tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post8290228733908953798..comments2024-03-28T00:33:57.308-07:00Comments on Sociopath World: Sofia the First: Good Little WitchUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger73125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-30190602434887811942015-12-17T09:00:40.527-08:002015-12-17T09:00:40.527-08:00HOW I BECAME RICH AND FAMOUS TODAY.******** i am M...HOW I BECAME RICH AND FAMOUS TODAY.******** i am Mr Philip Alonso from California , i am giving a testimony of how i Become rich and famous today... i was deeply strangled up by poverty and i had no body to help me, and also i search for help from different corners but to no avail... nothing comes out. i see people around me getting rich but to me i was so ashamed of my self so i ment a man on my way UK he was very rich and he was a doctor so he told me something and i think over it so the next day i looked up and i keep repeating what he said to me. if you want to get rich quick and be famous" you need to cross your heart and do what is in your mind so i tried all i could in other for me to do as he said so later on i told my fellow friend about this same thing then my friend was interested in my suggestions so i decided to take a look in the internet and i found an email address of this great fraternity ( iluminatirichesthome@gmail.com we decided to contact them and fortunately for we both we did as they instruct us to do and later they told us to get some requirements and all the rest... so this initiation took us just three days and later on the great fraternity gave us $25000 to start up our lives.... and now am testifying that if in any case you want to join any great fraternity all you need to do is for you to contact them because they are legitimate and they do as what they instructed them to do okay so email them now at (iluminatirichesthome@gmail .com) or you can call or text them on +2348112163945.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-4587496483465492562015-12-17T08:57:26.250-08:002015-12-17T08:57:26.250-08:00Hi Everyone,This was how me and my BF become VAMPI...Hi Everyone,This was how me and my BF become VAMPIRES i got a man from the internet called Dr Vampire who was a VAMPIRE so i told him that me and my boyfriend would love to become VAMPIRES so he asked me of my Name ,Country, Age ,State , address and asked me to pay for just to send me his blood which i did immediately and in the next 3 days i got the blood sample through the DHL which me and my boyfriend took in the blood into our body and in the next 30 minutes i turned into a VAMPIRE so if you interested in becoming a VAMPIRE kindly contact his Email Address (vampirekingdom6666@gmail.com) and he also has a friend who is a warewolf just incase you want to be one,, Email (vampirekingdom6666@gmail.com)<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18301719007432734241noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-11832028649301781902015-05-31T04:49:31.204-07:002015-05-31T04:49:31.204-07:00
Am here to testify what this great spell caster ...<br />Am here to testify what this great spell caster done for me. i never believe in spell casting, until when i was was tempted to try it. i and my husband have been having a lot of problem living together, he will always not make me happy because he have fallen in love with another lady outside our relationship, i tried my best to make sure that my husband leave this woman but the more i talk to him the more he makes me fell sad, so my marriage is now leading to divorce because he no longer gives me attention. so with all this pain and agony, i decided to contact this spell caster to see if things can work out between me and my husband again. this spell caster who was a woman told me that my husband is really under a great spell that he have been charm by some magic, so she told me that she was going to make all things normal back. she did the spell on my husband and after 5 days my husband changed completely he even apologize with the way he treated me that he was not him self, i really thank this woman her name is Dr Aluta she have bring back my husband back to me i want you all to contact her who are having any problem related to marriage issue and relationship problem she will solve it for you. her email is traditionalspellhospital@gmail.com she is a woman and she is great. wish you good time.<br />He cast spells for different purposes like<br />(1) If you want your ex back.<br />(2) if you always have bad dream<br />(3) You want to be promoted in your office.<br />(4) You want women/men to run after you.<br />(5) If you want a child.<br />(6) You want to be rich.<br />(7) You want to tie your husband/wife to be yours forever.<br />(8) If you need financial assistance.