath community and everyone else"

    Does that mean you believe now, that there is a broader spectrum when it comes to what qualifies as a sociopath, than psychology has the definition for?

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  13. i didn't say i was 15% sociopath, i said that sociopathy affects about 15% of my life, but with a unique calculation. i could say that it affects all of my life, and that would be true, but certain aspects of my life it doesn't affect that much, e.g. the regularity of my bowel movements. there is probably some connection there, but really very low, something like .001% influence. so take all of those experiences that have low influences of sociopathy multiplied by how often that activity occurs in my life (10 minutes times .001%), add all of the activities that have high influences of sociopathy (e.g. seduction, ~75% sociopath at ~15 minutes on average a day), and i guesstimate that about 15% total of my day is influenced by my sociopathy.

    does that make sense? it is essentially a weighted mean, for those with a statistical background. but as i said, it is also possible to say with accuracy that it influences all aspects of my life, at least a little.

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  14. What are your personal life goals, ME?

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  15. Over the course of time do you find yourself identifying more or less with the classic S/P traits and why?

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  16. @ME

    What do you think of the "regulars" here? Do you sometimes wish you could make them disappear? Or do you just enjoy the chaos no matter what it looks like?

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  17. What are your favorite times at the blog? The blog goes all over the place. What do you like the most, the least?

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  18. This feels like a press conference. :-)

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  19. Missus Kanney--

    ha, regarding the press conference.

    i have learned a lot from the blog. i think if i had to generalize the biggest thing i learned, it is that humans are immensely complicated. it's not really possible to say so and so is x or i did this thing because of y. this was sort of surprising to me because when i first found the label "sociopath" i thought -- finally, answers to all my questions. but then i just had more questions and realized that some of the answers i had found weren't really as useful or accurate as i had thought. now i just try to learn and keep an open mind.

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  20. Oh... today will be one for the books for sure. What a wonderful start to a most pleasant birthday. I will be thinking Hard, of a juicy question to contribute, on this day of SW respect...

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  21. "Does that mean you believe now, that there is a broader spectrum when it comes to what qualifies as a sociopath, than psychology has the definition for?"

    i do believe there is a spectrum, but it is more like the idea that there is a political spectrum (http://www.sociopathworld.com/2009/01/are-libertarians-sociopaths-or-vice.html) in that it is not just a binary concept of sociopathic or not, but that there is a lot more variety influencing who we are and whether and how we manifest sociopathic traits.

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  22. "What are your personal life goals, ME?"

    i don't really have life goals. i live on a two year plan, although i will also cheaply insure certain aspects of my life (i.e. escape hatches), which is why i have fully funded my retirement (who knows, maybe i will live to be that old).

    i am motivated by relatively consistent things, though. my biggest motivation is probably to maximize my happiness from day to day. i'm very self indulgent, it is very difficult to make myself do something that i wouldn't otherwise be inclined to do -- every rare.

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  23. "Over the course of time do you find yourself identifying more or less with the classic S/P traits and why?"

    this is a good question. i think at the beginning i identified more with them than i do now, but really i think my understanding of the traits and how they would apply to me is more nuanced. also, i really am in a better position than i used to be. i used to routinely unwittingly sabotage my life. now i don't, whether because i have learned to avoid certain pitfalls or because i have mellowed out or because life is just easier for me that i don't feel the need to incite violence or stir or revolutionaries, i am not quite sure.

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  24. "What do you think of the "regulars" here? Do you sometimes wish you could make them disappear? Or do you just enjoy the chaos no matter what it looks like?"

    i have only been truly disgusted and annoyed with a regular once. everyone else i appreciate for the color they offer in the comments section, which i do enjoy. sometimes people can be very funny or clever. i like the twitter account because it allows me to highlight some of those (160 character versions).

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  25. @ME
    I personally hate labels but was slightly relieved(?) when I saw the word sociopath. Do you find having this "label" gave you a good foundation to move on from or did it just complicate your life even more?

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  26. "What are your favorite times at the blog? The blog goes all over the place. What do you like the most, the least?"

    favorite topics to write on? or the comments?

    to write on, i like to talk about the ridiculous, either people's ridiculous beliefs or a ridiculous situation or the fact that everyone loves aspies. ha.

    in the comments i like the days that are busy and full of intrigue, i also like the quiet days where people are only commenting on the post topic, and thoughtfully so.

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  27. M.E, do you like cock?

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  28. What did the regular do to disgust you, M.E?

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  29. "I personally hate labels but was slightly relieved(?) when I saw the word sociopath. Do you find having this "label" gave you a good foundation to move on from or did it just complicate your life even more?"

    i didn't really pay attention to the label at first, i just that it was more of a curio. at the time, though, my life was all in order, i seemed destined for success. i didn't start thinking about it more seriously until my life collapsed in on itself many years later and i figured i should probably really figure myself out before i got too old to be starting over every few years. the label helped me to understand and troubleshoot. i do think it complicates things too. sometimes i ask myself, am i being an asshole just because i think that is "who i really am"? that is, is the label somewhat of a self fulfilling prophecy?

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  30. "M.E, do you like cock?" i like how visual they are, this overt sign of sexuality.

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  31. "What did the regular do to disgust you, M.E?"

    not really what anyone does, more just who they are or what they represent. i have a particular aesthetic, and they just happened to offend that aesthetic.

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  32. Eden

    **blowing you a birthday kiss**

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  33. @ME
    I figured as much...and wow yes the starting over gets old. Thank you for all this as I am very new to actively attempting to "figure myself out" and appreciate any data.

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  34. Do you wish the Love Fraud types would stay at Love Fraud?

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  35. Thank you M.E.
    I will say that I am most impressed with your blog success, and hope that it continues on for years to come. It was a genius idea, and I will admit my envy but once. ;)

    Here is my questions while you're on a roll....

    I believe I read not too long ago, that you were hoping this blog would help people see the sociopath, as something more than mainstream media portrays:

    Do you still have this goal in sight?

    Do you believe the sociopaths that come here are helping the public to see just how irresponsible, and bias the mainstream media has been, when it comes to educating the public?

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  36. "Do you wish the Love Fraud types would stay at Love Fraud?"

    the sheer numbers of victims of sociopaths will always be many multiples the number of actual sociopaths. i know from keeping an eye on readership demographics that victims (not surprisingly) make up the majority of the readership, although they tend to be less vocal in the comments section. i don't mind their presence at all, but i think the blog works best when there is a good balance of all types with an emphasis on presenting the sociopath point of view. but i doubt there is any real risk in ever losing that strong sociopath point of view, due to the nature of topics that i choose and the fact that the blog is still relatively unique in offering sociopaths a place to talk openly.

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  37. Do you believe in nature or nurture in the etiology of sociopaths?

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  38. As you say you no longer allow yourself to be pulled to ruin your relationships, so do you ever get jealous when someone comes along and has some fun with those you've been holding back on

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  39. @ME
    Do you think that a need for stimuli detours a sociopath from destructive behavior or feeds it?

