Thursday, April 19, 2018

Sociopath son kills his sister

One day a thirteen year old boy wakes up having the urge to kill someone. He settles on killing his three year old half sister because she is the easiest prey. He had plans to also kill his mother (perhaps out or revenge for when she relapsed on a heroin addiction for a year and during which, according to him, she put her addiction ahead of him and his sister), but decided against it when he discovered how difficult killing turned out to be.

The mother of the sociopath son (he was too young to be diagnosed, but his examining psychologists said he would qualify if he had been 18 when they met with him) talks about what it is like to continue to love and interact with him, albeit while he is in prison.


In a NY Post article interview her, she details what had happened:

A prison rights activist, she keeps Ella’s memory alive while frequently visiting her now-24-year-old son in jail. He is serving a 40-year sentence (the maximum in Texas for a juvenile for murder) and will be eligible for parole in 2027.

“I have forgiven Paris for what he did, but it’s an ongoing process,” explains Lee. “If he was free [from captivity], I would be frightened of him.

“The fact that he is incarcerated gives me peace of mind, but I worry about his own safety.”
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After his sentencing, an assessor told Lee she deserved to know that her son was a sociopath. Psychiatrists whom she hired when Paris was 15 agreed that, had he been 18 and old enough ​to qualify ​for the label, they would have diagnosed him as having anti-social personality disorder​ (sociopath​y​)​.​ He confessed to having had homicidal thoughts since the age of 8, often expressing them through violent and disturbing drawings.​
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While Lee describes him as “manipulative” and “narcissistic,” she is quick to explain how her maternal instinct means she puts her love for her son above her anger.

“I sometimes have to say to myself [during visits]: ‘Okay, Charity, take a breath, you know how Paris is wired,’ ” she says. “But I am not going to be that parent who abandons their kid.”

She also talks about how since she had her third child she has wondered what she would do if her murderer son was allowed to meet the toddler (he's prohibited from having visitors under age 17 due to the nature of his crime).

Of course few sociopaths are murderers or ever feel a desire to kill like this. But having both sociopathy and for whatever reason a desire to kill or pretty bad rage and impulse control issues does seem like a danger.  Still I think it interesting that perhaps the person most victimized by this crime apart from the small child is an advocate prison rights. In visiting all of these bad places in my recent travels (more on the Gulags and Auschwitz later) and learning of the ways that everyone reacted regarding these -- prisoners, guards, government, passive people allowing it to happen, families of victims -- I find that I am across the board most impressed the most by people who didn't allow their circumstances to dictate how they behaved. I don't mean to say that I judge the rest, because who knows their circumstances, their heart, or how they were "wired" or shaped by early socialization. But if I were to aspire to a certain way of being, it would be to treat people consistently with the same amount of compassion regardless of who they are or what they've done. I have forgotten where I heard this, but I like it -- we treat people according to who we are, not according to who they are. 

22 comments:

  1. we treat people according to who we are, not according to who they are.

    Worth remembering.

    A similar phrase I have liked for a while now: we do not see the world as it is but as we are.

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  2. Member when people used to come here and post "first" if they were thd first to leave a comment? Hey is We Need to Talk About Kevin based on this story?

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  3. I think Kuklinski was 13 when he made his first kill...13 must be the magic number.

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  4. A hamster in a fairytale suddenly felt an urge to bite the hand that fed it, hard. It had to do with its reading of too many Marquis de sade novels. Another deeply sociopathic hamster in the same cage quietly munched on its food. "What idiot would annoy such a good provider?" it wondered..

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  5. "Destruction, hence, like creation, is one of Nature's mandates."-Marquis de Sade

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  6. Everyone has to make that choice whether they will be the man or the animal.

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  7. Has anyone heard of autistic "stone killers"? Do media often mention asperger lust-murders? If media found such a case, I guess most would find it VERY STRANGE to claim that an introspective mental condition suddenly caused such extroverted mayhem, that this was the basic reason why the culprit did what he did?

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  8. hmm no never heard of that. Do you have a link? Trying to imagine my clients being killers lol. I worked with this one who was in his teens who was very bright and articulate, but had a lot of really strange, quirky behaviors. Despite his disability, he had a really twisted, morbid sense of humor talkin about dead babies and what not. It always made me laugh. Still can't imagine him being a killer though.

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  9. Did anyone else think it was the mom that had the more fascinating story in this situation? Apparently her dad was a drug dealer, and her mom was the brains behind the business ultimately deciding how it was run, and created a facade to appear like it was a legitamate business. She lived a wealthy lifestyle, then her ice queen mom had her dad killed. Then her son killed her other kid. Kind of an interesting story.

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  10. https://blend.minq.com/lifestyle/1745891/siblings-of-sociopaths-reveal-their-messed-up-childhood?utm_campaign=mq-fbk-m-us-342d90b0&utm_content=24&utm_source=fbk&utm_term=mq-fbk-m-us-342d90b0.cq2fwz4a#page=1

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  11. "we treat people according to who we are, not according to who they are"
    both actually...

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  12. What music/song "mirrors" the feeling of psychopathy..?

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  13. Chase and Status: Let You Go

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  14. Does the song David by The Radio Dept. have some special meaning for a socio?

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  15. yes, David by The Radio Dept is the opening song to the secret Socio-News briefing we receive every morning from the ministry of Sociopath.

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    1. Perhaps even more introverted stuff than the Baker jazz? Almost like if it has hidden itself inside, far away from streets and ugly houses. Some sort of hazy secret..

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    2. Can´t Be Guilty (also by The Radio Dept) may interest passive, docile socios due to its atmosphere of enclosed isolation. Space. Void. Internal bubble.

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    3. How bout NIN?

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  16. Growing up I never felt love like everybody else does I felt pleasure and satisfaction...my mother died last year and I didn’t feel any different...ig that’s when I started to realize that I am sociopath...I’ve always known I’m a lil different from the others, they were always to attached to worthless things and saw value in objects while I saw value in experiences and pleasure...I can’t be the only one like this emotionally unattached and driven by pleasure

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  17. Do sociopaths have a history of addiction or jail/prison time? Are they capable of real love, shame, guilt and remorse and do those feelings last?

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  18. I have BPD with sociopathic traits.I think the only real difference is that those with BPD can choose to love.. or to destroy,and we will if provoked.I can “split’ from my feelings and be completely cold,whereas sociopaths have no real feelings at all.

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