<br />(9) HIV/AIDS CURE<br />(10) is the only answer to that your problem of winning the lottery<br /> <br />Contact him today on: traditionalspellhospital@gmail.com<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11289534177301155692noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-2438418815143104482015-05-25T22:23:25.754-07:002015-05-25T22:23:25.754-07:00I'm half way through the first book, I'm n...I'm half way through the first book, I'm no longer convinced that there is such a thing as sociopathology. I can identify, I have thought that the cluster symptoms are just normal human reactions to trauma, like, learning to dissociate and becoming slightly disaffected. It's very fascinating, I'm studying counselling and work in mental health, I think much more of the population than has been identified exhibit many of the traits, that the DSM is shit, and that regardless of how you get there, if you have a brain, you end up doing what is good for you and what you need to function/ survive. No judgement apart from thinking/ wondering how it might feel to become more relational and integrated inside. Not sure where to post my comment on the book, just posted it here. Reghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16209322089687402710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-9462216536846371342015-05-25T19:05:57.390-07:002015-05-25T19:05:57.390-07:00" I think they want to remember the happiness..." I think they want to remember the happiness I brought to their life over the pain."<br /><br />That's true for me. I most definitely want to fully embrace the good times. What else is there but dark fuzziness and pain? But until the person who willfully hurt me owns up I can't/won't risk another encounter. Because I cannot forget pain, not that kind. It leaves its indelible mark, as they say. But I can forgive and let the past go, not hold the person hostage in a million petty ways for past mistakes. That would be self-defeating: if I don't let go and trust again then the relationship can't grow any deeper or further outside the box I want to inhabit. Because I would then always be holding back, scrutinizing, instead of simply being there, in the moment, going with the flow of them and the universe.Faustnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-90688281715873300622015-05-25T11:59:56.312-07:002015-05-25T11:59:56.312-07:00NH, I would like to add the Dark Ages to the Renai...NH, I would like to add the Dark Ages to the Renaissance period. While the latter was all about rebirth, novelty and intriguing discoveries, the former paved the way to all kinds of breakthroughs. Writing, art, sciences, competitions, costumes, and both men and women were joined to form a riveting epoch in human history. For instance, during the torridity of a buoyant joust, the audience was both sanguine and anticipative, since only one will win. With the craftiness of a well-held brush, a Renaissance painter would capture one of these raring instances, or a jester would discover a new method to captivate.<br /><br />“The elements of the Universe were considered to be water, air, fire, and earth. These elements directly corresponded to the body, so the elements were thus linked; phlem-water, blood-air, yellow bile-fire, and earth-black bile. The bodily elements were called humors. [Alchemy]<br /><br />Many women put a false "beauty mark" on their face. This mark was made of a circular patch of black fabric. When one applied it to the corner of one's eye it indicated passion, for above the lip it indicated a quality of coquetry, and the forehead indicated grandeur. [Atypical]<br /><br />In jousting there were actually 3 weapons permitted; the lance, the axe, and the dagger/sword. There was a document created in the 1300s that made it acceptable to cease war if there was a major joust scheduled.” [Outre]<br /><br />Although it is not "ideal," so to speak, this is the source for the quoted material: http://faeriemusejo.blogspot.ro/2009/02/25-odd-facts-about-medieval-times.html.<br />Oncenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-47102753335088998092015-05-25T11:38:50.719-07:002015-05-25T11:38:50.719-07:00Hello Kat,
Oh, I'm sure you'd love Lola, ...Hello Kat,<br /><br />Oh, I'm sure you'd love Lola, everyone does. She's almost universally likeable, and when she chooses to pursue someone she is extremely effective and single -minded. I must admit that it was nice to be the focus of that much attention.<br /><br />Goodness is easy in theory and difficult in practice. It's like putting in all the work required to design a bridge, but lacking the time, energy, and resources to build it. The only tangible bit of goodness you can hold is a piece of paper, with lines and pictures.<br /><br />Goodness is often on my mind, but I wouldn't say I'm good. To do that, I'd have to stop imptoving, and that's not what I want. All I can say is that in my experience, treating people well leads to better results than treating people poorly. Whether people realize it or not, being a decent person is often in their best interests.<br /><br />I also like to think in virtues. I'll claim patience and prudence, but I struggle with temperance and humility. Generosity? I'll give freely when I have enough for myself, begrudgingly when I lack. Compassion is difficult, as I'll help people in need but I don't share in their emotions, I can't.<br /><br />I don't think I'm ideal, for myself or anyone else, but I'm not that bad. I can't tell whether I've become less jealous and possessive, or if I just don't feel as strongly for the person I'm with now. I hope it's confidence and high self-esteem that keeps those dark, intense feelings away, but I don't know. I don't fall easily, I won't do that again. I prided myself on my rationality, and oh, how far I fell.<br /><br />Apologies if I've rambled, stream of consciousness happens sometimes.Somebodynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-34951762774174395342015-05-25T08:52:40.493-07:002015-05-25T08:52:40.493-07:00@Smarty:
I thank you for this thorough comment and...@Smarty:<br />I thank you for this thorough comment and I've got to say I resonate with almost all of your statements. It's always a delight to read your comments :)<br /><br />As for my favorite time period, I don't have one. I live now and today, for the present and to set up tomorrow - there's not much room to dwell on the past which took place before my time.<br />You have mentioned the Renaissance as your favorite time period quite a few times now, and I admit my knowledge is meager at best. Would you like to tell me a bit about it?<br /><br /><br />@Korb: <br />"Man kann die Natur nicht ändern" bedeutet im allgemeinen, dass all Jenes, was bereits im Vorhinein und ohne menschliches Zutun, also von der Natur so beabsichtigt, nicht ohne weiteres von Menschenhand geändert werden kann.<br />Ich persönlich schwanke zwischen der Annahme, dass naturgegebenes erst gar nicht geändert werden sollte, schließlich hat die Natur sich über Jahrmillionen in ein homöostatisches Gleichgewicht eingependelt welches deutlich störungsanfälliger zu sein scheint als die Menschheit in vorangegangenen Epochen zu glauben bereit war, und der Annahme, dass der Mensch um des Fortschrittes Willen als entscheidende Hürde zur Transzendierung und zur Abgrenzung vom bloßen Tier sich gezwungen sieht auch diese letzte Barriere zu überschreiten um so wahrhaft zum Übermenschen zu werden.<br />Eine sehr interessante, aber leider auch komplexe und umstrittene Thematik, über die ich, wenn Ihnen das Recht ist, ein andermal schreiben werde - und wahrscheinlich lieber auf Englisch.<br /><br />Mein derzeitiges Lieblingswort ist "juxtanukleär", was in der Histologie die Lage einer sich neben dem Zellkern befindlichen Struktur beschreibt. Allerdings beschränkt sich mein Gebrauch dieses Wortes auf wenige, spezifische Kontexte.<br />Ein anderes meiner Lieblingswörter, welches ich deutlich häufiger verwende ist "integral", wohlgemerkt als Adjektiv.Nihilistic Mindhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11889477052396839752noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-26885100034884069802015-05-25T01:27:30.929-07:002015-05-25T01:27:30.929-07:00Nihilistic Mind, Was bedeutet es, zu sagen, Man ka...Nihilistic Mind, Was bedeutet es, zu sagen, Man kann die Natur nicht ändern? Ebenfalls, Was ist Ihre Lieblingswort?Korbnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-50155486709736281352015-05-25T01:19:47.259-07:002015-05-25T01:19:47.259-07:00
Greetings My dear friends. I am so happy to shar...<br />Greetings My dear friends. I am so happy to share this wonderful testimony about Dr Brave, my name is Mellisa Jefferson I am 32 years old, I live in Florida USA, I am happily married to Sowers Jefferson with three kids we got married in 2004 I am a banker but due to some certain family conditions I had to quit my job so I could have time for my family my husband works in a construction company not long ago around may 2015 my husband started to behave in a way i could not understand, i was very Confused by the way he treat me and the Kids. Later that month he did not come home again and he called me that he want a divorce, i asked him what have i Done wrong to deserve this from him, all he was saying is that he want a divorce That he hate me and do not want to see Me again in his life, i was mad and also Frustrated do not know what to do,i was Sick for more than 4 weeks because of the divorce. i love him so much he was everything to me without him my life is Incomplete. i told my sister and she told me to contact a spell caster, i never believed in all this spell casting of a thing. i just want to try if something will come out of it. i contacted Dr Brave for the return of my husband to me, he told me that my husband have Been taken by another woman, that she cast a spell on him that is why he hate me and also want us to divorce. then he told me that he have to cast a spell on him that will make him return to Me and the kids, he casted the spell and After 27hours my husband called me and He told me that i should forgive him, he Started to apologize on phone and said That he still loves me that he did not know what happen to him that he left me. it was the spell that Dr Brave casted on him that brought him back to me today, i and my family Are now happy again today. thank you Dr Brave for what you have done for me i would have been nothing Today if not for your great spell. i want You my friends who are passing through All this kind of love problem of getting Back their husband, wife , or ex boyfriend and girlfriend to contact him on this email: bravespellcaster@gmail.com , web site:http://enchantedscents.tripod.com/lovespell/ . and you will see that your problem will be solved Without any delay or effect cell number +2348072370762 Thanks for reading..Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08316564808845227651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-90210415612038151492015-05-25T00:51:21.353-07:002015-05-25T00:51:21.353-07:00NM, I don't have any legal concerns, but I can...NM, I don't have any legal concerns, but I can understand the situation you’ve described. <br /><br />“…those which I have are carved in stone until I decide to discard them. One of this principles is, that my decisions are my decisions. I don't change them without valid reason.<br />I have decided to start smoking again. Period.”