Tuesday, April 18, 2017

Resconstructing ourselves

A reader gives an update on the child with reactive attachment disorder (RAD) who was featured in the documentary, Child of Rage, discussed previously on this blog here. I always avoid using her name, but you can read the details on the link (and it's always a little shocking to me that they used her name in the "documentary" featuring her, a minor, in what seems a pretty exploitative way, showing her actual therapy tapes? How did her parents allow this?).

There is a happy ending! She recovers from the reactive attachment disorder in a big way and becomes a happy and contributing member of society. The link for the update on her life is here. The quick summary is she is a nurse, she seems to still have a good relationship with her family, and she seems like just a normal person living a normal life.

As I was looking for the documentary I stumbled upon some other child mental disorder documentaries that seemed just a little less exploitative, and then finally a clip of a "news" show interviewing a young, attractive teacher that got busted for sexual relations with a 14 year old student. She was saying that it was a mistake and she had done it because of a troubled past, including mental illness, but scrolling through the comments -- every single person continued to vilify her. Out of the millions of views, not a single one would accept her apology, either as being sincere or as her being capable of change or worthy of forgiveness.

I know that the urge to ostracize and shame others runs deep in humanity's evolutionary past, but (and I've said this literally dozens of times before, including the penultimate post) society's willingness to let self-righteous feelings to dominate their rational capacity and/or empathy to continue to persecute people for something that they did or said in the past... I just struggle to understand why it's still such a problem, and one that is rarely discussed as such. As much as you hear about anti-bullying campaigns, there seems to be an unspoken understanding amongst most people that bullying is absolutely ok if the person you're bullying is a bad person. I hear even intelligent people whom I respect defend the shaming and the shameless poor treatment of their fellow humans for real or imagined wrongs. What society does with its social undesirables is basically one step away from tattooing them with their convict number and hounding and persecuting them through the rest of their lives.


But I sometimes think, what if we talked about more examples of recovery and more stories of people being dynamic and capable of change, maybe we could educate the evolutionary impulse a little so it's not so prone to mob mentality and see our fellow humans a little more accurately -- people that weren't really the same person decades ago and won't really be the same decades from now. Like NPR's Invisibilia piece on the myth of the static personality featuring the story of Dan, a rapist turned good guy: "I'm forever going to be a criminal," he says, "which I'm not. I've become a completely different human being at this point." "I have to atone for my crime. But I realize now I'm just paying for someone else's debt. The person who committed the crime no longer exists." How can we adjust the way we deal with people who we don't want to associate with (for whatever reason) so there can still be an appropriate level of accountability or precautionary measures while also more accurately reflecting the dynamic nature of who humans are?

"Maybe we're not thinking right about who we are and what we could be," says Walter Mischel [author of the famed marshmallow study]. "People can use their wonderful brains to think differently about situations," Milgram says. "To reframe them. To reconstruct them. To even reconstruct themselves."

(The Invisibilia piece oddly excepts sociopaths from this ability to change, assuming the myth of sociopathy to be incurable without questioning it as most do. But baby steps.)

97 comments:

  1. "I have to atone for my crime. But I realize now I'm just paying for someone else's debt. The person who committed the crime no longer exists."

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    The person still exists. That they atone for and in the present and future do not repeat the same crime is the litmus test. If others choose to forgive and accept , that is their choice. As it is also when not. To demand or expect that to be other and based on the severity and potential for long term/ permanent damage to another, is entitlement. That was forgone when the crime was committed.

    "People can use their wonderful brains to think differently about situations,"
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    That brain should have been operational at the time the crime was committed, not after the fact. Consequences whether they be through societal pressure or guilt or what have you, are the result of crimes when they laws are enforced.

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    1. Exactly. Not only does that person still exists but the crime still exists. Energy that someone puts out into the world doesn't simply evaporate because someone changes their hairdo or commands others to move on.

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  2. This is an interesting one, M.E.

    My first thought is that **-* also doesn't perceive the gravity of sexual offences (especially against minors) the way others do. The feeling for us is of deep revulsion; that one could steal another's innocence, take advantage of someone in so profound a way fills us with the strongest sense of mistrust and impulse to ostracise to protect our young.

    The risk is too great; it's wise to err on the side of caution. The damage such a person causes - I refer to the life of my ex-husband as an example... it may be a Type II error but that still seems the wisest course.

    Change is possible... but it's a very difficult road. We would absolutely need to see evidence - and extended bodies of it - before it would make any sense to offer such an offender a place in society.

    This is not to say the person shouldn't be regarded with mercy and care. They absolutely should be offered support in a safe environment to heal from their own wounds.

    But being wounded gives you no free pass to hurt others. If you have offended, the burden is on you to demonstrate your capacity to uphold the social contract. If you can't, well, ostracisation is the inevitable and appropriate result.

    M.E., I really do like your suggestion here:

    "How can we adjust the way we deal with people who we don't want to associate with (for whatever reason) so there can still be an appropriate level of accountability or precautionary measures while also more accurately reflecting the dynamic nature of who humans are?"

    In time, I think our understanding of the human condition, neuroplasticity, how to thrive will improve to the point we can facilitate organic change. In the meantime, yes, the focus should be on precaution and mercy. We can regard each other as fully human and the more we do this, the greater our capacity and resilience as a species.

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    1. “In time, I think our understanding of the human condition, neuroplasticity, how to thrive will improve to the point we can facilitate organic change.”

      Darko demonstrates how cortical investigations rapidly transform, descending into the bluestocking purgatories of our personalities, prior to vigilantly sauntering like perambulators on their challenging yarn or ruffage. The sound slab goes haywire, yet it maintains an atmosphere of organic tones, blended deeply into a chamber of whitenoise. Nerve endings resuscitate, as Darko crosses the flaring rivers of neuroplasticity.

      Is this, possibly, what orgasmic neurons look like inside a cryo chamber?https://cryochamber.bandcamp.com/album/neuroplasticity

      “The risk is too great; it's wise to err on the side of caution. The damage such a person causes - I refer to the life of my ex-husband as an example... it may be a Type II error but that still seems the wisest course.”

      While many messengers or “texters” derive a certain satisfaction from breaking linguistic or organic rules, they almost always know they need to be understood. The reason I’ve shared this story is to take that step of breaking down that stigma or tight rope attached to… that vase.…
      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eVF4kebiks4

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    2. “My first thought is that **-* also doesn't perceive the gravity of sexual offences (especially against minors) the way others do. The feeling for us is of deep revulsion; that one could steal another's innocence, take advantage of someone in so profound a way fills us with the strongest sense of mistrust and impulse to ostracise to protect our young.”

