tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post7254624377307324542..comments2024-03-28T00:33:57.308-07:00Comments on Sociopath World: Preattentive processingUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger261125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-17498988728660384122011-09-22T07:04:51.890-07:002011-09-22T07:04:51.890-07:00@Agnes-(I mean this to be helpful, not insulting o...@Agnes-(I mean this to be helpful, not insulting or anything.) Isn't half of your problems fairly obvious? If you could just find a way to stop caring what other people think so much you'd find life is a lot easier. Who cares what Erin thinks, or any other person on this board? Find someone who can help you with what you need and ignore the rest of the people because at the end of the day, who cares what they think?Lukenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-23867418156628023512011-09-22T05:23:44.357-07:002011-09-22T05:23:44.357-07:00This is pretty ridiculous to me. Because we don&#...This is pretty ridiculous to me. Because we don't process things in the same way doesn't mean we don't process them. We're not afraid of the same things you're afraid of, maybe that's why his little test didn't work.Lukenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-55628541157980150622011-09-20T17:36:47.655-07:002011-09-20T17:36:47.655-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.*Sparklebug*https://www.blogger.com/profile/00430626622082339790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-68142743910009729152011-09-20T11:10:09.614-07:002011-09-20T11:10:09.614-07:00The Wikipedia article specifically mentions preatt...The Wikipedia article specifically mentions preattentive processing in language, and I'm curious about this preattentive processing in language because on brain scans 'paths don't process language as other people do. <br /><br />Do we have a universal grammar like empaths, or do we just emulate them as kids to get what we want?<br /><br />Chomsky suggested there is a part of the brain called the LAD (language acquisition device) that deals with symbolic language and that empaths need an innate understanding of symbolism to learn language. Whereas we take things much more literally. If there is an LAD, then I'm sure we don't use it to learn language.Kureanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-45396083516755289102011-09-20T01:35:33.663-07:002011-09-20T01:35:33.663-07:00Sparklebug, youch. I have a hip-socket problem. No...Sparklebug, youch. I have a hip-socket problem. Not looking forward to the cold. I'm sorry you are in pain.<br /><br />TNP is a man-child, Erin. What can you expect from him? It has little to do with evil, though, and everything to do with uncontrollable nature. He prob comes here to self medicate -a wee bit like you- to prevent him from acting out irl.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-54645032219667620592011-09-20T01:21:36.674-07:002011-09-20T01:21:36.674-07:00Wheatly I wasn't interested in the technical a...Wheatly I wasn't interested in the technical aspect of ME's learning curve, but thank you. I was more interested in an example. <br /><br />I often have trouble getting the main idea because I'll focus on one thing. I read slowly. I had some trouble with reading comprehension as a child, I think, because I'd get hung up on a detail. I also used to give a confused look to my best friends when trying to understand something pretty simple. They'd imitate my look. I have done well training myself not to use this look socially, but sometimes in professional situations when I want to be expert, I want to make very sure I understand. People will say "you ok? You're giving me a confused look." When I get clear, I am extremely clear and ahead of people. I'll even see more angles. but it takes longer to be clear.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-15195176794275105112011-09-20T00:59:47.763-07:002011-09-20T00:59:47.763-07:00TNP said: When they believe their own bullshit, yo...TNP said: When they believe their own bullshit, you can't measure what they say by mannerisms, tone, et cetera, but by pure logic. If it sounds too good to be true, or bullshit, it probably is.<br /><br />Being raised by a Narcissist forced me to lie constantly to protect myself. Lie about my intentions, my actions, my thoughts, and what I thought about him and his actions. Also, of course lying to get myself out of things since the punishments were cruelly severe and over tiny slights.<br /><br />TNP this here is exactly how I reacted to my ex. I was faking it with him. I won't ever be with someone like that again. It is simply exhausting. I was acting as if I was a member of his immediate family, as if I had no choice but to put up with the bs. I had adopted their ways with him. This is why all the vetting and exposure to them I am sure. <br /><br />He'd scoot out of his house in the AM so i'd be forced to have breakfast with the Mom. The first time we all went out he said, "See, this is the whole family". It was WAY WAY soon. I actually felt more bonded with his family than with him. It was like we all had this secret about his wacky side. It brought us together. Very, very strange.