<br /><br />I can relate to your construct, which I call a “personal philosophy” in my life. It’s tantamount to having a craftily designed fabric, expanding upon it as each thread becomes added to its well-chosen, daedal composition.<br /><br />“That's something I actually work on at the moment, with tenable success. I'm a master of self-restraint.”<br /><br />Success is the condiment that peppers a strong foundation as one decides to do something worthwhile, and not just a momentary undertaking. It grows. <br /><br />“He's as antisocial as I am, if not worse…He's a narcissist, and I suspect at least some sociopathic tendencies.”<br /><br />It sounds as though you are the right person to truly understand your friend, and although you’ve asked for advice relating to this predicament (i.e., your puzzling issue describing his tendency to give such things as cigarettes and alcohol), I believe there is no right or wrong way of handling it. You should just be yourself with him, and see how he reacts. I think of it as experiencing two chemical substances, being prepared for both positive and negative charges (the negative charge not viewed as being prosaic, though). Explaining certain aspects of your personality with specific examples should quite well work for him in the instances you’ve detailed about cigarettes and alcohol.<br /><br />“That 'worrying' is rather to be seen as a worry about breaking a possession I enjoy. Like a portable CD player. I get angry if it breaks. Last one met sledge hammer because it refused to play my music any longer. I mean, it's unlikely this would happen to him too, but I'm still concerned that I might cross some limits... people can be fragile if you hit the wrong (or right) points, even with words.”<br /><br />Your thoughts remind me of specific experiences in my life, having to do with a friend of mine. Although I cachinnated as I read the part about the sledge hammer, instead of seeing it as breaking something and experiencing loss as a result of it, I have been seeing it as different “reincarnations” (i.e., these “reincarnations” carry both positive and extraordinary, negative charges, since life is definitely composed of both), furthering and building onto something that I call a work in progress. <br /><br />Having said that, if you were to ask about my favorite time period of the past, I would choose the Renaissance age, and surely not just because of the beliefs (a more recent one would be Figuration Libre). What is yours, NM?<br />Oncenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-24032110069505918602015-05-25T00:48:38.278-07:002015-05-25T00:48:38.278-07:00“I'll take thinking too much over thinking too...“I'll take thinking too much over thinking too little any day.”<br /><br />SansDire, Einstein also believed that “we cannot solve our problems with the same ‘thinking’ we used when we created them.” So, in this intricate, finespun duality, we create problems, but then, we "should" also create solutions. <br /><br />“Einstein defined insanity as doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. That would seem to apply in this case, bearing in mind what you've said about him ;)”<br /><br />Having broached this subject, what does insanity mean to you? <br />Oncenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-44605107034307946022015-05-24T15:42:26.030-07:002015-05-24T15:42:26.030-07:00I have noticed that people learn to mistrust as th...I have noticed that people learn to mistrust as they grow through their experiences. Everyone hurts and gets hurt, not just sociopaths. I have noticed that those who seem like they have the toughest barriers around them are the easiest to ruin, they are desperately seeking for comfort. At the same time, people move on for the damage There should be a balance in how you treat people, if you expect them to stick around. When the negative outweighs the positive for them, then they bail (depending on their definitions of positive and negative, some might love pain). The way the pain you caused affected them correlates with how much time before they get over it. At this point there are a few people that are still on their guard around me, even when i say something as simple as "hi". There are others who enough time has passed that they forgot the pain I caused them and remember the friendship we used to have. I think they want to remember the happiness I brought to their life over the pain.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-26917346780562899452015-05-24T15:19:33.787-07:002015-05-24T15:19:33.787-07:00SD, Thinking is the essence of life but I've g...SD, Thinking is the essence of life but I've got to slow down sometimes or I end up believing I'm a god or some bullshit like that... last time it happened I thought I was able to control events in my surrounding by thinking the 'right' thoughts... tho that's already years ago. xD<br />(It's still fascinating to watch my mind spin logical constructs which might actually work under certain circumstances, but I decided not to fall for a tempting thesis of this kind)<br /><br />I know it's not possible to look into the mind of someone else, which is why I decided to demand open communication from the start of the relationship to see if it provides me with more information to form a more profound idea of his inner workings. I hope it does 'cause it takes a lot more energy than just observing.