      Coo Coo! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1XHhGvVWQ_w

      “Change is possible... but it's a very difficult road. We would absolutely need to see evidence - and extended bodies of it - before it would make any sense to offer such an offender a place in society.”

      Certainement... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RISdWAMU8WE

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    3. “My first thought is that **-* also doesn't perceive the gravity of sexual offences (especially against minors) the way others do. The feeling for us is of deep revulsion; that one could steal another's innocence, take advantage of someone in so profound a way fills us with the strongest sense of mistrust and impulse to ostracise to protect our young.”

      North, As a "minor" at heart, that is, since I am an adult, I have this message for you. By the way, this is the same Anon at 6:09 a.m. And, no, this particular message is not meant in a humorous way, which you are having a hard time understanding.

      https://media.giphy.com/media/kb8eOLLGkYtOg/giphy.gif

      There is so much malice in your message. In order to write such a false accusation, you must hate **-* quite a lot.

      Great thoughts and message, M.E.: “One day, you will feel a joy in having resisted the temptation to hate"

      I hope North learns from it. "We teach people how to treat us."

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    4. I don't respond to you because you are abstruse and expect people to copy-paste links in order to understand you.

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    5. My first thought is that **-* also doesn't perceive the gravity of sexual offences (especially against minors) the way others do.
      _____________
      It is not a question of perception or emotion. Simply one of fact, the research and observation of the outcomes. If they are offending, they know exactly what they are doing. It is not a question of their concern about the impact on the child. Is it?
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      The feeling for us is of deep revulsion; that one could steal another's innocence, take advantage of someone in so profound a way fills us with the strongest sense of mistrust and impulse to ostracise to protect our young.
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      It is more simple than that. It is about revulsion for the mindset. Not about morals or ethics. The sheer ignorance and pathetic act of self gratification at the expense of the young of one's own species. Often times, their own offspring.

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    6. Just to be clear, **-* is not offending. He's my boyfriend. I was comparing his tone on the subject with M.E.'s and contrasting it to my own.

      My ex-husband suffered child abuse and the legacy continues to impact him. It impacted me and obviously our children. Child abuse is abhorrent, as discussed.

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    7. “Ah, gentlemen, good morning. What do you have for me today?” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z20dhgfP9VA

      The brief answer: A gala. “I always had a repulsive need to be something more than human. I felt very puny as a human. I thought, 'Fuck that. I want to be a superhuman’.” Aladdin

      An artist’s inoffensive journey on foot around the world can fulfill an appetite for inspiration.

      “Just to be clear, **-* is not offending. He's my boyfriend.”

      North seems to be describing a strange specimen. Does he, conceivably, talk backwards?https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eeOE4BQPHxk

      Come to think of it, Does he have another side that sounds more like this illustrious example?http://www.dailymotion.com/video/xqrk9d_the-painted-veil-clip-proposal_shortfilms

      Why doesn’t he have three heads, though? If you could, or if you can picture him before you in this very moment, which head would you slap? Oh, the outrage. Yes, it would require some assessment… and more shut-eye.

      The long answer: Ooof! https://hips.hearstapps.com/hbz.h-cdn.co/assets/16/18/1462172047-02-rihana-met-gala-pizza-fablefeed-exclusive-800x600.jpg

      I am seeking proper support for my unauthorized - yet curiously fading - memories or memoirs, which I am writing. Hopefully, my work will sell in such colossal numbers that I will be able to finance the film version in which I play four heads. I will write you waning flashes of ingots, I will whirl you Valentine twilights... True, there are no gratis stappen to heaven.

      I think that I can say curiouser in every language.

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    8. "Come to think of it, Does he have ---"

      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HXCOoKYIPU4

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    9. Papa?

      https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/originals/ae/7d/4f/ae7d4ff0a829cd6456c5232113814cad.png

      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HXCOoKYIPU4

      http://68.media.tumblr.com/57d19720eb17bc886530a58382e27ced/tumblr_n16020I9O51r8a09mo2_250.gif

      Why don't I have three heads? Why?

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    10. Oops, wrong link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HXCOoKYIPU4

      "True, there are no gratis stappen to heaven."

      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=31POsJIAXsY

      https://68.media.tumblr.com/34c03b861b9eb614e14e1bbf016909f5/tumblr_n16020I9O51r8a09mo5_250.gif

      No, non è facile...

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  3. I've heard sociopaths speak here about the narcissistic parents who terrorized them as a child. This also occurs with nons. But I wonder do we ever believe those people have really changed? I think nons sometimes do but I think sociopaths are able to recognize that they are incapable of real change. Nons tend to get caught in the cycle of abuse where socios tend to learn to control or attempt to control that cycle. I guess sociopaths have to ask themselves do they forgive the person who abused them?

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    1. To understand is to understand the depth of abuse it takes to create a sociopath/psychopath. They are not deserving of forgiveness in that it is somewhat like forgiving a demon.There is no point, the demon does not care if you forgive it, you are nothing to it. For the malignant narcissist children are but an extension of themselves, they are property to do with as the narc wills, victim and toy. There is no point to forgiving them, in thier mind they can do nothing wrong. You can heal and move on though. I understand that my mother was what she was. My father her blind general. Do I forgive them. Should the world forgive them for creating me? :) In a way yes I do but that is just my nature.

      We must look at the definition of forgiveness to understand
      for·give
      fərˈɡiv/Submit
      verb
      stop feeling angry or resentful toward (someone) for an offense, flaw, or mistake.
      "I don't think I'll ever forgive David for the way he treated her"
      synonyms: pardon, excuse, exonerate, absolve; More
      stop feeling angry or resentful toward someone for (an offense, flaw, or mistake).
      "they are not going to pat my head and say all is forgiven"
      cancel (a debt).
      "he proposed that their debts should be forgiven"

      As a psychopath I moved past the anger yes. My question though to anon is would you forgive someone who tried to kill you on multiple occasions? Who tortured you daily? Who killed your pets? Who pimped you out at five? I forgive in the way that I no longer feel anger about it, but then I don't really feel anything now do I?