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  40. "I believe I read not too long ago, that you were hoping this blog would help people see the sociopath, as something more than mainstream media portrays:

    Do you still have this goal in sight?"

    yes, but i don't even know if i would classify it as a "hope" or "goal" so much as a statistical probability. my unique exposures and interests from my education and employment helped me to understand how knowledge is spread. i recognized sociopathy as being an area of information asymmetry, ripe for exploitation and information arbitrage. of course you can't really predict the success of things, i worried at first whether it might be a little before its time or whether my execution of the concept might not resonate with people. there have been various times when my interest in the project has waned at the same point that general interest seems to have waned, but i always kept it up just to see if things would pick up, and i think they did.

    "Do you believe the sociopaths that come here are helping the public to see just how irresponsible, and bias the mainstream media has been, when it comes to educating the public?"

    doesn't the public already discount mainstream media as being biased? i always have gotten that impression, although maybe a lot of people are actually blind to it. i do think that the interesting aspects of the blog are not even necessarily sociopath specific, but just this idea that as much as we know about the world, we still understand so little. i think it's good for everyone to be reminded of that; it reduces the general hubris of society.

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  41. "Do you believe in nature or nurture in the etiology of sociopaths?"

    both, i don't think there is anything that is exclusively one or the other. and there is the possibility of something else entirely, a soul? parallel universes? :)

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  42. "As you say you no longer allow yourself to be pulled to ruin your relationships, so do you ever get jealous when someone comes along and has some fun with those you've been holding back on"

    if i'm in some sort of relationship with them and i have just been "chaste" in my manipulations, ruining, etc., then i don't get jealous--i see it as an opportunity to direct the manipulations/ruining at a productive target, i.e. the asshole(s) messing with my loved ones.

    if i'm not in some sort of relationship with them, then i wouldn't have the same sense of ownership that would allow me to really care about them either way.

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  43. Can you describe the classifications of high functioning and low functioning sociopaths?

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  44. "Do you think that a need for stimuli detours a sociopath from destructive behavior or feeds it?"

    it can be both. it's not just some amorphous need for stimuli, we have particular needs/wants and a lack of boundaries that put us at odds with certain societal constructs. for instance, i have no desire for monogamy but rather the desire for the opposite. if i'm with someone and not cheating because i don't want to destroy the relationship, i am constantly denying myself something. it would be like a gay person living a straight life. there has to be some sort of outlet/stimulation to replace it or distraction to forget it (gay porn?), even if it is not the taboo act itself (actual gay sex).

    it's why some people abuse drugs, right? they don't address the problem head on, but deal with it obliquely.

    so i guess what i mean is that some of sociopaths' acting out is them actually directly addressing a particular want/need (a variety of partners) and some of it is to distract/replace another need/want obliquely that they can't get met directly (blood lust? pedophilia? etc.).

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  45. "Can you describe the classifications of high functioning and low functioning sociopaths?"

    i think it's generally just shorthand for people whose disorder has a severe negative impact on their life and others who have learned to deal with it and live relatively normal lives.

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  46. Also in case you missed me saying so last night Eden happy b day! It's my friend S's birthday today too :)

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  47. "Are you male or female?"

    i've actually never identified with my gender, although i've learned to appreciate certain aspects of what it means to others. i keep my gender neutral for the blog because i want people to be able to project their own situations onto mine as much as possible, so they will have the maximum degree of relevance to the maximum amount of people.

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  48. M.E, are you loyal to people? If so, is it a superficial loyalty?

    I would say I'm a sociopath myself and I don't hold loyalty to anybody. Are you in the same boat?

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  49. hi M.E.

    been reading your blog for a while, and enjoying it. good content, and i am amazed you manage tokeep churning it out.

    do you have any recommended reading on sociopathy? any author that you feel "got it right"?

    also, it was a long time since you told us a story about things you did / games you play in your real life... can we have some of that please?

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  50. That's smart, me, but way to evade the question man...or woman, I suppose.

    Also, did you ever feel there was a time where the social dynamics of this place got out of hand? And have you ever intervened in the social parts of the blog-for example, as an anon, to stir up the pot? Also, what was your motivation behind the forum?

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  51. @Blue and also sweet...

    Thank you. I Did see that lil Bluebird. Tell your friend I believe we picked a fine date to be born. :D

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  52. "M.E, are you loyal to people? If so, is it a superficial loyalty?

    I would say I'm a sociopath myself and I don't hold loyalty to anybody. Are you in the same boat? "

    i would say that i am loyal to certain people, family and select friends. i don't think it is a sociopathic specific trait to be loyal or not loyal. i think it's partly a choice or a result of what you have been taught to value (acquired taste?), what your relationships are built on (is loyalty the reason why people are friends with you), etc.

    i think that sociopaths who are loyal manifest it in a different way than empaths do. sociopaths can say "i would do anything for you" and really mean it. i don't think empaths ever can, they just have to many restrictions on their behavior, a much narrow view of who they are and what they are capable of.

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  53. I respect your view, but I'm the opposite of you. I use those who are "close" to me.

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  54. @ME
    Hmm. I see your point. I believe my monogamy is what keeps me from total chaos. Keeps me "good" if you will.

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  55. @ ME

    What Regulars have digusted you?

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  56. "do you have any recommended reading on sociopathy? any author that you feel "got it right"?

    also, it was a long time since you told us a story about things you did / games you play in your real life... can we have some of that please?"

    recently i have found that my best information is coming not from books (too dated?) but from recent research. i do think that the psychology world's view of sociopathy is changing directions, so i find that to be the more compelling or accurate information generally.

    it has been a long time, right? there haven't been a lot of one off stories that are quick and easy to tell, for the most part they have been things that have been going on for several months to a year and would be hard to adequately describe in a short blog post. plus while they remain ongoing, it's difficult to have perspective on them, but i will try to distill some of them into blog posts soon.

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  57. M.E, do you think you would be diagnosed as a psychopath, using the pcl-r? Would you score 30 or more? And which psychopathic traits do you notice are most prevalent in yourself?

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  58. Do you have any public figures you respect or consider "role models"? If so, why?

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  59. "Also, did you ever feel there was a time where the social dynamics of this place got out of hand? And have you ever intervened in the social parts of the blog-for example, as an anon, to stir up the pot? Also, what was your motivation behind the forum?"

    i have commented as an anonymous maybe a total of 10 times, 8 of those were probably in the first year and it's been at least a year since i have done it. when i've done it, it has typically been to question someone on some baseless statement that i thought obscured the issue. now i don't care as much because there are enough good data points to drown out the noise. i try not to intervene in other ways...

    the forum was meant to cater to a different audience, the same principle behind price discrimination. i think some people like it better? there is also more freedom of expression there and it can be more efficient for conversations. i guess it's sort of like the twitter account, just another way to reach particular audiences and account for people's different preferences.