<br /><br />I'm well aware his decisions are his own responsibility, but I hope he chooses the right decisions... I don't want to give up on him, at least not when it's just starting to get funny.<br />I try to explain to him certain aspects of my personality with specific examples, but in the end it's his decision of course.<br /><br />Einstein's definition of insanity always reminds me of that cartoon about two laboratory mice I used to watch when I was a kid. :D<br />And yes it does apply - in more than just this case, on both sides. I guess we're both crazy and as such a perfect match xD<br /><br />I don't exactly know whether I'm a psychopath or not, but it's the most plausible (albeit least advantageous) explanation at the moment. I'd prefer if it was just kind of a long lasting depression or ptsd or something else that can be treated. If it wasn't for the biological implications I wouldn't really care.<br /><br />That 'worrying' is rather to be seen as a worry about breaking a possession I enjoy. Like a portable CD player. I get angry if it breaks. Last one met sledge hammer because it refused to play my music any longer. I mean, it's unlikely this would happen to him too, but I'm still concerned that I might cross some limits... people can be fragile if you hit the wrong (or right) points, even with words.Nihilistic Mindhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11889477052396839752noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-75380296775316707282015-05-24T07:23:09.164-07:002015-05-24T07:23:09.164-07:00Somebody, This is Anon at 9:54 AM. Like Anon at 2:...Somebody, This is Anon at 9:54 AM. Like Anon at 2:38 PM indicated, there was a misunderstanding or misconstruction when that comment was posted. <br /><br />"Anonymous 9:54, thank you. I appreciate what you were trying to do, but I think you misunderstood. <br />He was not implying that I am Lola. He was implying that the person I was involved with, who inspired what I said about forgiveness, might be rather similar."<br /><br />Anon at 10:19 AM: Your reply sounds like a misconstruction, too. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-16485575150817503512015-05-24T02:45:07.544-07:002015-05-24T02:45:07.544-07:00What is M.E. doing RIGHT NOW? Do her significent o...What is M.E. doing RIGHT NOW? Do her significent others know she's<br />running this blog?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-17286824449232518682015-05-24T01:49:22.819-07:002015-05-24T01:49:22.819-07:00LOL NM - I'll take thinking too much over thin...LOL NM - I'll take thinking too much over thinking too little any day.<br /><br />You (generic) can guess and suspect what motivates other people, but you can never truly know. Sometimes it just comes down to a judgement call.<br /><br />In the end, you (specific) are responsible for what you do and he is responsible for what he does. If you've told him straight out where the hazard lies and he ignores it... I'm afraid at that point he takes his share of responsibility (whether or not he chooses to accept it at the time or afterwards).<br /><br />If it were me, I might give him one last warning and be pretty specific about it: "this is where the road most likely leads, you have been warned and you are now travelling on your own recognisance". Or else I'd just walk away and file it under the heading of too much hassle. But I'm not you - you are you.<br /><br />Einstein defined insanity as doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. That would seem to apply in this case, bearing in mind what you've said about him ;)<br /><br />As to "psycho worries 'bout narc" I grinned, yes; but it's not out there - I don't confuse muted with silent. Cognitive concern (i.e. recognizing the hazard to another person without necessarily having any emotional link to them) seems consistent with what I've read and experienced.SansDirehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00099862205098036589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-45633713249726120462015-05-23T22:03:50.974-07:002015-05-23T22:03:50.974-07:00Oops. "Until. . . a numbers game in which m...Oops. "Until. . . a numbers game in which microorganisms that create ALL life . . ." We are screwed. No one, plant, animal, etc., is disposable. The fool, not the king, in the tarot begins and ends the journey of enlightenment. We each grope towards the light best as we can.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-54549855672761179072015-05-23T21:54:43.684-07:002015-05-23T21:54:43.684-07:00Kat, I am extremely attracted to "goodness&qu...Kat, I am extremely attracted to "goodness". Show me a genuinely kind, strong, compassionate, honourable, honest, charitable person, who is able to formulate and discuss interesting ideas..."<br /><br />Good for you. Creation is superior to destruction. That's why until destructive behavior is channeled toward something constructive, something that will curb death via simplistic exploitation, a numbers game in which microorganisms that create life are considered disposable. Stupid and shortsighted. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-22011712851414373432015-05-23T21:43:38.688-07:002015-05-23T21:43:38.688-07:00You are.You are.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-77050436887679246752015-05-23T17:47:22.821-07:002015-05-23T17:47:22.821-07:00Thank you for sharing that, Somebody.