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    2. Funny I'm seeing someone who is a sociopath and he claims both parents are narcissistic. His parents are very wealthy but he said were never around emotionally and were very much into themselves he also said after he built his house his father went out and has a house built twice the size of his and asked him.." well what do you think" my guy said he was pissed and he talks as if he can't stand his parents lol so In his case there is no forgiveness on his part

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  4. And yes entitlement is a huge part of it. It is bigger than forgiveness. Its easier to forgive than to let go of your entitlement. You feel you have earned it. Abuse gives you a huge sense of entitlement. That is what is so hard to overcome.

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  5. Sociopaths -and nons-must deconstruct themselves before they can reconstruct themselves. To sociopaths it's all about moving forward and somehow it *is* in fact static. It is the changing of the outward with no understanding. A character of the last person you had been close to. The cycles remain the same. Deconstruction is the only way to take inventory of what you are made of.

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    1. In no way shape or manner does that suggest that either side of the equation be forced to tolerate the bullshit of the other. But in your statement, that is inherent to the premise. Might work better if the labels are dropped. The error is putting into a box what you do not understand. And that works both ways.

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  6. "As much as you hear about anti-bullying campaigns, there seems to be an unspoken understanding amongst most people that bullying is absolutely ok if the person you're bullying is a bad person." - your inability to grasp that concept pretty much sums up sociopathy.

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    1. Our inability to grasp this concept does indeed sum up sociopathy. As people who can change themselves completely in an instant we don't grasp how norms are so unable to change even a little about what and who they are. Personality to us has always been an illusion we reweave our past and present to meet our needs. That the rest of humanity is static is foreign to our minds. This is the core of our inability to understand this. However ME has a good point here aside from our (to you) skewed worldview.

      The idea that it is OK to vilify certain people in society we see as "evil" has led to many of the worst things that is wrong with society right now. It stems from the fact that humanity is tribally driven. Therefore whatever is outside the tribal norm is "evil" thus you get slut shaming of rape victims, you get racism, you get homophobia, you get fat shaming etc.. The idea that as long as victim DESERVES the abuse, and the majority rules who deserves it make no mistake, then the abusers can feel better about themselves by vilifying the person they are abusing. Just watch Jerry Springer for examples of how this works. What ME is saying is that there should be a better way than mob rule. That when we except that abusing a person is OK if society deems that person evil then we are on the slippery slope because society is always the majority and that leads to very bad outcomes sometimes. Like genocide. Look now to the Soviet union and what is happening to homosexual men there. That is end result of this mentality. In many European countries criminals are actually rehabilitated humanely and rarely reoffend. Perhaps a kinder model should be adopted. In the case of child sexual abuse though we should always keep the safety of children above the rights of the abuser. They always say they are sorry, they could not hep themselves, they are really the victim. They are most often lying.

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  7. She was saying that it was a mistake and she had done it because of a troubled past, including mental illness, but scrolling through the comments -- every single person continued to vilify her.

    Maybe she was just saying that because she thought people would buy it.

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  8. I just struggle to understand why it's still such a problem, and one that is rarely discussed as such.

    It makes most people feel superior when they ostracize and shame others.

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  9. It's Easter so here's a video of a Japanese mascot playing the drums:

    https://twitter.com/ak1225_062708/status/837911468142030848


    I wonder if M.E. can play blast beats.

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  10. I think forgiveness is just a lie, it doesn't actually exist anywhere, not in heaven nor in nature not for anything or anyone.

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  11. Forgiveness, is IMO, only for the first offense and no repeats. If it repeats, then lack of forgiveness is for the second and anything thereafter. Which is reasonable.
    Nature may not forgive, but humans have the capacity to reason. Whether or not a person chooses to forgive, may or may not benefit the offender.

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    1. Mercy for le Lapin de Pâques déshonoré? What is this, une conspiration colossale? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NjJNSrQNbww

      Euh, forgiveness? Allons-y! C'est une proposition indécente.... https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8xmEylzBBxY

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  12. Mercy is extremely important. I see sociopaths as unsophisticated children and I must show them mercy. That unseen child is humanity. Humanity that has been held hostage in the most insidious way.

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    1. Mercy and forgiveness is between them and their God or lack of one. Neither you nor I are qualified to make that decision for another.

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  13. Manipulation is always selfish risk transfer.

    The pattern is constraint of choice through deliberate strategies regarding information disclosure. It completely disrespects the other's right to preferences and thus freedom.

    Manipulation seeks fulfilment of one's own immediate desires; accepting the risk of backlash as preferable to the risk of non-fulfilment. Coupled with strategies to deny the indignation of the other (blame avoidance), the manipulator rolls on, accumulating resentment rather than seeking to enrich relationship.

    And it makes perfect sense because the manipulator doesn't seek relationship. They can't ever trust the other party will consider their needs and preferences when making choices. They can't conceive the other would nourish the common ground so both can thrive.

    I think the only way - if one wants to continue a relationship with such a person - is to offer them safety. Safety and not anger. They may not accept it because it requires them to trust, which might be a bridge too far.

    I do think, though, that one should allow oneself to feel that anger in a safe and personal space. This is what teaches us own own boundaries of what we will accept and what we won't. It's an opportunity for someone like myself - who has never before done it - to step into deeper self awareness and acceptance. That anger is coming from a place of self worth that says "I expect to be regarded."

    From this place, we have full choice of self-expression and the learning is in how to respond more effectively to achieve certain goals.

    We teach people how to treat us.

    I called my mother on her manipulative behaviours this week. And her diminishing behaviours.

    It's like with my children, showing them the unproductive patterns don't work and being clear on expected behaviours. It's very slow going, very difficult for all of us, but they are slowly learning.

    With **-*, I don't know. I think he only feels safe in being elusive.

    For me, I can only keep growing at whatever pace I am capable of.

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    1. North, Do you understand humour?

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    2. I have the same question for North.

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  14. Forgiveness, is IMO, only for the first offense and no repeats. If it repeats, then lack of forgiveness is for the second and anything thereafter. Which is reasonable.
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  16. "...But I realize now I'm just paying for someone else's debt. The person who committed the crime no longer exists."

    If you put it that way, I think this would relate to a lot of us sociopaths and ASPD victims. When you go to a certain ends to manipulate someone, often I see myself changing into a completely different person until my fun is over with.

    In that sense, the person whom has crushed all those in her wake is now completely dead and gone. All my sins are justifiably washed away now.

    I'm ready for my trip to heaven.

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    1. "When you go to a certain ends to manipulate someone, often I see myself changing into a completely different person until my fun is over with."

      No, not fun. And, no, manipulation had nothing to do with it. Some people do things for a cause.