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  60. What do you think of Vaknin?

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  61. "What Regulars have digusted you?"

    i found erin to be distasteful, but i also wonder if that's who she is in real life, as in i think she was purposefully being distasteful for whatever reason.

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  62. @me

    I know you said you believe sociopaths can love, but don't you think that the way a sociopath loves is less real or meaningful than the way an empath loves? You are the only one in all of my reading on socios that has said a sociopath can love, so I guess it's odd for me to hear.

    Have you read the psychopath test? There was a fascinating study the author described about a man in the 1960's who tried to cure psychopaths by putting them naked in a "total encounter capsule", strapping them to each other, and giving them high doses of LSD. LOL. Have you heard about that? I think you'd get a kick out of it.

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  63. I disagree with me on that topic. I don't think sociopaths can love. They look at you in terms of superficial means.

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  64. "do you think you would be diagnosed as a psychopath, using the pcl-r? Would you score 30 or more? And which psychopathic traits do you notice are most prevalent in yourself?"

    i would score higher in the personality factors and not high in the case history because i have never, for instance, been on parole nor imprisoned as a juvenile. also i'm so successful that no one would ever say i have a "lack of realistic long term goals" or "failure to accept responsibility for actions." i have never been married so no "many short-term marital relationships." the rest is just guesswork.

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  65. Hello ME.

    Are you pathologically narcissistic like other psychopaths here? do you think you are automatically entitled to certain things? And do you feel you are above the law?

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  66. huh I didn't find erin as distastful as some of the people on here. Annoying as hell, but not disgusting

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  67. "Do you have any public figures you respect or consider "role models"? If so, why?"

    i respect a lot of people for their talents, beauty, intelligence. i admire robert mcnamara. there are a lot of economists i admire for the elegance of their ideas. i don't know if i have role models, per se, but i do like seeing how people have been successful in their fields and trying to adapt my own way of thinking or acting to emulate them, recipe for success, so to speak.

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  68. I have to say it's overall disturbing how we try to box up and bow-tie a particular social disorder. I have found sociopaths (myself included) akin to snowflakes.

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  69. "What do you think of Vaknin?"

    Vaknin is amazing for being a self-aware narcissist (rare). he is pretty eloquent, but also often rambly and sometimes inconsistent. i think he suffers from the idea that all narcissist are essentially like him. he seems overly self assured about himself and his ideas on narcissism, not surprising in a narcissist. i have actually often wondered what he thinks of himself. does his sissy narcissist real self or whatever he calls it loathe how ridiculous he seems to some people? overall positive to neutral feelings for him, though.

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  70. it's like how some sociopaths here think all other sociopaths are like them.

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  71. "I know you said you believe sociopaths can love, but don't you think that the way a sociopath loves is less real or meaningful than the way an empath loves? ..."

    i don't believe in there being conclusive objective definitions for things, particularly for things like love. so much of what we perceive is psychosomatic (sound, color, smell), it's not really accurate to say love exists so much as that the word "love" seems to describe a relatively common perception, just like the word "yellow" does.

    "Have you read the psychopath test? There was a fascinating study the author described about a man in the 1960's who tried to cure psychopaths by putting them naked in a "total encounter capsule", strapping them to each other, and giving them high doses of LSD. LOL. Have you heard about that? I think you'd get a kick out of it."

    I haven't read the book but heard of the study. I do think that sociopaths can learn to be more in tune with things or vice versa, that this is actually a dynamic process happening in their daily lives: http://www.sociopathworld.com/2011/09/desensitized.html

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  72. do you think it's harder to be in the presence of a narcissist, more so than a sociopath?

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  73. "Are you pathologically narcissistic like other psychopaths here? do you think you are automatically entitled to certain things? And do you feel you are above the law?"

    what does it mean to be pathologically narcissistic? i think sociopaths have a childlike mindset in a lot of ways -- they are the center of their own worlds and everyone is there to serve them. i think that mindset can remained largely unchallenged in the minds of lots of sociopaths because there is nothing that is really inconsistent with the view. it's like thinking the sun revolves around the earth. for the most part, for most people, it doesn't matter. having a more nuanced view of reality is only important if you want to sail much further than just the next nearest port. so for most people (sociopaths and empaths), they'll just continue on their path of self delusion happily all of their lives.

    but to answer your question, i hold simultaneously hold the (not entirely consistent) views that i am both god's gift and that i am flawed (to the extent necessary to compensate or accomodate my flaws and still achieve success). i actually think Vaknin is sort of a good example of this as well.

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  74. "do you think it's harder to be in the presence of a narcissist, more so than a sociopath?"

    it must be a matter of personal preference. i can't stand narcissists, but to me it's because they're less predictable. i can predict sociopaths, but then again i understand them enough to do so. narcissists seem to act like normal people most of the time, until they don't and instead do something completely unpredictable and irrational. that, to me, makes them less tolerable.

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  75. @ME
    Ha! But would one not be a "bad" sociopath if being predictable to a fellow recognized sociopath? What fun would that game be O,o

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  76. the sociopaths i have known, have many enemies, from their ill treatment of others. do you have lots of enemies, m.e?

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  77. Unfair question, perhaps, but if you could go back and choose, would you be a sociopath or an empath?

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  78. M.E do you like men or women? If it's women you like then have I got a treat for you...Well, have I?

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  79. "Ha! But would one not be a "bad" sociopath if being predictable to a fellow recognized sociopath? What fun would that game be O,o"

    oh no, i don't mean that i have to identify a sociopath first and then predict them. in public sociopaths act just like empaths, but a very consistent and simplistic. they are the true homoeconomicus, truly and consistently acting in self-interest (which, by the way, is the economics definition of "rational," despite what other sociopaths may say about sociopaths not generally being rational). empaths (and particularly narcissists) do not always act in their self-interest, which makes them less predictable to me.

    actually, i think that predictability of (at least public) behavior is an indicator of sociopathy, at least to me. it's possible to be "too smooth" to be real. i have a friend who remarked to me once that he could tell i wasn't really engaged in conversations with colleagues because i always had to smooth of an exit from the conversation, which indicated that i had been thinking and plotting that whole time to disengage.

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  80. "the sociopaths i have known, have many enemies, from their ill treatment of others. do you have lots of enemies, m.e?"

    how many is lots? i have people who will not ever give me the benefit of the doubt. i have people who admit to spending a good deal of their time and efforts in the activity of denying me things and in otherwise "fucking [me] up." i guess i don't really see these people as enemies, though. in my mind there's nothing personal about it, they can live their lives dedicated to my destruction as much as it pleases them. they're just like an annoying bug to me.

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  81. What did you think when people posted other peoples personal information on the blog and put them in danger, M.E?

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  82. Can you ever see yourself being monogamous, if you found the right person?

