tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post6534651691433037487..comments2024-03-28T00:33:57.308-07:00Comments on Sociopath World: Playing a trump cardUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger265125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-52431980898041825262017-03-15T17:24:46.411-07:002017-03-15T17:24:46.411-07:00North I think that there is nothing more powerful ...North I think that there is nothing more powerful than love in its purest form. There is a reason that people seek it like a lost relic. Never doubt yourself. There are so many things that I have experienced that I truly can't explain. and all I can do is continue to step bravely into the future despite the past.anonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06171208907687415100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-53713096583327893302017-03-14T19:03:16.029-07:002017-03-14T19:03:16.029-07:00Thanks so much, Superchick. It's humbling and ...Thanks so much, Superchick. It's humbling and beautiful to read. I'm glad you have your husband on your side :)<br /><br />"Shark music": I like that and think it's perfectly fair!!<br /><br />What you've written is very encouraging. I have still plenty of work to do around my own triggers; honestly, I think his are very similar only we handle them a bit differently. I'm proud that this last time I didn't throw any grenades at him, I only cried and asked for what I needed. I still ran away. But it was a tiny, baby step. <br /><br />"Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have."<br /><br />I know a bit more now about what I'm working on :)<br /><br />Thanks again SCNorthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09244806273774124428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-74785623428048571662017-03-14T18:51:14.284-07:002017-03-14T18:51:14.284-07:00You have posted a detailed document having full of...You have posted a detailed document having full of latest information. I read this whole content and really liked it. Thanks for sharing.<br />* <a href="http://googlemaps-streetview.com/" rel="nofollow">google maps street view</a> <br />* <a href="http://emailsignupguide.com/" rel="nofollow">email sign up</a> Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-79143114540347069202017-03-14T06:57:36.657-07:002017-03-14T06:57:36.657-07:00Hey morning North, sorry couldn't respond earl...Hey morning North, sorry couldn't respond earlier my goat is having her kids so it's been busy. "Have I come across any psychopaths I my life." I don't believe so intimately because my definition has changed through the years. It's more like the " almost a sociopath definition I've come across." <br />I usually come across very empathetic individuals or individuals who are not so emotional driven. Both to me can come across callous in ways and also very wonderful in ways. It's a spectrum of virtues, mannerisms and seeing through people's shit no matter the personality. So for me to trust someone, I have to really come to know them whether they're more empathic based or sociopathic in nature. Both to me can betray trust. Both to me can enhance my trust further. So for your boyfriend you'll be the best judge for that as you deal with the stuff he projects out of him. And everyone does it whether we know it or not. My husband and I like to call it " shark music playing in the back round." Haha. <br /><br />Here's the thing: I thought I was a cluster b borderline but they say my records never met diagnose for that and I'm actually ptsd with adhd. Im actually in sexual abuse counselling and recently got assessed for adhd and ptsd & I met criteria. The doc believes the system failed me years back in 2011 for saying I had the "borderline tendencies." It's all subjective he said & the pain of childhood trauma always gets mixed up with that borderline stuff but in actual reality its just ptsd playing itself out. And it will keep playing if I don't equip myself properly. <br />So mine and my husbands personalities attracted each other. My husband is a strong man not emotionally driven but emotionally driven for his immediate family. He's been telling me for years to deal with my sexual abuse trauma and to deflect responsibility where it's suppose to be projected at. I sadly projected lots of stuff on him. And he'll call me on it. Just yesterday when the " fight flight response gets triggers" and I want to run and complete the loop cycle of threat because I perceive threat he'll text me and say, " it's up to you to break the cycle, come back , I love you , your not being disrespected, it's how your perceiving it right now and have supper with me. " I'm growing and learning to attain my boundaries with my actual abusers and bystanders. It's empowering and my husband is the only one who sees me waking up in the middle of the night - shivering - shaking - flash backing. And he'll wrap his arms around me. He's actually been in counselling with me to understand this shit a little bit more. I usually take him in periodically. I told my husband if I actually deal with this stupid abuse shit I might become vulnerable for a bit and look pathetic. I never ever wanted that. Never. I avoided that all my life. He told me, " your not pathetic -you have to deal with this or else it keeps playing itself out. " So he's my safe zone. I think he can deal with it because he tries to keep me grounded. <br />And it's funny because when I see vulnerable people I don't try to exhort power over them but offer them humility and understanding. Isn't it time to offer this to myself no matter how I look on the outside. ;) AnywayI must run along and check on the animals. Talk soon. Superchicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-70174238060768754792017-03-13T19:41:15.299-07:002017-03-13T19:41:15.299-07:00Hi, I was wondering if any of you could offer me a...Hi, I was wondering if any of you could offer me assistance. I'm a 74 year old female and I love to fuck hard and fierce. I need cock stuffed into me. You see , I have this obsession in shaving superhero characters into my pussy. The men don't seem to mind because I'm an artist at heart. I did want to inform my doctor but am quite embarrassed as he might want to see it. What should I do? Thinking of going with the Darth Vader look next time I'm into seeing doc. Self help for anti-slutsnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-36655723843806674002017-03-13T10:53:47.090-07:002017-03-13T10:53:47.090-07:00You see, many of the troubles going on in the worl...