tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post7295418980344509665..comments2024-03-28T00:33:57.308-07:00Comments on Sociopath World: Gentleman sociopath?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger54125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-36972744289149328492013-07-22T08:53:49.707-07:002013-07-22T08:53:49.707-07:00Pseudo intellectuals are the only people who go si...Pseudo intellectuals are the only people who go site to site bitching about a slight word usage mishap.<br /><br />There are 250,000 words in the English language and many people speak multiple languages.<br /><br />Don't be a pedantic douche.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-72014261118531357652013-06-22T02:40:51.522-07:002013-06-22T02:40:51.522-07:00Cont'd
Dallas to Anon 11:06 AM
The friendship...Cont'd<br />Dallas to Anon 11:06 AM<br /><br />The friendship with him was never mutual. I showed him care, love, kindness, ect and it was like pouring water into a straw basket or throwing pearls to swine. What did he want? Not 100% sure. I think though that he wanted to be able to use those qualities displayed at his disposal for whatever reason. Is there any truth to the idea that sociopaths desire love, connection, affection, kindness, ect. My friend had no use for such things or he did in a ways I didn’t understand. He did like my kindness because he could get things easily from me. Another thing I don’t understand. Regardless of how good I was to him he gave help and support to others far easier than he would be willing to help me. Yet he gets no help or support from these people. I would oftentimes have to beg him for his help. He would offer me help if there was some gain of the sort for him. I have now cease my help and support to him.<br /><br /><br /><br />Anon:11:06 - Your friend might be telling you personal stuff in order to get you to reveal your real self to him. Information gathered about you, your friends or family by him could be used against you. He doesn’t necessarily care about his information given to you. I began trusting him and ended up compromising some of my qualities to be his friend. Luckily I was still paying attention to myself. Also, be awake in your conversations with him. Sometimes my friend’s thoughts were disconnected. He would be talking about the dogs and then it was about the cow but you did not realized the switch. Listen to your friend keenly when he speaks. Should you ask, what did you say? He could change it easily and an argument would develop. The argument would be for his entertainment and you questioning your mind. Although we were what I considered close I still can’t tell how he felt about me as a friend. In fact, I could not discuss friendship with him. When I discovered that he is disordered I did not RUN as some experts advised. He was able to take off his mask around me whenever he wanted without judgement. I entertained him to ease his boredom. There was no benefit in that effort for me. I learned the hard way. I would have wrecked myself had I continued such craziness.<br /><br />My friend’s mood and personality flip flop. His personality is like shifting clouds. Sometimes the cloud is white, another time dark, another time a shade in between. This moment he could be the best friend ever or quite happy and within a few hours or by the next day all of that changed. You find yourself questioning or baffling to figure what’s up with this guy. Never try to fully understand a sociopath. Again I doubt some understand themselves. You will go nuts if you try. There was no consistency in the friendship . Even if it started with a form of consistency it will change later on.<br /><br />Should you consider breaking off the friendship do so peacefully and gradually. As Glass mentioned, it is far better if he puts the mask back on. My buddy has his on now and it seems to be glued on this time. I no longer gives him access to me and he doesn’t trust other co-worker with what’s behind the mask. I don’t dislike or hate him. My personal thing is that if I am investing in a friendship with him then there must be some return for me. If there is no return on the investment then I pull out and invest elsewhere.<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /> <br /><br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-1507343864779405792013-06-22T02:37:18.593-07:002013-06-22T02:37:18.593-07:00Dallas
AnonymousJune 13, 2013 at 11:06 AM