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  83. "Unfair question, perhaps, but if you could go back and choose, would you be a sociopath or an empath?"

    it's only unfair in that it is so difficult to say. it's like asking if i would prefer to be a different gender or race or maybe even species. i don't feel like an empath trapped in a sociopaths mind. but i also realize that if there was some real me (like a soul), it's expression is probably being distorted by my brain, just like how people with locked in syndrome have a disconnect between true self and expression of self. i actually wonder more often how i would be different if i was raised to be a feral child, a particularly good example of what i mean by true self (or potential self) being distorted by circumstances or brain chemistry.

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  84. M.E., i like your writing style very much and always enjoy reading your posts. will you write a book some day? are you already published?

    and one more: do you write for a living?

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  85. "M.E do you like men or women? If it's women you like then have I got a treat for you...Well, have I?"

    ha, what is the treat? i like bodies and minds, but i only collect the very best specimens.

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  86. "What did you think when people posted other peoples personal information on the blog and put them in danger, M.E?"

    to my knowledge, people did not post anything that wasn't already public information. a lot of people misunderstand how the internet works and make unfortunate choices, which is partly why i posted the facebook stalker post yesterday. but i guess all of life is a calculated risk, right? airplanes, automobiles, dangerous neighborhoods... i'm a libertarian, which basically means i wash my hands clean of the negative consequences of other people's choices.

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  87. M.E, I'm the best specimen around...The treat is my secret ;)

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  88. "Can you ever see yourself being monogamous, if you found the right person?"

    if i did, it wouldn't be a matter of finding the right person, it would just be a choice. it's impossible for me to really understand committed monogamous relationships because i live only in two year time periods. could i commit to being monogamous for two years? yes, but unfortunately, everyday (maybe even every minute or every second) the two year future time period resets and all bets/commitments are off. but i also don't put a lot of stock in normal people's "commitments" to each other that seem so easily cast aside, so maybe i am actually normal in my reticence.

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  89. @ME
    Ah, indeed. I cringe when people are intuitive enough to see through my facade. It's an underestimation of my opponent that has rarely occurred...

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  90. Greetings, M.E., and congratulations with your position on the rankings! :)

    I wanted to ask you something for a while, but you've been busy just as I have. So why not ask you here... I actually have a couple of questions, so here goes...

    (1). Do you think psychopathy is related to Autism?
    Or do you think it is a form of Autism?

    (2). Do you recognize a difference between psychopathy and Sociopathy?

    (3. If yes to the above, do you believe abuse during childhood and upbringing plays a role in psychopathy and/or in sociopathy?

    (4). If yes to the above, do you think this to be the case for Autism too?

    And a final question:

    (5). Did you get a diagnosis? If yes, how was the assessment done? (Use of the PCL-R, f.x.?)

    Thanks in advance.

    Thank you also for a lot of good articles and interesting info much of which has played an important role in my own journey as a diagnosed psychopath who for the longest time didn't really have a clue about what it meant, even though I've spend years in prison enrolled in a psychopathy research program.

    Professionals and 'victims' can say what they want, I truly believe what you (and I, as well as others like us) are doing is useful to society - and not least to individuals - on many levels!... '^L^,

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  91. "M.E., i like your writing style very much and always enjoy reading your posts. will you write a book some day? are you already published?

    and one more: do you write for a living?"

    this is such a high compliment coming from you. i am published, but i don't think you would recognize my writing style. i've considered a book, but it's hard to know what to write about.

    i actually used to be a terrible writer. in a lot of ways i speak my native tongue as if it were a second language. my writing reflected that for many years, but i did what i always do--looked at what other people were doing and copied them. i still think i even write with an "accent" though, but i think it's one that some people might find charming, which in part blinds them to the manipulation in my writing.

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  92. "(1). Do you think psychopathy is related to Autism?
    Or do you think it is a form of Autism?"

    i actually just replied to your email on this. i think that there are a lot of similarities that suggest they are related. i don't think we really understand the root causes of each, so it could be that they have the same or related causes, or it could be that they just look alike like sharks and dolphins.

    "(2). Do you recognize a difference between psychopathy and Sociopathy?"

    i don't use the terms to mean different things, but i do think there may be subcategories. people also use the terms primary and secondary psychopaths to mean certain things, or i think it is Lykken that has the subtypes. to the extent that these reflect their own continuum of genes/environment and different expression of the traits, i think they are valuable, but they are not consistent or universally accepted so i just stick to the generic terms, used interchangeably.

    "(3. If yes to the above, do you believe abuse during childhood and upbringing plays a role in psychopathy and/or in sociopathy?"

    i think there are environmental factors that can trigger psychopathy or sociopathy. i also think that childhood and upbringing have a big influence in how people learn to deal with manifestations of the disorder, i.e. act out overtly or sneakily.

    "(4). If yes to the above, do you think this to be the case for Autism too?"

    i really don't know that much about autism. i feel like there is a lot of fluff politically correct information out there about it, and because i don't have personal experience with it i don't know what to believe.

    "And a final question:

    (5). Did you get a diagnosis? If yes, how was the assessment done? (Use of the PCL-R, f.x.?)"

    i did get diagnosed. it was based on:

    Clinical Interview (3 hours)
    Psychopathic Personality Inventory-Revised (PPI-R; Lilienfeld & Widows, 2005)
    Revised NEO Personality Inventory (NEO-PI-R; Costa & McCrae, 1992)
    Personality Assessment Inventory (PAI; Morey, 1991/2007)
    Psychopathy Checklist: Screening Version (PCL:SV; Hart, Cox, & Hare, 1995)

    but of course there is a lot of judgment and wiggle room in diagnostic tools, i don't think they ultimately mean that much (or at least are not definitive). it certainly didn't change the way i think about things, i.e. questioning sometimes whether i am or not or forgetting that i am to be rudely brought back to reality.

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  93. Hi M.E.,

    I was wondering what is your native language? Is English your second language?

    Also, do you currently have a crush on anyone? And are you single? ;)

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  94. "I was wondering what is your native language? Is English your second language?"

    i learned english first.

    "Also, do you currently have a crush on anyone? And are you single? ;)"

    ha, i was just asked this last night. i said i was single, although maybe that is not quite true.

    i always have crushes on people and things. there are a lot of things that i find to be delicious.

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  95. What instrument do you play?

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  96. do you crush on anyone here ME?

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  97. Have you ever considered banning anyone from the site, Me? why did you put up with erin for so long?

    Does ukan and mis's disruptive behaviour ever bother you?

    how do you usually feel when people such as luke, zhawq, erin etc etc are supposedly 'exposed'?

    how much longer do you think you'll carry on the blog for?

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  98. Have you ever had an intimate relationship with another sociopath?
    If so, how was it different than an empath?

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  99. if you had a crush on someone here would you email them and try to connect outside of the blog?

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  101. You stated your opinion on narcissists. What is your opinion on other PD's and aspies etc? What signs do you use to recognize narcissists, sociopaths? Not talking about diagnosis, just noticing them in public.