<br /><br />Re: his lies: One time he said his Mom and a very famous person's Mom were tied together in a special way--that they were close. His sibling said "stop it( ). Just stop it." He was trying to get me to think I could have an associate from this social connection. The last time I spoke with him, he claimed he couldn't talk about something because it brought back bad memories from a war....OMG that man didn't serve in no war.. <br /><br />He bragged about being a "good actor"! He'd lied in a news broadcast about serving, I chided him, and he admitted it was a stupid thing to have done. Strange. He had limited impulse control and was cavalier about it. <br /><br />I caught him in a lie to me once. He'd forgotten about it. He was embarrassed. He knew when he was lying, which is why I think he had sociopathy, too. Once we bumped into one of my friends and he wanted a consult from him, and said "we'll tell him you need it for xyz. I said: "Um, he's my friend. No need to make up stories. He's a good guy. He will just do it for you/me" <br /><br />See some of these lies were unnecessary. The very dangerous ones I won't disclose here. But they were psychopathic in nature.girl with narcy exnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-36358738245695177902011-09-19T05:55:41.153-07:002011-09-19T05:55:41.153-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-34533111323566213302011-09-19T05:22:37.823-07:002011-09-19T05:22:37.823-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.*Sparklebug*https://www.blogger.com/profile/00430626622082339790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-36299929375435194982011-09-19T04:42:56.248-07:002011-09-19T04:42:56.248-07:00What Auto immune disorder do you have?What Auto immune disorder do you have?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-60117093391005896802011-09-19T04:37:39.644-07:002011-09-19T04:37:39.644-07:00Well, Sparkle
If you have your own purposes for s...Well, Sparkle<br /> If you have your own purposes for staying, that is good, whatever they may be.<br /> If not,it certainly would not be worth it, on the face of it :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-61121282279331587872011-09-19T04:27:20.618-07:002011-09-19T04:27:20.618-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.*Sparklebug*https://www.blogger.com/profile/00430626622082339790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-33487586525811192622011-09-19T03:30:33.726-07:002011-09-19T03:30:33.726-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-25970522519473637662011-09-19T03:27:46.190-07:002011-09-19T03:27:46.190-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-73113347263535889232011-09-19T00:21:53.820-07:002011-09-19T00:21:53.820-07:00That's probably because he diverts his narciss...That's probably because he diverts his narcissistic rage away from the family and focuses that energy into wholly seducing the new girlfriend.<br /><br />I don't think narcs become pathological liars because of some greater good. Not the pure version, at least. It's probably more to help boost their own self-esteem, make others feel inferior, or maintain it at artificially high levels.<br /><br />I had a very difficult time discerning my father's lies from truths without direct proof as a child. When they believe their own bullshit, you can't measure what they say by mannerisms, tone, et cetera, but by pure logic. If it sounds too good to be true, or bullshit, it probably is.<br /><br />Being raised by a Narcissist forced me to lie constantly to protect myself. Lie about my intentions, my actions, my thoughts, and what I thought about him and his actions. Also, of course lying to get myself out of things since the punishments were cruelly severe and over tiny slights.<br /><br />In the end, this sort of early childhood training has helped more than it has hurt, but the shitty things about lies is that they are flawed machinations. If you don't take them to heart, own them, let them become a fake part of your past or present, you can forget them easily since they are simply fiction.<br /><br />Was your Narc ex a liar about who he was mostly, what he thought, past actions, the whole package? And if the whole package, which lies did he indulge in the most? They are the most sensitive parts of his fragile ego. If you can discern those and pick them to pieces, you can tear his pride and ego a new one.TNPnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-32253315333392443862011-09-18T23:32:58.685-07:002011-09-18T23:32:58.685-07:00TNP, my ex takes his rage out on the family. His f...TNP, my ex takes his rage out on the family. His family gets excited when he has a new gf because the gf puts him in a "better place" and he is more tolerable all around. <br /> <br /><br />He became a massive pathological liar, I believe, because the entire family had to cover for the father's lies. His father was pretty weird--lied about his tribal status, and sort of led a double life for a bit. My ex is paranoid that everyone is a shit and a liar. -Can ya blame him? <br /><br />I speculate he's angry at the Mom for having turned a blind eye to the lies, and ALSO entitled to a woman LIKE Mom, who will go the extra mile to back him up.girl w/ narcy exnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-20782677439445700872011-09-18T22:18:20.465-07:002011-09-18T22:18:20.465-07:00They used sprinkler piping to replace the piping f...They used sprinkler piping to replace the piping for the house which has two bathrooms, one of which is upstairs. Even a idiot would know that a plastic sprinkler pipe would not hold the pressure of a entire households water, especially when there's bathrooms on two different floors. This old fuck is a cheap bastard and didn't deserve this house. Fortunately I'm making him face his responsibilities of being a home owner. I can't buy a house because I can't show any income. I'm trying to find a way to remedy that. Till then I have to threaten my landlords.