Monday, June 15, 2015

Psychopath boss

From a reader:

I'm and Empath, currently working for a sociopathic boss (female). Over the years, I've figured out that she is a sociopath. I finally found a way in to talk to her about it (wanting to help or whatever), and after a long "game" she fully admitted to me that she is sociopathic.

I've done a ton of research on the subject as I need this job for now and leaving simply isn't an option- I've done my best to avoid boring her, being useful but only when she needs it, and always loyal and consistent no matter how much she stonewalls or bullies me.


Saturday, June 13, 2015

More on ENTPs

From another ENTP who identifies as sociopathic:

The take on the relationship between INTJ and sociopaths was interesting and summed it up well. Basically, a sociopath is a thinker type that never developed much, if any, emotions. Some dumb psychologists try to pigeon hole antisocial behavior into one specific type, when our sociotype actually reflects how our traits manifest themselves. As an ENTP and high-functioning sociopath, I use and discard people, rather than constantly abuse their emotions. For example, instead of a piercing stare, I have a warm smile that grins wider when I confront someone. Like you, I rarely commit crimes and I am mostly positive to people around me. But instead of affecting people in order to gauge power, I do so because it's a game to me. People are toys for me to play with and I like my toys to be valuable. If I get bored with someone or a person doesn't want anything to do with me, I just stop talking to them and find new people to manipulate. Sure this pisses some people off, but would they rather I destroy people?

Anyway, I have studied sociotype to where most people are predictable. I can read their type and know how to manipulate them. I have even played chameleon and portrayed myself as another type, just to see if I could. I am curious if other personality types can offer their own interpretation of their tendencies. In fact, I bet some ENTPs do things differently from me. I think we might be able to find some similarities between personality type and sociopathic traits if we look into it.

Thursday, June 11, 2015

Sociopath films: Barry Lyndon

From a reader re the movie Barry Lyndon:

i haven't watched this movie yet, but here's part of roger ebert's description: 

...observes a man without morals, character or judgment, unrepentant, unredeemed. Born in Ireland in modest circumstances, he rises through two armies and the British aristocracy with cold calculation.

sounds interesting!

Tuesday, June 9, 2015

Narcissist?

I sort of hate to pile on this random guy plucked from obscurity for our collective scrutiny, but he is an interesting case study.


Sunday, June 7, 2015

Dealing with a sociopath

This recent comment from an old post was directed at parents of a sociopath, but I think is pretty good advice for any situation in which you have to deal with a sociopath, i.e. you can't opt out because they're a blood family member, co-parent, work associate, etc.

From what I know of this mum and that couple's ordeal over the years, is that if you have someone like that living with you or in close contact with you, try to stay back a step or two emotionally and psychologically.

Don't get tangled up in the stream of lies and the really clever, manipulative behaviour even if it is difficult. 

Start by simply not believing anything this boy says - that is a great help and when my friend realised it, it took a burden off her shoulders. 

There is no point in getting angry and upset over his behaviour - he will only use it to make you look bad - and no point remonstrating, reasoning or trying to point out his lack of morality. 

I suggest you very consciously and pragmatically set out to manage the situation and look after yourself. Don't lose your head. Don't get mad at him. 

Force yourself to accept what is in front of you and deal with it consciously and in a planned way. 

Don't try to convince your partner of your suspicions if he is resistant to the possibility, because he will probably not want to believe you and it will upset him and make him resent you.

Don't lock horns with this boy if at all possible.

If your partner does, just stand back. 

Be careful because he will try to drive your and your partner apart - from his point of view he will cause as much trouble as possible because then he can slip between the cracks and do what he wants while you two are thoroughly preoccupied with fighting with each other. 

Oh yes, don't give him any ammunition at all, because he will talk about you. He will re-frame everything that happens to make him look like the victim and be aware that he will tell lies about everything and everyone. 

Stay back and stay calm and don't ever let your emotions take over when you are dealing with him.
That's all I can tell you from the many many well-intentioned mistakes my friend made. 

I am so sorry. However, if this is what you are up against and I do hope you are wrong - take comfort in the fact that you have several years to work out a strategy before he really starts to get going. 
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