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  102. Who has been your most favourite toy and why?

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  103. @me

    You said similar perception of a thing is all that is required to name a shared experience, such as love. Love is strange. Even in empaths it is merely a chemical infatuation with another human being-the infatuation only lasts a couple months anyway. After that is romantic bonding. When that wears off it is difficult to stay committed, as you said. But if you are able to work through differences with a person, mature adult love comes into play. Two people develop a chemical affinity for one another. Sex with that person is better than sex with others because your body has adapted to that person's body. It is a unique partnership with another.

    Essentially my question to you is what your experience of love is. How does it accord to the psychological model of love? What is different or the same. Have you ever felt that you'd do anything for another? Does infatuation occur and if so, for how long? Do you want to hurt or manipulate those you feel strong attachments or feelings towards? Or is it perhaps a colder sense of ownership?

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  104. Do you ever get an 'itch' you cant scratch, legally? If so, is it frequent or ever the same? Is it ever something you cant figure out?

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  105. I was just reading your sky diving experience. You said that if the video caught you, you would have looked really strange because you had no fear.
    Do these kinds of situations make you feel as if you are alienated from other humans and make you feel sad and longing to have "human feelings"?

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  106. "the sheer numbers of victims of sociopaths will always be many multiples the number of actual sociopaths. i know from keeping an eye on readership demographics that victims (not surprisingly) make up the majority of the readership, although they tend to be less vocal in the comments section. i don't mind their presence at all, but i think the blog works best when there is a good balance of all types with an emphasis on presenting the sociopath point of view. but i doubt there is any real risk in ever losing that strong sociopath point of view, due to the nature of topics that i choose and the fact that the blog is still relatively unique in offering sociopaths a place to talk openly"

    I want to say as a target of a suspected sociopath, that i find this site and the regulars who comment invaluable(i detest lovefraud) I appreciate what you do here.

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  107. "i actually just replied to your email on this."

    Well isn't that the way it goes. It must be in my inbox by now, then. :)


    "i think that there are a lot of similarities that suggest they are related. i don't think we really understand the root causes of each,"

    There obviously are similarities - mainly in how both groups seem to tend towards a slightly more limited range of emotions. Particularly empathy seems to be absent in both groups, though unless I'm misinformed, it seems Autistic people do not lack the ability, they just feel empathy only with a very few people (typically one or more family members).

    But many researchers emphasize lack of remorse even more than lack of empathy, and remorse seems to be an emotion that autistic people do not lack. Still, that doesn't mean our conditions do not have some mutual basic roots.

    "so it could be that they have the same or related causes, or it could be that they just look alike like sharks and dolphins."

    That's a good allegory.


    "i don't use the terms to mean different things, but i do think there may be subcategories. i think they are valuable, but they are not consistent or universally accepted so i just stick to the generic terms, used interchangeably."

    I thought that was the case. And I agree. Personally I apply the definitions I find useful, but of course I make sure to explain why I make the distinctions that I make. On that note, there is some consistency in how the terms are defined by researchers. I think the inconsistencies stem mainly from the popular area of the psychopathy/sociopathy debate. Professionals and "experts" seem to adhere to one category of distinctions (with minor variations), and normative society (the 'victim'-community included) tend to go with a more trendy definition.

    Of course, that's my personal opinion. But I also believe, that in a situation like yours and mine... We both write about sociopathy/psychopathy in an attempt to understand ourselves from new angles and in the context of being part of a minority, and we share what we know with our readers... I personally find it helpful to put words on the details because it makes it easier to conceptualize and communicate. - That said, I certainly see the advantages of how you do it.


    "i think there are environmental factors that can trigger psychopathy or sociopathy."

    I think this is a good example of what I spoke about above. If there are two groups - one which we may call psychopaths and another which we may call sociopaths - then psychopaths is not something you trigger. It will manifest by definition because of the genetic-neurological disposition. Sociopathy would be something you most certainly trigger, since that is part of the definition of this condition.

    "i also think that childhood and upbringing have a big influence in how people learn to deal with manifestations of the disorder, i.e. act out overtly or sneakily."

    I agree. I am certain these factors are important for how our condition comes into expression!
    You use the word 'disorder'. I see us as a neuro-psychological variety.

    Maybe you would answer this Question:

    Why do you think of our condition as a Disorder?

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  108. "What instrument do you play?"

    i play in the rhythm section.

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  109. "do you crush on anyone here ME?"

    not that i remember from anything i have read in the comments. sometimes i take a special interest in people who email me.

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  110. "Have you ever considered banning anyone from the site, Me? why did you put up with erin for so long?"

    banning people takes a lot of time and effort. i don't think it would ever be worth it to me to do that and it sets the wrong tone.

    "Does ukan and mis's disruptive behaviour ever bother you?"

    no, i figure that people are free to read comments or not. in my mind as long as the posts i write are relatively interesting, there will still be a reason for people to come back.

    "how do you usually feel when people such as luke, zhawq, erin etc etc are supposedly 'exposed'?"

    it's always interesting to see who people really are, if they match up with your views of them.

    "how much longer do you think you'll carry on the blog for?"

    in my two year plan, i continue it for at least another year, but that may be revised.

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  111. "Have you ever had an intimate relationship with another sociopath?
    If so, how was it different than an empath?"

    not an intimate relationship, although i am curious.

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  112. "if you had a crush on someone here would you email them and try to connect outside of the blog?"

    i might want to, it would depend on how pervasive and persistent the crush is, and weighed against how creeped out people would be by the invasion of privacy -- not always the best way to start out a seduction.

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  113. "You stated your opinion on narcissists. What is your opinion on other PD's and aspies etc? What signs do you use to recognize narcissists, sociopaths? Not talking about diagnosis, just noticing them in public."

    i don't like narcissists, they get on my nerves. aspies are easily manipulated, but so socially clumsy that it's frequently awkward and unrewarding to interact with them unless there is some specific thing you want from them.

    for narcissists, i recognize them by the way they project in front of them, and ignore the behind. does that make sense? they're like a warm or cold front, constantly pushing in front, but right behind them is an obvious weakness, flaw, inconsistency that they don't even attempt to hide (and actually seem to be unaware of).

    it's hard to recognize other sociopaths unless you pick up on a particular tell (typically one that you yourself do). i think i also naturally give people who are suspect a wide berth, because it's just not worth the risk of me being outted either.

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  114. "Who has been your most favourite toy and why?"

    like a person? i think the context usually has more to do with someone being my favorite or not. love triangles are always more fun than a simple seduction. the more complicated or rare the set up, the more pleasurable it is to me.