<br /> She told my wife that somebody told her that I was difficult to deal with, but my wife was real nice. She didn't say who or in what context. Nobody knows me in this community. I think she was just trying to make me look like the bad guy to my wife while relating to her to get my wife to warm up to her. It worked. I had to argue with my wife about it. <br />She's a shrewd women of a fat old narcissist husband. Hes so delusional he actually thinks that this shite is my fault even though I just moved in last month and everyone from the contractors to the handyman and the fucking plumber have told him that it was because of his shortcuts he took in maintnance to the home that he has these problems. I went at it with his wife and she ended up capitulating. I'm vindictive and she's a intuitive women being a teacher and all. She wouldn't raise her voice she would try to soothe me while I kept a booming voice at her. That doesn't work on me I'm no child, I just act like one. Once she understood her position she called back and asked for my wife. She told my wife she would fix everything. She didn't want to admit to me she was giving in because she knew I would be grinning.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-23629146359329823542011-09-18T21:56:30.929-07:002011-09-18T21:56:30.929-07:00No. What's the question.No. What's the question.Mɵᴅʊsahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13217438537249025614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-28403952728331121132011-09-18T21:44:36.485-07:002011-09-18T21:44:36.485-07:00Medusa, did you see my question from earlier?Medusa, did you see my question from earlier?TNPnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-8625372272802229392011-09-18T21:43:30.553-07:002011-09-18T21:43:30.553-07:00Nope. It's not.
You're just a spiteful bi...Nope. It's not.<br /><br />You're just a spiteful bitch. It's clear as day.<br /><br />Don't die of your sleep apnea, Sparklebug. You should really do something about those fat folds around your neck restricting your airways. It'll kill you before the big bad sociopaths will.TNPnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-72610459538928404102011-09-18T21:43:11.290-07:002011-09-18T21:43:11.290-07:00I think the sociopath friend is either Mania or Zw...I think the sociopath friend is either Mania or Zwang, not a real life person.<br /><br />Anyway, who cares.Mɵᴅʊsahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13217438537249025614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-72675566139709967132011-09-18T21:37:09.141-07:002011-09-18T21:37:09.141-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.*Sparklebug*https://www.blogger.com/profile/00430626622082339790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-55179103628552380152011-09-18T21:34:34.609-07:002011-09-18T21:34:34.609-07:00That's a shame, UKan.
I've dealt with som...That's a shame, UKan.<br /><br />I've dealt with some pretty sleazy and or weird landlords in the past. I'm looking to buy a house in the next year or two.<br /><br />I remember one of my landlords owned most of the flats in this building, and he liked to do the gardening shirtless (he was an extremely hairy Armenian) while wearing the smallest jogging shorts he could smuggle his nether-regions into. He also liked to crank up his walkman and sing to Michael Jackson. Don't get me wrong, I've got nothing against the guy, but it was a comically tragic sight.<br /><br />I've only ever had one true slumlord that pushed my limits beyond anything reasonable. I hated that woman with a passion. She worked with the homeless shelter when I was getting off the streets and she provided me with a tiny flat. Her junky son (at least heroin) controlled the thermostat from an adjacent unit and would crank up the heat when it was hot, turn on the AC when it was freezing, and would never answer his door. He actually called the cops on me once saying that I broke into his flat with a shotgun and stole his refrigerator. What a piece of work.<br /><br />And that was just the drama. The flat itself was grungy, ruined by mold, had piss poor insulation, pest problems, and dirty water flowing through the pipes. She of course fixed none of these problems. Still, it was a step up from being homeless.TNPnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-69298665038383985792011-09-18T21:30:59.716-07:002011-09-18T21:30:59.716-07:00She doesn't want to talk to you by email becau...She doesn't want to talk to you by email because she wants to exploit your past on here in front of everyobe Agnes. Look how persistent she is on you posting your personal details on here and not over email. She has no reason to do that except to put you out there for the wolves to feed on you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-79827226789669102662011-09-18T21:27:37.770-07:002011-09-18T21:27:37.770-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com