Lola sound...Thank you for sharing that, Somebody. <br /><br />Lola sounds like quite the character.<br />Charming, mannipulative, passive- aggressive, narcissistic.. her and I would probably have gotten along like a house on fire. Until we tried to set each other on fire, at least :)<br /><br />My ex was similar in so many ways, but I suspect drastically different in others. <br /><br />I am extremely attracted to "goodness". Show me a genuinely kind, strong, compassionate, honourable, honest, charitable person, who is able to formulate and discuss interesting ideas...and I start swooning. <br />Looks, age, social status, etc...become irrelevant. By no means do I expect perfection, but to me they are truly beautiful, fascinating. <br />The rarity with which I meet such people of course makes them all the more so.<br /><br />It is a huge weakness of mine. <br />One that my ex exploited, by painting himself as being such a creature. It was a beautiful painting indeed. But upon closer examination, it turned out to be composed primarily of the dirt and slime of his delusions and lies. <br /><br />But in the meantime, I spent an enormous amount of time and energy helping and supporting him through one crisis after another, after another.<br />Blinded myself to the truth for far too long.<br /><br />Even now, regardless of the enormous amount of evidence to the contrary, he still attempts to paint himself as this creature...the man I suspect he wants to be. Who, unfortunately, bears no resemblance to the real him.<br /><br />It is both sad and hilarious watching him luring other people with the same lies and setting himself up for more failure. <br /><br />"Everyone has ideas about their capabilities, their strengths and weaknesses, but until they're tested a certain amount of uncertainty is warranted."<br /><br />Absolutely! <br />Taking a brutally honest inventory of one's strengths and weaknesses in itself requires more strength than most can muster. <br />Everyone also has weaknesses they never quite knew... until they are used against them. <br />Some are fortunate enough to have those pointed out by someone who can see through them and cares enough to help, rather than exploit. UKan, a brilliant sociopath I met on this site, was particularly good at that. He and his wife were immensely helpful to me.<br /><br />At least you and I seem to have learned from our relationships. We have accepted our mistakes and the weaknesses which led us to make them. <br /><br />I have come to see that the narcissistic are too busy cushioning their ego to learn anything. <br />How can they avoid repeating a mistake if they are too busy blame shifting and coming up with rationalisations and excuses, to admit they made one in the first place? <br /><br />That is precisely why I will not allow them into my life until they address their behaviours and put in enough effort to make me want to forgive them. <br />I have no need for more bullshit and drama.<br /><br />Hope to hear more about you. <br /><br />KatAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-41328459968979825402015-05-23T13:50:38.145-07:002015-05-23T13:50:38.145-07:00It is strange to hear that you view me as emotiona...It is strange to hear that you view me as emotionally unbalanced, OldAndWise. Don’t confuse my inherent design, high intensity and determination with emotional asymmetry. In other words, don’t fall into a judgmental state of mind or into the trap that people around you might set through their mere “opinions.” Remain open-minded and employ independent thinking without wavering away from the truth.<br /><br />“You have no concept of what a sociopath is, and people here always ridicule you. To the point where you blow a fuse and go away for a few weeks...”<br /><br />I do not want your statement to head into the direction of an argument, since it is quite clear that I have extensive knowledge on sociopathy. No explanations are necessary in this area, and that is a proven fact. What’s more, I don’t feel ridiculed by people at all. If they attempt to ridicule me, it is their weakness or undoing, not mine. Although blowing fuses is not my style or part of my innate design, it has been my “style,” so to speak, to leave for a few weeks. I hope that I will not have to repeat this again, OldAndWise.<br /><br />“It is puzzling to my loved ones that I actually still allow him in my life, and consider him a friend, albeit a special type of friend. There are a few people that I fully trust in the world. I am very fortunate to count my husband of 20+ years as one of them.”<br /><br />I see this as a good sign in connection to our primary discussion about trust. <br />Oncenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-57134439760850973542015-05-23T13:37:30.682-07:002015-05-23T13:37:30.682-07:00@Smarty:
"(...) that person should not be buy...@Smarty:<br />"(...) that person should not be buying any cigarettes and alcohol for you."<br />This sounds like you have legal concerns (correct me if I'm wrong), if so, you should take into account that I don't live in the US. Here, alcohol and cigarettes can be legally bought with age 16, with the exceptions of 'hard' alcohol like vodka which can only be bought by adults (legal age 18) plus if your parents allow it you can legally drink beer and wine at an age of 12. We're much less strict on societal drugs than the Americans are.<br /><br />"Find the strength to quit smoking (as also mentioned, you don't have the money for it)"<br />I don't have many principles, but those which I have are carved in stone until I decide to discard them. One of this principles is, that my decisions are my decisions. I don't change them without valid reason.<br />I have decided to start smoking again. Period.<br /><br />And as for the money you misunderstood me, I've got enough to stay under half a pack of cigarettes per day. However through the 'generosity' of my bf I smoke almost a full pack of cigarettes per day - which I won't be able to upkeep with my own money if this experiment ends.<br /><br />"(...) stop drinking excessively on the occasions when it does happen."<br />That's something I actually work on at the moment, with tenable success. I'm a master of self-restraint.<br /><br />"And, sometimes, people do nice things just to put a smile on someone's face. It's the true self at work."<br />That's not tangible for me. Especially not as I tend to look at him without specific expression or just move on as if nothing happened. I rarely smile when people give something to me which I didn't expect or demand.<br /><br />PS: Your comments used to be much better thought through. Everything okay with you?<br /><br /><br /><br />@SD<br />Sounds plausible, most people describe feeling better when they smile and mirror neurons trick the brain into thinking it does what it sees. Thank you for pointing this out to me :)<br /><br />Tho there are still some discrepancies I can't get past. He should be smart enough not to expect me smiling at him for something I don't particularly like (in this case, ignoring that I told him he should watch his money when I'm around) but he doesn't change his behavior. Is he hoping to get a smile out of me if he just repeats it over and over again? Or does he feel guilty?<br /><br />You know, I don't fully buy his "generosity" as an innate personality trait either, especially after all he had told me. He's as antisocial as I am, if not worse.<br />He's a narcissist, and I suspect at least some sociopathic tendencies. Is it possible that he's so fucked up that he would go on and on giving me all that emotional stuff and gifting me material stuff even if I don't respond with gratitude or any other normally expected behavior and then blame me for the burn-out he'll get? I'm somewhat worried I break him...<br />I had to chuckle at the thought "psycho worries 'bout narc" and figured you might find that funny too. xD<br /><br />Okay maybe I think too much. But I know how hazardous a relationship with me can be... so I'm somewhat concerned I make it worse by trying to make it better.Nihilistic Mindhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11889477052396839752noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-62762093128134308632015-05-23T13:12:59.893-07:002015-05-23T13:12:59.893-07:00My loved ones...My loved ones...OldAndWisenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-670497448477459092015-05-23T13:09:11.923-07:002015-05-23T13:09:11.923-07:00Still think I have a trust issue, Once? That is st...Still think I have a trust issue, Once? That is strange.<br /><br />I like your description and analogy of climbing a tree. My sociofriend has proven to me that if I climb that tree for him or with him, he will shake it until I fall and hurt myself. Once he tried to put that darn tree on fire, and that almost broke off the relationship. So now I only climb as far as he does, and make sure I don't stay up there if he is not. One day at a time. Now that I think of it, the trust issue I might have is that I am still able to have a certain level of trust with him. Intellectually, or cognitively, I know I should not. People around me tell me as much. It is puzzling to my loved one that I actually still allow him in my life, and consider him a friend, albeit a special type of friend.<br />There are a few people that I fully trust in the world. I am very fortunate to count my husband of 20+ years as one of them. <br /><br />What about you, Once? What is your story? I am still amazed to see you on this site. You have no concept of what a sociopath is, and people here always ridicule you. To the point where you blow a fuse and go away for a few weeks... what is this site bringing to an educated but emotionally unbalanced person such as you? OldAndWise?noreply@blogger.com