The art...Dallas<br />AnonymousJune 13, 2013 at 11:06 AM<br /><br />The article gentleman sociopath is an interesting one and I can identify with a number of things as seen demonstrated by the sociopath who came into my life.<br />Anon@11:06 AM<br /> I know what you are going through in that friendship of 4 years. My friendship with the disordered character went on for about (3+ yrs) and I am now trying to put an end to it. We work at the same place but after his last blow of disrespect I simply walked out of his presence without saying a word. I do know that I should not hold my breath because an apology won’t be forthcoming. I am moving on. It is almost 3 months now and I have not spoken him on a personal level as in the past nor do I desire to have any conversation with him. We still display the usual courtesies of: good morning, goodbye, please, thank you, excuse me. Any communication outside of that is work-related and it is at a minimal as in asking a question. Since I’ve walked away from the friendship he has put his mask back on. Whenever the mask was off I would get those courtesies extended only if he felt like it. So far it has been a good three month since his mask is back on. He is humble as a lamp now and if I want to I can get him to comply with my wishes. I know this from past experiences. At times now he looks like a lost puppy because at work I am the only one who knows about the disorder and he can freely take off the mask around me. I have now grown weary of the friendship because he would often drain my mental and emotional energy with his on and off attention or need for attention/ entertainment. Not to mention his complex personality that I can’t make head or tail of. I doubt some sociopath understand themselves. 3 yrs is a long time to treat a friend as a brother all for nothing.<br /><br />My female co-workers admire my qualities. I am naturally a kind and caring person. Perfect target for spaths. Before we became buddies I noticed that friend was showing gentlemanly qualities like me that appears to be a natural part of him. After a good while I thought that we have a lot in common so after observing him for a few years I liked what I saw. Our relationship at work was a very professional one, however I noticed that he began to tell me tit bits about what’s up with him and his girlfriend at the time. I would give him useful advice. But the advice giving started when the nosey female co-workers while conversing with him, would draw my attention to stuff going on in his life with the girlfriend. The co-workers would ask me to advise him as one male to another. More frequently he then began sharing more than tit bits of information about all aspects of his life with me. He found out that I could be trusted and open his life to me. <br />Anon at 11:06 AM: Speaking from my experience I would advise you to pay more attention to YOURSELF than to your friend. When my disordered friend targeted me he told me stuff about himself that a man would only tell a trusted wife or a best friend. Certain things he did not have any qualms in sharing with me. He allowed me into the dark closet of his mind – (mask removed). I was shocked for a few days about the things revealed because I could not make the connection between who I thought he was or presented himself to be and who he actually is in reality. I could not wrap my mind around it. Now the more he told me stuff the closer I bonded with him allowing him into my world. I could ask him any question and he would answer. Mind you some of the answers were lies but the truth surfaced later on. I noticed that he was not really interested in my life but he got me to be interested into his personal affairs. This man would share every little thing about his life with me but his motive I could not figure out. Anyway as the various stories about his life unfolded I began to suspect he has personality issues. <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-29327972043695937782013-06-16T13:51:39.570-07:002013-06-16T13:51:39.570-07:00A self-professed genius who doesn't know the d...A self-professed genius who doesn't know the difference between adverse and averse.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-60186216259898741942013-06-16T05:20:15.176-07:002013-06-16T05:20:15.176-07:00Most all the sociopaths are "religious."...Most all the sociopaths are "religious." That's were the fault lives.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-9192656375468659672013-06-15T21:47:36.123-07:002013-06-15T21:47:36.123-07:00Just curious. Can a sociopath believe in God? Are ...Just curious. Can a sociopath believe in God? Are any of you who identify as sociopaths also religious?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-86449658374173938862013-06-15T14:02:55.581-07:002013-06-15T14:02:55.581-07:00You are welcome :) and take care.