      Clearly.

      https://i.ytimg.com/vi/qzQtN0TbvBo/hqdefault.jpg

      http://24.media.tumblr.com/522c0fc7a347e1f7dadad450e6c3fb72/tumblr_mj9ox1CFd91r0uztqo3_500.gif

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    2. Except, she's not completely dead and gone, is she?

      She'll resurrect. That is her super-power.

      Whether you become a super-hero, or a super-villain, is entirely up to you.

      Choose wisely. ;)

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    3. A, it's time to grow up now.

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    4. Truth be told, I have always been partial to resurrection accounts. One of them, http://saffron-sugar.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/02/tumblr_okx89qBCDk1qzhvd4o2_1280.png, has been the subject of some controversy, I believe.

      Anon, George was authentic in saying, “We don't stop playing because we grow old; we grow old because we stop playing.”
      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hxJ9Wr7Kx5A

      …at heart, that is. Well, I have a natural tendency to be so, which I like in others as well.

      https://lh6.googleusercontent.com/-s5TOOe8JnnY/U2umhi8XwHI/AAAAAAABUOQ/tVbS7eWO4-k/w605-h889-no/CCF08052014_0007.jpg

      Significantly, we grow old when we cease loving and being young at crux. https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/originals/a7/9d/ef/a79def197835b9249a30951e536fcd7a.jpg

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    5. Good to see there's a new Mouse leaving a trail of tiny shit in the threads again.
      Always good to have an argumentalist with the literary skills of a thalidomide retarded deaf dumb and blind kid.
      Though I'm sure your pinball skills are somewhat limited by the appendage shortage.
      Let me guess Anon E Mouse, wrong?
      By all means, strutt you confident thang on here, but have something to say, or if you haven't, at least try and have a bit of personality, you've pretty much single handedly wiped this site out, I mean...where the fuck is Vegas even?!
      North has a sense of humour just fine, but you've squashed the fun element and now no one wants to know.
      Pretty soon you'll be completely free to message yourself on here, all kinds of anonymously.

      A, you round?

      Hey Vegas ;)

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    6. What a pretentious fag.

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    7. Way'd a prove me all kinds of wrong mulch mind.
      You should be careful with that acid tongue of yours, you're nasty, hurtful, mean and, and, and...
      Pretentious? Moi?!
      Nasty.
      But a fag? You got it going on young 'un. Outstanding work.
      I can see you struggle with the concept on here, but chipping in 'wrong' at the end of peoples post, ain't much use sweetheart, have you considered 'I know you are, but what am I?'
      And seriously, where the fuck is Vegas?!
      Was it you Mouse? Did you bury Vegas? I miss Vegas. In fairness to your immensely limited intelligence Mousey, the thread numbers have dwindled with the lack of Vegas' inane cheeriness...but I'm blaming you for that for having the paint drying charm to make even her seek greener pastures.
      She'll be back.
      Hopefully you won't.
      I see even the poison leprechaun isn't making an appearance (or is it you Nose Twitcher?! Though that's giving your spasticated retorts a bit much credit), though there might be a potato faminine on I'm unaware of.

      North...sounds like progress, I like that you can see and appreciate these otherwise seemingly somewhat small, gestures I guess, from him.

      Mouse, fuck off.
      Or just tell me I'm wrong, but don't forget my whiskered chum, I know you are, but what am I?

      Hey Vegas ;)

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    8. What's the matter, twist a hemorrhoid while you were trying to be funny?

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    9. ¯\_ (ツ) _/¯

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    10. "Grow up"?

      Why? So I can flail around in a sea of stale coffee, debt, and mediocrity, like you?

      Nah.

      Super-heroes aren't born of resignation and apathy, ya know.

      You have to be willing to risk and fail in order to succeed. Cue the resurrection.

      Dream big and aim high.

      You've got nothing to lose- except maybe a bit of face. Which is only an issue for those crippled by self-doubt and insecurity, masquerading as false pride.

      ¯\_ (ツ) _/¯










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    11. I never knew that stale coffee, debt and mediocrity went together like that, you seem to know more about it than I do.

      Also, superheroes are just suckers who work for free.

      ¯\_ (ツ) _/¯

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    12. Ouu. Sassy and clever. Have we met?

      I know what people fear. I also understand how fears can become self-fulfilling prophecies. Do you?

      Also, superheroes are just suckers who work for free

      ..Or charismatic, gifted bastards who accumulate perks, privileges and power.

      It all depends upon how you view a thing.

      What turned you into such a dull pragmatist?


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    13. When will you stop being a dumb child.

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    14. “In fairness to your immensely limited intelligence Mousey, the thread numbers have dwindled with the lack of Vegas' inane cheeriness...
      Always good to have an argumentalist with the literary skills of a thalidomide retarded deaf dumb and blind kid.”

      Flaccid, bitter and covetous critics have written similar comments about the literary skills and intelligence of Hans Christian Andersen or Roald Dahl, but what did they know? Gump. Forrest Gump.

      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VuMT3DPpq-A

      “Though I'm sure your pinball skills are somewhat limited by the appendage shortage.”

      - “They seem both fascinated and envious of this. I think its strange because i am very self concious.”

      Envious? And, really, you have never seen its length. Funny you should say so, but I have experienced times when its atypical size has made me feel self-conscious. Oh, the infinite struggles of its continuous growth and sprightly sway!

      “It doesnt matter if i am booed off the stage or if i recieve a standing ovation.” - “By all means, strutt you confident thang on here, but have something to say, or if you haven't, at least try and have a bit of personality”

      I don’t understand. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dCud8H7z7vU

      “North has a sense of humour just fine, but you've squashed the fun element and now no one wants to know.”

      You can never be A, North or their equal. Charles Baudelaire originated a perfect moment in time when he said “the beautiful is always bizarre” – both A and North, I believe.

      “I see even the poison leprechaun isn't making an appearance (or is it you Nose Twitcher?! Though that's giving your spasticated retorts a bit much credit), though there might be a potato faminine on I'm unaware of.”

      Again, you cannot mimic A or North, but as the poisonous leprechaun in this charade, you have, undeniably, made your appearance.

      http://akns-images.eonline.com/eol_images/Entire_Site/2014217/rs_320x240-140317102406-leprechaun-cleans-dirty-shoes-o.gif

      “No, not so fast, Swop.” My answer is still “No. You cannot clean my shoes, so cease begging so insistently.”

      http://akns-images.eonline.com/eol_images/Entire_Site/2014217/rs_630x354-140317102356-af451f9a-5b9e-40fe-a7a3-176941045870_2Jennifer-Aniston-in-Leprechaun-tickle-la-gear.gif

      “What a pretentious fag."