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  115. "Essentially my question to you is what your experience of love is. How does it accord to the psychological model of love? What is different or the same. Have you ever felt that you'd do anything for another? Does infatuation occur and if so, for how long? Do you want to hurt or manipulate those you feel strong attachments or feelings towards? Or is it perhaps a colder sense of ownership?"

    well, i think i have experienced the same chemical reactions in the brain of infatuation, that aspect of "being in love" with someone. so i think i'm chemically capable of that. but even there my attachment is more to the feeling in my brain than it is to the person. other types of love are usually gratitude/ownership based. there is a sense of collecting people. i don't typically hurt things that matter to me because i am not typically intentionally self destructive for the sake of destruction.

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  116. "Do you ever get an 'itch' you cant scratch, legally? If so, is it frequent or ever the same? Is it ever something you cant figure out?"

    i have never had an itch that i wasn't able to eventually figure out how to scratch legally or in some roundabout way. it's like having a cast on your leg, right? you want to just scratch normally, but you have to use a coat hangar to reach it. that's as bad as i have gotten, for the most part, in terms of having to be creative. i like to think that i would be zen enough to talk myself out of an itch, if i really had to. everything is in the mind, and all that rot.

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  117. ME

    Why do you fully fund your retirement and why do you invest in "ESCAPE HATCHES".

    Why the focus on survival?

    - Cuddles

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  118. "I was just reading your sky diving experience. You said that if the video caught you, you would have looked really strange because you had no fear.
    Do these kinds of situations make you feel as if you are alienated from other humans and make you feel sad and longing to have "human feelings"?"

    i do sometimes feel strange and out of place. at those times i may think, "what am i doing here?" i think it must be a little bit like how an immigrant feels in his new country -- alien, but not necessarily sad.

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  119. Your description of narcissists is excellent, spot on. However, I have noticed that if you compare the facial expressions of sociopaths and empaths that sociopaths lack movement in the forehead/eyebrow area unless they are obviously faking an expression. Have you noticed anything similar and/or studied facial expressions?

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  120. M.E.:
    "i really don't know that much about autism."

    That makes two of us. So far I don't really understand the concept, but I hope to learn more in the time to come. It interests me, especially because I've seen it come up so often not only here at Sociopath World, but elsewhere in the internet AsPD-Sociopath community.

    "i feel like there is a lot of fluff politically correct information out there about it, and because i don't have personal experience with it i don't know what to believe."

    You take the words right out of my mouth.


    "i did get diagnosed. it was based on:

    Clinical Interview (3 hours)
    Psychopathic Personality Inventory-Revised (PPI-R; Lilienfeld & Widows, 2005)
    Revised NEO Personality Inventory (NEO-PI-R; Costa & McCrae, 1992)
    Personality Assessment Inventory (PAI; Morey, 1991/2007)
    Psychopathy Checklist: Screening Version (PCL:SV; Hart, Cox, & Hare, 1995)

    but of course there is a lot of judgment and wiggle room in diagnostic tools, i don't think they ultimately mean that much (or at least are not definitive).


    I've noticed there is a tendency outside of forensic related situations to use the PCL-SV rather than the PCL-R.

    Question:
    Would you care to tell us what the diagnostic score and conclusion was?


    it certainly didn't change the way i think about things, i.e. questioning sometimes whether i am or not or forgetting that i am to be rudely brought back to reality."

    I like that, and I take it as a sign of sanity. I am the same way - and that's even after three assessments which were only different in scores, not in diagnostic conclusion.
    At the end of the day it's our choice whether or not we will be defined by a label based on a system filled with political, cultural, traditional, religious, etc. values. It's designed to fit a standard, but standards aren't constants, and you can't put personal experience on formula.

    Thanks again.

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  121. "Why do you think of our condition as a Disorder?"

    i don't mean it to have a negative connotation, i just use the lexicon that people refer to it as -- a personality disorder. i do think to the extent it makes our personalities more fluid and unpredictable than others, it is not necessarily a misnomer.

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  122. "Why do you think of our condition as a Disorder?"

    i don't mean it to have a negative connotation, i just use the lexicon that people refer to it as -- a personality disorder. i do think to the extent it makes our personalities more fluid and unpredictable than others, it is not necessarily a misnomer.

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  123. Hi M.E. So I'm curious. Of all your regular posters. Is there anyone(s) that you'd be interested in meeting? Anyone you'd take an interest in for other reasons?

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  124. how many actual sociopaths do you think there are here, M.E.?

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  125. "Why do you fully fund your retirement and why do you invest in "ESCAPE HATCHES".

    Why the focus on survival?"

    my knee jerk reaction is always to survive, even though i harbor a very deep death wish. the worst case scenario would be surviving in a bad situation.

    i do these insurance/retirement aspects because happiness economics suggest (and i have experienced) that when the current you does something nice for the future you and the current you forgets about the initial hit (which happens very naturally for me), that your net happiness is greater.

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  126. "Why do you fully fund your retirement and why do you invest in "ESCAPE HATCHES".

    Why the focus on survival?"

    my knee jerk reaction is always to survive, even though i harbor a very deep death wish. the worst case scenario would be surviving in a bad situation.

    i do these insurance/retirement aspects because happiness economics suggest (and i have experienced) that when the current you does something nice for the future you and the current you forgets about the initial hit (which happens very naturally for me), that your net happiness is greater.

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  127. "Your description of narcissists is excellent, spot on. However, I have noticed that if you compare the facial expressions of sociopaths and empaths that sociopaths lack movement in the forehead/eyebrow area unless they are obviously faking an expression. Have you noticed anything similar and/or studied facial expressions?"

    i haven't really done that much in the way of facial expressions, but it is on my list of things to do before i become a professional poker player. :)

    with that said, forehead/eyebrow expressions seem to be more negative, like fear and consternation. would that explain the difference?

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  128. "Would you care to tell us what the diagnostic score and conclusion was?"

    i scored in the 99th percentile on the personality evaluations. 19 on the pcl:sv, which scores over 18 "offer a strong indication of psychopathy." all together i was deemed consistent with a "prototypical psychopathic personality".

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  129. "Of all your regular posters. Is there anyone(s) that you'd be interested in meeting? Anyone you'd take an interest in for other reasons?"

    i would actually be interested in meeting pretty much everyone. i should do a world tour, eh?

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  130. "how many actual sociopaths do you think there are here, M.E.?"

    like regularly? or as a proportion of readers? it's sometimes hard for me to tell who is and who isn't, unless there are sufficient datapoints and even then you never know. i know of at least 5-10 regulars that seem sociopathic to the extent that i would be very surprised to learn that they weren't (i.e. very small likelihood that they could be faking it so well).

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  131. Do you ever experience the classic "sociopath boredom"? If so, what's that like for you?

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  132. "Do you ever experience the classic "sociopath boredom"? If so, what's that like for you?"

    i don't think sociopaths ever really experience boredom in the sense that they don't just sit around feeling bored, they go out and do something about it, anything to alleviate the feeling. in that sense, sociopaths are more like sharks -- they'd die if they sit still, but that's why you won't see them sitting still. yes there are apparently the parasitical sociopaths, but i think they get their kicks from smaller things, or from the fact that they are everyday gaming the system.

    but i tell people it feels like this -- if i don't feed my brain things constantly, it will start eating itself. as long as i keep up a steady diet of new things, i don't feel the pangs of boredom.