JessiYou are welcome :) and take care.<br /><br />JessiAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-82187680925685880582013-06-14T15:24:11.512-07:002013-06-14T15:24:11.512-07:00Maybe it's coincidence, but there was an artic...Maybe it's coincidence, but there was an article on MSN today about how antidepressants in the water supply ate turning fish homicidal.onewomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11320973006497715467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-16680619424852482252013-06-14T15:01:21.514-07:002013-06-14T15:01:21.514-07:00@ Jessi - Thank You. I appreciate you sharing wit...@ Jessi - Thank You. I appreciate you sharing with me. I have already seen a glimpse of his "anger" and how it manifests. Although it has never been directed at me (at least not to my face), I have witnessed the "other ways".<br />You and Andy have given me much food for thought. <br />I am glad this blog and the "regulars" are here to help us Emp's understand more about Socios. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-87044243144016423152013-06-14T09:05:53.465-07:002013-06-14T09:05:53.465-07:00@7:54 Either a sociopath always has ulterior motiv...@7:54 Either a sociopath always has ulterior motives or has motives that are not the same as yours, since they are not going to be based on affection.<br /><br />So be prepared to find out he had ulterior motives and he was using you for something or, as Andy says, that we will just get tired of you and disappear any day. I don’t agree with Andy in the fact that there won’t be any FUCK YOU behavior. If anything that he was expecting from you doesn’t happen, he will get angry and try to hurt you; whether it is your fault or not. If he feels anger, and they do frequently, he will release it. Though an honest explosion is rare, he would rather use other ways. After that, yes, a cold end. <br /><br />So, especially be aware that he can pass from a "friendship" to an attitude of perpetual callous despise at any moment with no alerts for nothing you may have done. In a moment he makes you feel you are a friend in the next trash. And that was all.<br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />Jessinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-57961306424952340352013-06-14T08:10:59.158-07:002013-06-14T08:10:59.158-07:00Any time :)Any time :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11932547142801073974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-44083966079169050642013-06-14T07:46:41.934-07:002013-06-14T07:46:41.934-07:00Thank You Andy for 'talking' with me - I a...Thank You Andy for 'talking' with me - I appreciate your insights and candor.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-66631685242600319622013-06-14T02:40:39.073-07:002013-06-14T02:40:39.073-07:00Antidepressants made me a cold motherfucker. I ha...Antidepressants made me a cold motherfucker. I had to wean myself off of them, I couldn't even put a mask on. I was just all creepy all the time.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11932547142801073974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-73118380717767984242013-06-14T02:38:44.270-07:002013-06-14T02:38:44.270-07:00*knew
It's too fucking early.*knew<br /><br />It's too fucking early.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11932547142801073974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-86087670410694402022013-06-14T02:37:27.827-07:002013-06-14T02:37:27.827-07:00@7:54 You seem to be of the opinion that every so...@7:54 You seem to be of the opinion that every sociopath has ulterior motives. It is true that sociopaths have motives, but many people get along with them just fine. If you provide enjoyable company, that could be all he wants from you.<br /><br />As for me, I cannot convince the people that know me the best that I am a sociopath. If I have base tendencies, they are so well suppressed that they don't bleed through (in real life, at least). You've known this guy for 4 years, and you haven't cut off contact with him. I have difficulty maintaining friendships for even a few months, but that could be because I'm very introverted. I don't explode on people, I just let the connection die. If you like the guy enough to stay in touch for 4 years, just be wary that he might drop the mask. There's no FUCK YOU and big explosion with sociopaths, just the person you think you once new so well giving you a cold, unemotional stare and refusing to put more effort into making you comfortable.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11932547142801073974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-62194549608441537752013-06-14T00:32:55.556-07:002013-06-14T00:32:55.556-07:00I once got burnt out through work and became depre...I once got burnt out through work and became depressed. Not as in low mood, but reduced physical and mental functions and if anything an absence of mood.<br />I quit the job, saw a couple of counsellors who said my depression was organic so there wasn't anything they could offer to talk me out of it. So I took anti-depressants and rested.<br />Weeks later as it lifted and my mood states returned, the first thing to come to any noticeable degree was my hate. Non-specific, unfocussed and undirected, my hate, along with happy and sad, is one of the only emotions I can readily identify within myself. <br />In short what you see of me here is not the result of burn-out.<br />Nor is it what you would see if you met me. I'm actually something of a pillar of the community!The daily larmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15833184253187027792noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-22425595555191070412013-06-13T21:47:29.952-07:002013-06-13T21:47:29.952-07:00With all due respect to anyone who think that they...With all due respect to anyone who think that they are a sociopath, I believe that you guys are probably (probably, but not certainly!) burnt out. I know because doing stuff like studying for 12 hours a day for 3 months when faced with tremendous pressure tends to make you emotionally fatigued and heedless of others' discomfort. When the exams were over - Hey, presto, I could feel again after a good night's untroubled rest!