      I see. Anonymous/You called me a pretentious fag, but then you turned around in your ongoing sham and wrongfully accused me of it. Coming from an insufferable, odious homophobe like you, I cannot say that I am surprised. In order to make a profit, you would say anything and everything that crosses your mind. Vile denigrations and venomous slurs! Yes, you are all about business and nothing more.

      Swop, “You should be careful with that acid tongue of yours, you're nasty, hurtful, mean and, and, and...”

      https://nypdecider.files.wordpress.com/2015/03/leprechaun-fuckyouluckycharms-2.gif?w=618&h=347

      "...you've pretty much single handedly wiped this site out, I mean..."

      You’re doing the same thing here as you did with the ugly “pretentious fag” comment. You are misplacing the blame, when, in fact, you are the culprit. It is quite obvious to me, and I believe that others can see the truth as well.

      Your mind works like a sham. This sounds like your post: “riss‏ @RissRosado, saying “/retweets till ze dies"

      “Mouse, fuck off.
      Or just tell me I'm wrong, but don't forget my whiskered chum, I know you are, but what am I?”

      https://33.media.tumblr.com/6f39b092a616b5c3969442c985468b27/tumblr_nd2cql8Pka1tdo66yo1_500.gif

      Your “whiskered chum?”

      Mark my words, you cannot use me, my moniker or my comments as a channel to stupidly prick A, Vegas or North. I am impenetrable, you... hateful leech. I can see you, the real you.

      Old, bitter... oleaginous heart.

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    15. SWop you always make me laugh. WEtch i dont know what the hell...and anon when i read your wrong post i hear some man screaming it. I think its from a sketch or something. And thats funny. And ive said it before and ill say it again i know you are but what am i.

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    16. WEtch, um, what the fuck? Do you proof read at all? Can I suggest you start perhaps? I may be the only one confused by your tirade, but I doubt it. Make some sense dear, there's a good lad.
      I've picked out a few bits I can comprehend..thank god for all the pointless YouTube links...but even they are ridiculously non sensical, but let's have a look see...
      The lack of appendages was a Pinball Wizard gag (that's a song, by The Who by the way Walnut Brain), but its quite telling that you've taken it in reference to a small penis quote aimed your way.
      Defensive? Much?
      I do pity you though sweetcheeks, living with a tiny man muscle can't be easy, its fair enough to fall back on nonsense and YouTube, when the real world is so...short coming for you.
      Try shouting at kids in the street, bit of real life interaction for you, and the possibility of arguing with someone less hung than yourself. Though that's doubtful.
      Steal your moniker? I'm good thanks, anyone who knows me by now on here hopefully knows that I'm more than full of myself enough to take credit for what I say (bollocks as 90% of it may be, but its my bollocks...and plenty big 'uns too midget knackers) without trying to pass myself off as some drivelling shit slinger.
      I'm quite flattered to be accused of imitating A, but again, the good folk on here have seen me cross swords with A enough times to know there is a difference (A is good at this shit, and clever, I just like calling you names...small willy).
      You seem quite set on the fact that I troll here imitating others, but no, I'm quite comfortable being my well hung self thankyou.
      Though I may well imitate A actually, as chances are, he has a bigger one than me between his Yeti thighs.
      But again, doubtful.
      Wrong! Sorry Mouse, just saving you the keyboard time.
      Have fun finding as many irrelevant YouTube links as you can in your effort to come back at me, just remember anon@3:05s words dearest, I know you are...come on, you can do it...I know you are, but...what am I?! Goooood boy (hey anon, loving your work).
      And no, it wasn't me with ze 'ze' comments, but please, keep trying.

      Hey Vegas ;)

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    17. ...and I whole heartedly apologise to the geniuses Hans Christian and Mr Dahl...I had no idea you had no arms and legs.
      Excellent writing skills considering.
      No wonder I covet thine ox.

      Hey Vegas ;)

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    18. On the topic, I've been working with a fellow who looks like the BFG. I'm pretty sure he's a sociopath. Describes himself as a maverick, operates by way of surprise. Very interesting person, most people think he's quite strange. He told one of the partners - to stir the pot - that a new manager was an animal and would be scratching out his territory (ie infringing on ours) "We're all animals," he says.

      Most people think this is a bizarre way of talking. I, of course, think he's quite correct.

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    19. “This has been an interesting exercise in perception and well... After a little nap, I ended up interpreting his response as…”

      Swop or an “LOTR/The Hobbit” orc… What’s the difference, really? Simply Swop the orc's words below, and you have the right answer, keeping in mind that both accounts are fictitious - both Swop's and that of the orc. Needless to say, my own meanings in this specific context must not become a fundamentalist's feast.

      So, without engaging in said feast when contemplating this case, the orc represents odium. In other words, when I read “LOTR” or “The Hobbit,” or when I spot and analyze stories from the Bible, I do not favor or choose their literal interpretations. Following this train of thought, when Thranduil decapitates the orc in this particular scene, I do not think of it as a literal beheading of an orc. Thranduil seeks to expel the claws of acrid hate, mockery, derisive hissing and mordant destruction. Again, similar to the Bible, J.R.R. Tolkien meant “LOTR” and “The Hobbit” to be read on more than one level. Yet again, it is fiction.

      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h318jKI9uC0

      Tolkien was also an impassioned linguist, and certainly not one to be taken literally.

      I hope this explanation helps, Tauriel. :) And, of course, another elucidating nap.

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    20. "There was nothing more the orc could tell me."

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  17. Their need to have emotions and a self kills again.

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  18. Me: I'm glad I met you

    Him: Yes. You're right

    #intimacywithasociopath

    He doesn't respond when I say I love him. I was surprised he responded to this. Those who know the story will understand what I said was significant.

    It's been more than 12 months since things restarted. Fancy that.

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  19. It looks like we http://www.revelationfilmfest.org/client_assets/images/film-archive-images/original/LOVE%20WITCH%20still%202.jpg
    …don’t have an overabundance of gen for the self, but we can disseminate the following: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VAT_wm9pGZk

    Currently reading: However, since the above is quite brief and effortless, let's envisage them also having a dialogue atop the theme of "Neuroscience and Buddhism: A match made in heaven?": http://themindfulevolution.com/science-and-buddhism-agree-there-is-no-you-there/

    My harvested thought for today: Creating captivating footprints, or photographs, in any one year is a good crop.