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  133. exactly, they just don't know how to handle it. i'm watching anime right now, there's girls with big tits, entertainment at it's best. somehow the main character manage to - wait, this isn't right, this isn't moral.. what the hell am i doing here!
    i have a conscience! i just never discovered it before.. it's in my pants!

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  134. would a girl believe you if you told her your conscience is in your pants? would they fall for that?

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  135. M.E: Have you ever raped someone?

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  136. "Have you ever raped someone?"

    no. i guess i can imagine what the appeal of rape might be, but i've never experienced it myself. i've always been more interested in seducing people's minds then having license to their bodies anyway.

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  137. what kind of jobs have you had?

    Please describe your personal relationship to "work".

    what your view is about the stereotypical lazy sociopath?

    Do you yourself consider yourself productive?

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  138. Do you find with this blog that people open up to you more than in your life, or do your followers tend to have the same level of devotion with or without the anonymity

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  139. Does your body crave exercise as much as your mind?

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  140. @me

    When havoc goes on in this place-I.e the whole Erin/Luke thing-do you find it amusing, or does it just annoy you that some of the socios here are playing predator instead of contributing insight?

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  141. Do you think there's a Meyers-Briggs personality type that sociopath tend towards?

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  142. If you want to get rid of a romantic interest, do you take the mask off, so they will go away?

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  143. "what kind of jobs have you had?"

    i've had all sorts of jobs. now i am a professional and people's boss. i don't really have a direct supervisor, which is best because i don't work well as a typical employee. the more discretion i have, the better and i have all the discretion i could want.

    "Please describe your personal relationship to "work"."

    i am really excited by ideas, so if my job involves a high degree of creativity (like my current job), i can find it very entertaining.

    "what your view is about the stereotypical lazy sociopath?"

    i would say i am naturally lazy, get motivated by things that lead to more power or use a particular skill in a rewarding way, but i think that's everyone. i think sociopaths just get the bad rap because we're not guilted into doing things solely for a misguided sense of "duty" or because it's "right."

    "Do you yourself consider yourself productive?"

    my job doesn't really require productivity, more exploration and research, which i guess is productive in some ways but there is a de-emphasis on results, which i fully exploit to further my own agendas.

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  144. "Do you find with this blog that people open up to you more than in your life, or do your followers tend to have the same level of devotion with or without the anonymity"

    ha, followers? i think that people that contact me via the blog are generally more desperate than people i encounter in my life. either they're victims trying to figure out what to do, or their sociopaths trying to figure out what to do. a lot of people come on out of curiosity, but generally the ones who are contacting me are being motivated by something more pressing, at least in their minds. because they have a strong need that must be met, they're more willing to disclose things, i think. it's like when you go to the doctor and just lay everything out for him because you're afraid that without full knowledge, you'll get faulty advice.

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  145. @me

    Also-when you are trying to seduce someone, what is your modus oprendi? You don't let on that you're a sociopath I assume. Do you play the ideal romantic? Does it come across to any seductees that you are not normal, or are they fooled by you? Once the seduction is successful, do you grow bored?

    Another question-UKan said socio boy was mirroring me and projecting his self on to me. Do you ever do this to anyone? And, if so, is it an intentional attempt at seduction or an unintentional reaction to their selves?

    And one more question. Do you think a sociopath could go their lives unaware of their sociopathy? Or do you think that it would be impossible to be sociopathic without a requisite amount of self awareness? I knw that you at least attribute a lack of self awareness with narcissisum...but is that exclusive, like sociopathy always comes with self awareness whereas narcissism always comes without it?

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  146. "Does your body crave exercise as much as your mind?"

    with the mind it is a more frequent need, like breathing. the body's cravings for exercise are more like a desire to tidy up around your flat--they aren't as immediate and can be postponed if necessary.

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  147. The majority of sociopaths don't know they are sociopaths, they'd just say they were "cooler header" than most people to rationalize it.

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  148. c'mon now, ME, Do you really feel like a reptile, or are there days you feel like a big ole mammal?

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  149. do you impulsively hurt animals when your angry?

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  150. "When havoc goes on in this place-I.e the whole Erin/Luke thing-do you find it amusing, or does it just annoy you that some of the socios here are playing predator instead of contributing insight?"

    i don't really get annoyed. if people are going on about things that i am not as interested in, i just skim the comments. every day is a new day here, every month a new set of characters, and the readership is always steadily increasing, so i don't really get bent out of shape. i figure that everything is cyclical--interests wax and wane.

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  151. DO you know any sociopaths with a lazy eye, or a low body temperature?

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  152. "Do you think there's a Meyers-Briggs personality type that sociopath tend towards?"

    i always test INTJ. i think most sociopaths would share at least 2 letters in common with that one, but that's not saying much in terms of narrowing things down.

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  153. "If you want to get rid of a romantic interest, do you take the mask off, so they will go away?"

    i have before. typically i never invest fully in relationships, so it is easy to break away. i have never really had a long term relationship.

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  154. Do you drink bottled water or tap? Sparkling?

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  155. Do you like comedy? Do ya have a goddammned sense of humor?

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  156. m.e you don't seem like the domineering manipulative type, it seems like you take other peoples perspectives on things. how does this add up in a relationship? are you a person who will listen to your partner? or will you manipulate them and abuse them into submission?

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  157. Lol. Seriously, anon. Im over this.

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  158. "Also-when you are trying to seduce someone, what is your modus oprendi? You don't let on that you're a sociopath I assume. Do you play the ideal romantic? Does it come across to any seductees that you are not normal, or are they fooled by you? Once the seduction is successful, do you grow bored?"

    if i beat a video game, would i keep playing it over and over again? it would depend on how much i liked the game and how many other different facets i thought were left to explore.

    my seduction style is to let people come to me by being fascinating and witholding--an irresistible enigma. to the extent that disclosing some of my sociopathic tendencies helps that seduction, i might let some slip...

    "Another question-UKan said socio boy was mirroring me and projecting his self on to me. Do you ever do this to anyone? And, if so, is it an intentional attempt at seduction or an unintentional reaction to their selves?"

    both, i'm sure. although most of the times sociopaths are just flirting with/seducing everyone. it's like fishing, the bait is always out there and it's the fish that chooses to get hooked. at least that's my typical experience.

    "And one more question. Do you think a sociopath could go their lives unaware of their sociopathy? Or do you think that it would be impossible to be sociopathic without a requisite amount of self awareness? I knw that you at least attribute a lack of self awareness with narcissisum...but is that exclusive, like sociopathy always comes with self awareness whereas narcissism always comes without it?""

    sociopaths can be unaware of the term sociopath, but i think all sociopaths know they are different, even if they use words like "better" "smarter" or "more powerful" to describe that difference.