<br />Take a break for about a week, no work, no thoughts about anything else. Then tell me if you can still do what the author of the book did (jogging with earphones to drown out the sound of gunfire in the neighborhood). You'll probably realize that you are pretty ordinary after all. If you still score high for sociopathic traits on psychological checklists, then you might want to consider some professional help.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-62635872099187830352013-06-13T21:38:41.441-07:002013-06-13T21:38:41.441-07:00abacab<a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QbjfesCI254" rel="nofollow">abacab</a>aspienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-22490203917179829272013-06-13T20:58:33.083-07:002013-06-13T20:58:33.083-07:00This guy writes like a ponce. This guy writes like a ponce. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-79074249558539224932013-06-13T20:45:29.885-07:002013-06-13T20:45:29.885-07:00Is it me, or do a lot of people who post on this f...Is it me, or do a lot of people who post on this forum seem massively schizophrenic?<br /><br />They post and then post a question to themselves using a different name. A lot of them are from someone I know, I am not sure who.<br /><br />I know a lot of seriously pathological people.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-2866238631717663112013-06-13T20:22:53.226-07:002013-06-13T20:22:53.226-07:00You are taking what I say too literally. Nothing c...You are taking what I say too literally. Nothing can be explored with a closed mind.GagReflexhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18353809591040344208noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-50028463654595943042013-06-13T19:54:46.016-07:002013-06-13T19:54:46.016-07:00Andy - the good thing about this site is after rea...Andy - the good thing about this site is after reading through the post and comments - you learn and know more about sociopaths. The bad thing about this site is you learn and know more about sociopaths. <br />Do I take his admissions as a sign he wants me to know him on that level, or is he being cruel (duper's delight?) and eventually the whole thing will be ending with a big FUCK YOU when I am no longer of "value" to him? <br />What's an Empath to do? 'Cause from all I read here - the best answer is to RUN!, but that would also be the thing that sociopaths seem to hate most about us Empaths, our intolerance for sociopaths. <br /> <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-49713506228648783902013-06-13T18:56:40.139-07:002013-06-13T18:56:40.139-07:00Maybe he's doing a little soul-searching. I t...Maybe he's doing a little soul-searching. I thought I was a sociopath, then I thought I wasn't, and now I'm not 100% sure.<br /><br />If being a sociopath means I have to hurt the people I care about, or people that I may care about in the future, then I refuse to be a sociopath. I may have very little affective empathy, no guilt, and no remorse, but I have some measure of control over my will. I am not perfect, and never will be, but I will be good to the people around me.<br /><br />Yes, I get some small satisfaction, a wicked pleasure at being cruel, but it is nothing in the face of having a pleasant conversation with friends. I am not anti-social, and any anti-social tendencies I have, I fight with ferocity. I've always had an abundance of self-control. If your friend wants advice, advise him to reign in his base desires, recognize his impulses, and control them.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11932547142801073974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-75132303798036265312013-06-13T18:52:07.410-07:002013-06-13T18:52:07.410-07:00The writing in the article reminds me of TNP. I fe...The writing in the article reminds me of TNP. I feel manipulated.aspienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-37921677578002868452013-06-13T18:30:12.072-07:002013-06-13T18:30:12.072-07:00Maybe I'm just very drunk but don't we oft...Maybe I'm just very drunk but don't we often do "good" things for reasons that often don't have not much to do with "morals"? Morals are what? Morals are pertaining to, or concerned with the principles or rules of right conduct or the distinction between right and wrong; ethical: <br /><br />We do good things to make ourselves feel better, or as "payback" to those who have done us right, we do things that others may define as good/right but for us had not much intention. We do good things for people we value or love/like, or maybe because we were in an especially good mood (why can't we figure out how to replicate the conditions that brought such favors on our mood?) that day. Yes, we may do "good" things based on some rule system. Maybe all these things are the right thing to do. <br /><br />What about bad things though? This is where "morals" i think really comes into play, and where sociopaths fail perhaps often.<br /><br />M.E Wrote: <br /><br /><br />"if not morals, why might a sociopath choose to do something "good" or help people? A reader recently wrote about how his sense of aesthetics keeps him from doing anything base, such as brute strength violence"<br /><br />not doing violence or not doing evil is not the same as doing good<br />it sounds like in that example the person is doing harm/bad as well so it doesn't seem to be a good example of someone doing good for reasons other than morals, they are simply doing less inconvenient evil perhaps<br /><br /><a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?gl=GB&hl=en-GB&v=QK8mJJJvaes" rel="nofollow">fucking awesome</a><br />aspienoreply@blogger.com