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  20. I read your book. As long as a gene of sociopathy is not being discovered or a malformation of the brain which generates sociopathy, I would opine that your condition is relational, generated by the first human interactions at a very early age. The sense of morality, the emotional morality, what you call "godly sorrow", is not genetically determined. It is a pattern of emotional reactions habituated at an early age through human contact, which repeats itself for the rest of your life. Mother rewards good behaviour and punishes bad behaviour. The reward and punishment is more often psychological, experienced in sensible way. Mother is pleased, mother is upset. The girl is good, the girl is bad etc. Also, women mostly use more psychological means to punish than physical: inspiring shame, guilt etc.
    In your case, taking in consideration some strange behaviour of your parents towards their children, which you describe, resembling neglect, I would say that you experienced neglect at a very early age, manifested in lack of emotional interaction. Practically, your lack of empathy is a result of lack of empathy showed to you by your mother/your parents. You do not manifest what you didn't receive/learn to manifest at a very early age.
    There's a book by a Swedish horror writer, John Ajvide Lindqvist, called "Little Star". A man finds a suckling buried in the woods, wrapped in a plastic foil. He saves the baby which develops into this strange little girl. Of course, being a horror novel, murder happens. But at one moment, the character, stabbing herself, expresses her torment, crying for the first time in her life: I DON'T FEEL ANYTHING. I believe the intuition of the writer is correct. The trauma experienced in the beginning of her life shutdown her entire emotional system, possibly as a defence mechanism.
    The fact that you developed into a sociopath instead of a criminal psychopath is determined by a difference in degree regarding the "trauma" suffered in your very early childhood.

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  21. In the theater of masks, he whose mask cracks first loses.


    twitter.com/IllimitableMan/status/856673016637509632

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    1. Is this about vulnerability?

      The Terror of a 'No'
      "What we are trying to do is avoid hearing something quite different: that we’re disgusting. "

      What is the true end? What are the opportunities we miss?

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    2. I think we all want to be around someone who is childlike. They bring this out in us and it can be so nice. But i do think there is a huge difference between childlike and childish.....childish and devious- well then you just get that kid from the omen. That kid was all business.

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    3. MY sibling, who i believe is a sociopath, is always talking about how i dont care what others think, how i do my own thing. They seem both fascinated and envious of this. I think its strange because i am very self concious. It doesnt matter if i am booed off the stage or if i recieve a standing ovation. I wonder if they are seeing something im not. I wonder if they are amazed that i continue to have my own thoughts and ideas despite the fact that i am very self concious.

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    4. hey anon, why should they envy you, because you don't care what others think? or be fascinated or amazed because of this. you are not the only one who has his own thoughts and doesn't care what others think. you are also not the only one who is self concious. actually i think it's quite stupid to do not care at all (about what people think). "It doesnt matter if i am booed off the stage or if i recieve a standing ovation." citicism (if it is constructive) should be seen as opportunity to improve or overthink one's actions/ideas etc...

      alice

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    5. My post is a response to the link north posted about the fear of no. I get this but with me i there is also something like a longing to be invisible. This is something that i believe has to do with growing up with a sociopath sibling and being a sort of reflection of them.

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    1. North hello. I read your post before you took it down. I guess to a sociopath saying you care is tge oldest stick in the book. But you might ask him what he considers negative about your motives(control) and what he considers positive. And about the laughing? I dont know!!! WOW!!!

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    2. Hey anon,

      Thanks, that sounds like a very practical question :)

      I didn't even really mean 'care' - I meant that I am invested in the relationship. Eh.

      About the laughing - your post reminded me that I've heard him laugh like that in another situation. It was at the end of our affair and he was in the emergency department, very ill. I went with a colleague and his wife was there. After a while he started giggling in this same hysterical way. His wife was embarrassed and said it was the medication but I could tell he was emotional.

      I afterwards thought he was revelling in the situation but he told me the other week he laughed out of nervousness.

      The giggle is nervousness?

      He did ask me once if I was faking. I asked him to stop laughing because it's very offputting while having an orgasm, very rude. And he did stop after that.

      But maybe it was the condom thing (we used an old condom I had lying around from before his time and it seemed to disturb him, even though there was no new information there.)

      Strangest of creatures. I was having like the longest orgasm ever and he thinks I'm sleeping around and trying to control him.

      I do think part of him knows I don't have bad intentions. He's offline now so who knows when he'll reappear but your question, anon, seems a sensible one to talk about with him.

      I mean I get rushes of flooding fear sometimes around intimacy. I should allow his and be patient, I guess.

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    3. “Just to be clear, **-* is not offending. He's my boyfriend. I was comparing his tone on the subject with M.E.'s and contrasting it to my own.”

      You have created a wholly one-of-a-kind relationship with this man. It is elucidating to discover that you do not perceive his thinking or behavior as offensive. Your comparing and contrasting is full of purpose, threading into a realm of thought-provoking observations. He lives his life in a fantastically peculiar way.

      “I afterwards thought he was revelling in the situation but he told me the other week he laughed out of nervousness.”

      Honestly, I do not imagine him reveling in the situation. You are on the right track, and asking your questions is a notable course. Some plans come with visionary, albeit trustworthy, intentions. I, for one, have never suspected or feared the word visionary or magical, and placing the two in the same sentence does not involve any trace of uneasiness. It can carry a different meaning for each one of us. In fact, that is where I feel most at home.

      “Strangest of creatures. I was having like the longest orgasm ever and he thinks I'm sleeping around and trying to control him.

      I do think part of him knows I don't have bad intentions. He's offline now so who knows when he'll reappear but your question, anon, seems a sensible one to talk about with him.

      I mean I get rushes of flooding fear sometimes around intimacy. I should allow his and be patient, I guess.”

      How would he respond to you after watching this relation or account, North? As though you were inside his head, are you able to predict his reaction?

      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7mJt2L2tuF8

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    4. "He lives his life in a fantastically peculiar way.
      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7mJt2L2tuF8"

      "How would he respond to you after watching this relation or account, North? As though you were inside his head, are you able to predict his reaction? "

      When I say to him je suis de votre cote, he cannot believe me.

      I can only predict - on the basis that he is hypersensitive to threat and doesn't believe me - that:

      - he might return when he has developed a plan for re-establishing advantage, which, in the past has meant talking about threesomes or online dating. Or hinting he has been with other women but not actually speaking the lie. He will want to de-stabilise me.