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  159. "Do you really feel like a reptile, or are there days you feel like a big ole mammal?"

    well, being cold-blooded doesn't mean that reptiles never get hot, it just means that their temperature is much more dependent on their environment. mammals are different only in their consistent internal temperature, i.e. there are mammals with relatively high blood temperatures and vice versa but they attempt to achieve consistency.

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  160. "do you impulsively hurt animals when your angry?"

    i've never regularly lived around animals. they don't really show up on my radar most of the time, like trees.

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  161. My goodness; I'd never thought I'd live long enough to see the Second Coming! :)

    Anyway, I've got a few questions. Be as vague or specific as you'd like.

    I was going to ask if you'd ever posted as an anon here, but you already answered that, so I'm going to ask: when and in what ways other than commenting have you intervened with the conversations here. Like for example: when you (apparently) emailed Erin/Ami someone (fingerquotes) found out who she was.

    How much traffic does the blog get, on average?

    Why "M.E"? What does it mean (you don't have to be specific, you could just say it's someone's initials or your cat's squeaky toy-brand's initial's or whatever, without actually telling what those initials are)?

    What are you going to do when the blog actually does get first? If you keep doing Q&A's, they'll eventually lose their specialness.

    You seem to like statistics, do you work in the insurance-business?

    Are there any questions you would like to ask people?

    Ehhmm.. That's about it, I guess. Thanks in advance. :)

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  162. "DO you know any sociopaths with a lazy eye, or a low body temperature?"

    my body temperature is always low. i have never met one with a lazy eye.

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  163. can you explain the predatory stare of the sociopath? why do sociopaths have the dead stare?

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  164. "Do you drink bottled water or tap? Sparkling?"

    all three, but typically tap.

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  165. what is the emotional maturity level of a sociopath?

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  166. "Do you like comedy? Do ya have a goddammned sense of humor?"

    i like clever and awkward comedy the best.

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  167. "you don't seem like the domineering manipulative type, it seems like you take other peoples perspectives on things. how does this add up in a relationship? are you a person who will listen to your partner? or will you manipulate them and abuse them into submission?"

    i try to be open minded about things, it helps my mind stay flexible and strong. i would never have any sort of serious relationship with a person whose views i didn't respect (unless it was for the money, i guess). my time is precious to me and i don't waste it listening to idiots. what they do with their time doesn't matter to me, so i don't know why i would manipulate them regularly. to get them to do what?

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  168. "Can you cook?"

    i don't cook so much as "prepare food." but i like to prepare my own food. i don't really trust other people's food, for whatever reason, although of course i'll frequently take the risk.

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  169. What was your major in college? How high of an advanced degree do you have?

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  170. "can you explain the predatory stare of the sociopath? why do sociopaths have the dead stare?"

    no one is home

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  171. @Me

    how old are you? or, if this is too personal, around how old?

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  172. have you ever thought of becoming a serial killer?

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  173. "when and in what ways other than commenting have you intervened with the conversations here. Like for example: when you (apparently) emailed Erin/Ami someone (fingerquotes) found out who she was."

    i try to limit my active participation for legal liability reasons and so i can be seen as neutral switzerland (come bank with me!). i don't stalk people. if someone emails me, i sometimes will do a quick google search of their name if i think something is off, but even that is rare.

    "How much traffic does the blog get, on average?"
    it varies, but right now about 2000 unique viewers daily, twice as many page loads.

    "Why "M.E"? What does it mean (you don't have to be specific, you could just say it's someone's initials or your cat's squeaky toy-brand's initial's or whatever, without actually telling what those initials are)?"

    i didn't choose the initials, the person i originally convinced to set up the blog did. they mean nothing, but now they mean something to me.

    "What are you going to do when the blog actually does get first? If you keep doing Q&A's, they'll eventually lose their specialness."

    i doubt that it would ever be first, it's too young. google algorithms really favor relative age of sites and there are already sites in front of us in line.

    "You seem to like statistics, do you work in the insurance-business?"

    no, but good guess.

    "Are there any questions you would like to ask people?"

    only ones that would solicit compliments to inflate my ego

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  174. "can you explain the predatory stare of the sociopath? why do sociopaths have the dead stare?"

    i actually think it has a lot to do with sociopaths not being afraid of sustained eye contact. normal humans are like gorillas, get offended and peevish if someone sustains eye contact with them, but it doesn't bother sociopaths at all. that and i do think eyes communicate and a lot of sociopaths really are having predatory thoughts.

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  175. "what is the emotional maturity level of a sociopath?"

    it's hard to say. in some ways it is a three year old, but because they seem so unemotionally zen about a lot of things it can also seem like it is a 65 year old. i guess the real answer is that it is apples and oranges.

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  176. @me

    do you read robert greene's stuff?

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  177. "What was your major in college? How high of an advanced degree do you have?"

    i studied music. i have the highest degree.

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  178. "how old are you? or, if this is too personal, around how old?"

    30s

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  179. Music. What's with sociopaths and music. hmm.

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  180. m.e, do you have black moods, or periods when you retreat within yourself?

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  181. Also, anyone that you know in RL read your blog?

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  182. "have you ever thought of becoming a serial killer?"

    i have thought about killing people, but didn't necessarily dream/imagine it as being a one after the other pattern sort of thing.

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  183. Are you Caucasion?

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  184. "do you read robert greene's stuff?"

    i do. i think his stuff is the best out there pretty much, but that isn't as high as a compliment as it could be.

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  185. "do you have black moods, or periods when you retreat within yourself?"

    yes. the more time i spend around people, the more likely i will be put into a black mood. if i'm by myself, i just entertain myself very happily.

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  186. "Are you Caucasion?"

    primarily.

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  187. yes. the more time i spend around people, the more likely i will be put into a black mood. if i'm by myself, i just entertain myself very happily.

    socio boy is just like that too, actually

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  188. "Also, anyone that you know in RL read your blog?"

    several people know about it, but they already hear me talk about myself enough in real life that they don't much interest in closely following the blog, if at all.

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  189. i thought the socio-stare had something to do with limbic system.

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  190. "socio boy is just like that too, actually"

    ME TOO

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  191. I don't know, it's not depression because there isn't any deep sorrow. It's like you want to sit around and do nothing, your mind just wanders.

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  192. When you feel emotionally vulnerable what does your face do?

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  193. Do you go to therapy, and if so, have you found it useful? Do you have a preference for a type of therapy?

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  194. "When you feel emotionally vulnerable what does your face do?"

    is this question for me? i don't know if i understand. when i feel a sudden flight or fight startle, i feel tension around my temples.

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  195. do you like to intimidate weak people?

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  196. "Do you go to therapy, and if so, have you found it useful? Do you have a preference for a type of therapy?"

    i have gone to therapy, i didn't find it useful. i am very smart. i have found it more useful to talk to very smart friends who i can't easily outwit.

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