      - I think if he's really anxious, he will try to fuck someone else... but this would be a very big overhead for him and I think that would only happen if an easy opportunity arose and he really was anxious.

      - If he does decide to trust me a little bit more... not 100% unlikely... he will want his particular extreme fantasy*.

      - if he decides that's enough with the intimacy and risk, he will go cold and will either:
      * be an ultimate nuisance until I leave, or
      * he'll just cut me off.

      I think he will be hypersensitive in any case.

      I really don't know which way he'll go because there have been these little improvements in intimacy which disrupts my predictive ability. I don't know if it's too much for him or whether he's treating it as another growth opportunity.

      He usually goes offline until at least Friday, usually Sunday or Monday, so I won't have any further data until potentially Monday or even Tuesday. Definitely data by Tuesday. Until then, I can focus on myself.

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      "I, for one, have never suspected or feared the word visionary or magical, and placing the two in the same sentence does not involve any trace of uneasiness. It can carry a different meaning for each one of us. In fact, that is where I feel most at home. "

      What is the appeal for you? For me, the appeal of ambiguity is the possibility for creation.


      * BTW @anon: I had a question about these extreme fantasies. Do you think they ask for them in part because it's something unique they would have with us, something they would have and no one else? He says things along those lines. I think, perhaps, there are times when he can be taken literally.

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    5. Results just in: somewhere between 1 and 4. I'm not responding for the moment.

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    6. I feel more and more that innocence,for lack of a better word, is something very hard to lose. It is a quality that is deeply imprinted, despite what we know or dont know about the world.i feel the sociopath was completely intoxicated by my innocence and in that way it is unique. i think they do *know* that we dont have bad intentions. I read something today written by a sociopath that helped me to understand this a little clearer-there is a difference between knowing and trusting.

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    7. Hhmmm, I see. Yes, that's a useful distinction to call out.

      Is it something along these lines you were calling out with the anecdote about your sister?

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    8. Looking back i believe they didnt want to let me go but they felt they were loosing control. I feel talking about others was a bit of a warning to me-to fall in line or else. And also to make me feel"less than" as they say. All of this, of course, went over my head.

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    9. That's how it played out the first time around for me too. He said once he wanted me to feel jealous... my response was typically "go to the red light district then"

      I think I've grown up a bit, lol. But as you kinda say, it's all very unexpected behaviour. I had no idea how to deal with it.

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    10. Yes, they were into some kinky stuff. And i like kinky stuff as much as the next anon....but i didnt like the almost cult like religous fervor that surrounded them. Everything was just this long drawn out thing to make one completely brain dead- or so it seemed to me. I was living in the lovely technicolor dreamworld and was awoken by chants of "join us." that wasnt what i signed on for. At all. In a strange way i can relate with what *_** said about "you just want to control me." i think i made the same statement. Its all so strange...

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    11. Wow, that does sound odd. The first time around, during our affair, he did plan things out, but it was more like theatre. The seduction was like a creative masterpiece that he wanted to perfect. He wanted me to respond to it and on the days I didn't, he would actually say it disappointed him.

      These days it's more direct. He doesn't create those "scenarios" anymore. And sometimes, as predicted by Cirk, he offers me the chance to express my ideas (I honestly don't have many and from experience, it's definitely more effective to wait for the offer. Several mini disasters when I didn't give him warning.)

      This has been an interesting exercise in perception and well, a leap of faith. After a little nap, I ended up interpreting his response as more along the lines of him actually trusting me a bit more. He explained what had "triggered", but he did do it in a way that felt like he was trying to box me in. But when I woke, the idea was already in my mind to treat what he was saying at face value. I asked him what practical things I could do to put him more at ease.

      > (that was an interesting exercise WEtch, thanks for prompting it. It might otherwise have taken me a few more days to reach equilibrium and see things clearly.)

      What I find most interesting is that both my fears and his fears have remained the same over time. I am afraid he will leave and he is afraid I will try to control him. Neither of these fears is based on the behaviour of the other. He didn't leave me; I left him. I've never tried to limit his freedom or control his behaviour. This is how the classic avoidant / anxious* pairing plays out.

      I think it's a much more helpful lens to put on my relationship at least. It's just that psychopaths, operating from a completely different social paradigm, do really, really unexpected things to ensure their safety by secure advantage. And to not "lose". Being in a safe, strong position is more important to them than connection - which is so odd to us, because we feel that connection is what puts us in a strong position. Typically:

      - Timing is a key lever. Key. It's about surprise, sleight of hand, the purpose of which is to constrain the other party's choice

      - Misinformation. Again, this is about choice constraint. I think we can view any sort of lying by anyone in this way, but it's of particular importance to psychopaths. Misinformation is a tactic to keep their position hidden. They don't think about it as a moral or unfair thing... that's what they need to do in order to protect themselves.

      - Elusivity. Must have an escape route. All the time.

      Tons of stuff that everyone knows about.

      I'm not saying they necessarily feel these are the reasons they do things. I wouldn't have a clue what they experience. It just seems to marry up this way and has been a much more useful framework for me.

      So that's why I don't view him as contemptible. It's a different way of operating. Maybe it's very difficult for a psychopath to understand that they can be genuinely liked. But I do like him really quite a lot.

      *it's an oversimplification. We can each be both anxious and avoidant at different times.

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    12. North your first paragraph is so familiar. They went so far as to say they wanted everything to be perfect. I found it sweet but strange. Also i know you dont mean to control him. I mean relate in that i felt that. I'm not sure where it came from exactly. There had been some talk of control. And i always found it to be a little off. And yes i agree we find safety in connection and that connection is made poasible thru trust. The whole thing about sociopaths knowing something to be true but still not trusting it- choosing to not trust it has been a bit of an epiphany for me. I feel so much was meant to prepare me to accept things about them. But so much of what made me like them was who i thought they were. And i do accept who they are but it just changed things..

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    13. “This has been an interesting exercise in perception and well, a leap of faith. After a little nap, I ended up interpreting his response as more along the lines of him actually trusting me a bit more. He explained what had "triggered",

      What I find most interesting is that both my fears and his fears have remained the same over time. I am afraid he will leave and he is afraid I will try to control him. Neither of these fears is based on the behaviour of the other. He didn't leave me; I left him. I've never tried to limit his freedom or control his behaviour. This is how the classic avoidant / anxious* pairing plays out.”

      Your interpretation is definitely plausible, North, having been taken to that defining point or realization upon the aftermath of his trigger. Your insightful construal or presentation of what had actually occurred is quite impressive in my eyes.

      You most likely left after he had been deeply triggered by something that affected his thinking at that particular point in time. He did not mean to react as he did, and yet, it happened. You experienced fear or confusion as a result of that unfortunate juncture, and, consequently, decided to leave. His words or behavior seemed uncharacteristic to you, having been used to seeing and experiencing him in only one specific way. The absence of predictability in that moment, coupled with the intensity of his triggered reaction, had made you feel fearful and confounded. Once he rationally transcended the event, I am quite sure that he gained insight from it and shifted his behavior. On the whole, I intuit that he would do so for you, North, and… only you, since you seem to be so adept in interpreting his communications and atypical behavior.

      In all likelihood, he does not want to leave, either. Based on your exchanges, it is evident that he also likes you quite a lot. The interchange is mutual.

      “But as you kinda say, it's all very unexpected behaviour. I had no idea how to deal with it.”

      Believe me when I tell you that not many people do, and yet, you are on the right track, developing a number of exceptional interpretations. There is something rather atypical about you as well, since you comprehend his peculiar ways. Placing and finding yourself inside his mind does not come with great difficulty.

      Do you really believe that he does not seek a connection? I think he does, but all of it must come with trust and some type of mutual familiarity in his world.

      “What is the appeal for you? For me, the appeal of ambiguity is the possibility for creation.”

      The appeal for me is creating something that has not been done before, and that is what I desire from a liaison or a relationship as well. What else appeals to me? I like discerning and hearing that a partner is willing to do one thing every day that scares him. There is much attraction for me in that, deriving considerable strength, stimulus and breathtaking inspiration from it.

      “I had a question about these extreme fantasies. Do you think they ask for them in part because it's something unique they would have with us, something they would have and no one else?”

      Yes, that is the unique factor, I believe. It can only transpire and materialize with one person, since it must be one-of-a-kind. If you do not give up on something you truly believe in, you will find a path. All great things come to pass. There will always be better moments, hours and days.

      “The first time around, during our affair, he did plan things out, but it was more like theatre. The seduction was like a creative masterpiece that he wanted to perfect.”

      Why did you perceive it as seduction? You are mentioning perfection, theatre and, to my mind, a way of being or personal expression for him. Is this foreign to you, and was this "seduction," perhaps, something that you feared from his side?

      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Abwu07y1tLM ... And, it features Rossini.

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    14. “The seduction was like a creative masterpiece that he wanted to perfect."

      A creative masterpiece that he wanted to perfect. Your choice of words is eye-catching, so I must comment. This directorial formula and its idealistic, extraordinarily faithful approach, sounds like Christian Faure’s technique in “Un Amour à Taire” (2005).

      “Elusivity. Must have an escape route. All the time”

      You’ve mentioned the emergence of triggers. Your inkling reminded me of a tragic scene, or a devastating flashback in my mind, from this film. Why? By sheer chance and trigger-anatomy, I suppose. http://dvdinfo.be/images/reviews/3874-4.jpg

      Although he was not a director, Philip K. Dick, a prolific, transcendental author, seemed to aspire toward perfecting the concepts of memory modification and gazing into “the yet to transpire.” Elusiveness and ambiguity are also integrated into these catchy themes. http://www.media3.hw-static.com/wp-content/uploads/paycheck-movie-still-ben-affleck_1737299-305x400.jpeg

      What will the future bring, or, better yet, is there a true time to come?http://www.cinema52.com/2013/wp-content/uploads/2013/04/Paycheck-Question.png

      K. Dick corroborated and chewed over his experiences and allegiance in a private journal he called his "exegesis,” parts of which were later printed and circulated as “The Exegesis of Philip K. Dick.” The ultimate novel he wrote was “The Transmigration of Timothy Archer.”

      "He wanted me to respond to it and on the days I didn't, he would actually say it disappointed him.”

      Timothy Archer was published posthumously.

      What does the above have to do with sociopathy? You decide, North. After all, you are the canvasser, here.

      A brief note to M.E.: Aesthetically-speaking, being able to embed the linked images would have enhanced and visually-correlated my presentation. Also, it would have been easier on the eyes of the reader. :)

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    15. Thanks for your replies anon, WEtch and Anon 10:46. I've been pondering these things, it's been helpful - appreciated. (I had a little freak-out myself and that's been on my mind.)

      I'll be out riding for much of the morning and will respond later :)

      anon, your sentence about them preparing you to accept them... I have a few things to say on that topic.

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    16. The fear factor. Why did people fear him?

      http://i.onionstatic.com/avclub/5404/7/16x9/960.jpg

      Once, someone even told him that he was too smart for his own good. https://s-media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/55/3a/c0/553ac0291b7161d929e489f6e4f39b28.jpg

      “I told him our customers are smarter than that. They won't buy it. I believed in you.

      But he insisted. Bizarre.

      So, we tested it out at one location, against my better judgment.” http://www.indiewire.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/10/the-incredible-hulk.jpg?w=680

      “Do you know how much it costs us to make a Unicorn Frappuccino?

      Nothing.” http://mashable.com/2017/04/22/stop-buying-the-unicorn-frappuccino/#6gj9K3rL8aqr

      The fear factor? - “Our baristas are begging you not to buy this monstrosity. It has made their lives hell. You are all ants and I am a boy with a magnifying glass, gone mad with power.”

      http://powet.tv/powetblog/wp-content/uploads/2007/04/ednortonhulk.jpg

      And… M.E.eeeeeeeeeee!! Aesthetics, the user-friendly component, easy on the eyes, remember? Hell's bells, it makes me look scary. :)

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    17. Nǐ hǎo! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FTZTkJ_LkrQ

      One-on-one dialogue. I think some people fear the idea and practice of doing one-on-one communications or private exchanges. Why? In my world, I have yet to find out. Honestly.

      "What else appeals to me? I like discerning and hearing that a partner is willing to do one thing every day that scares him.”

      “Pondering cholera, yes, I like immersing myself into a dicey, experimental and pivotal cholera epidemic from time to time.”

      “So, the interesting thing is, will it be released in China?” https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uv-Y1OHr1uo

      “Yes, it is a guaranteed release in China.”

      “Definitely not an ordinary mortal.”

      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uv-Y1OHr1uo

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    18. “So, the interesting thing is, will it be released in China?”

      https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WUHuX0MV8-o

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