<em>You see, many of the troubles going on in the world right now are being supervised by people with very good intentions whose attempts are to keep things in order, to clean things up, to forbid this, and to prevent that. The more we try to put everything to rights, the more we make fantastic messes. Maybe that is the way it has got to be. Maybe I should not say anything at all about the folly of trying to put things to right but simply, on the principle of Blake, let the fool persist in his folly so that he will become wise.</em><br /><br />That's me, following my own course that looks so much like folly to anyone else, no doubt. Northhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09244806273774124428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-81331724588982902922017-03-13T10:51:27.306-07:002017-03-13T10:51:27.306-07:00Hi anon,
Ok. What you wrote made an intuitive imp...Hi anon,<br /><br />Ok. What you wrote made an intuitive impression. <br /><br /><em><br /><strong>Dover Beach</strong><br />BY MATTHEW ARNOLD<br />The sea is calm tonight. <br />The tide is full, the moon lies fair <br />Upon the straits; on the French coast the light <br />Gleams and is gone; the cliffs of England stand, <br />Glimmering and vast, out in the tranquil bay. <br />Come to the window, sweet is the night-air! <br />Only, from the long line of spray <br />Where the sea meets the moon-blanched land, <br />Listen! you hear the grating roar <br />Of pebbles which the waves draw back, and fling, <br />At their return, up the high strand, <br />Begin, and cease, and then again begin, <br />With tremulous cadence slow, and bring <br />The eternal note of sadness in. <br /><br />Sophocles long ago <br />Heard it on the Ægean, and it brought <br />Into his mind the turbid ebb and flow <br />Of human misery; we <br />Find also in the sound a thought, <br />Hearing it by this distant northern sea. <br /><br />The Sea of Faith <br />Was once, too, at the full, and round earth’s shore <br />Lay like the folds of a bright girdle furled. <br />But now I only hear <br />Its melancholy, long, withdrawing roar, <br />Retreating, to the breath <br />Of the night-wind, down the vast edges drear <br />And naked shingles of the world. <br /><br />Ah, love, let us be true <br />To one another! for the world, which seems <br />To lie before us like a land of dreams, <br />So various, so beautiful, so new, <br />Hath really neither joy, nor love, nor light, <br />Nor certitude, nor peace, nor help for pain; <br />And we are here as on a darkling plain <br />Swept with confused alarms of struggle and flight, <br />Where ignorant armies clash by night.<br /></em><br /><br />And Alan Watts:<br /><br /><em>what makes you think you have to have something to hold on to?</em><br /><br />Life is formless, unnavigable in any definitive sense. And yet we navigate :)Northhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09244806273774124428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-51268207399728630262017-03-13T10:40:00.456-07:002017-03-13T10:40:00.456-07:00Unravelling those reasons... that forever-process....Unravelling those reasons... that forever-process.<br /><br />Returning from a ride, it started pelting rain. The dark was closing. I could roughly see the fire-trail ahead, but none of its features. Flying into the night, careening down a hill, with only my memory and dim shapes to guide me. There was a thrill in it, the sharp dampness on the skin, the embrace of darkness, the pebbles richocheting from the tyres. Not the fastest journey, but richer, more memorable, more alive.<br /><br />The question I asked: why would I want to be with someone who is callous?<br /><br />The real question: why *do* I want to be with someone who ignores my stated needs and requests?<br /><br />The answer: because that's what I learned love is.<br /><br />I choose to let myself feel the frustration and sadness, to stop fighting those feelings and expecting something different to happen. My tears are like that rain, it's so hazy. The only thing I know is that this road always leads me to a place of greater capacity.<br /><br />I remember what Base groove on INTJF told me: you have shown your capacity to act on your own free will and he will not have a relationship like that as a psychopath.<br /><br />I had to test that hypothesis. He calls me stubborn; I think the more I do assert my selfhood, the more he tries to "pin me down administratively", the more he inserts distance, controls the communication channels.<br /><br />The process for me is to sort through the wild feelings triggered when his behaviour needles my soft spots. To sort through them until what I really want emerges. <br /><br />It would be nice if he were able to do the same. But I can't expect or rely on it. We hide those things so deeply from our own selves and try to force others to meet us only where we feel safe and strong. I can understand that. But I won't diminish / expose myself to allow him the sole place of safety. There should be a shared space of safety, as well as our own private spaces. If I knew how to offer that peace to him, I would do that. I don't know if shared spaces are possible for them, though. <br /><br />Superchick, what is your experience? Do you have any advice as regards finding trust with a psychopath? I did ask him to trust me, but that was after an epic emotional rant and now I've hidden my phone and diverted my calls to a backup phone because I'm a frightened rabbit (it's very unlikely he'll call, so I'm in an **-* -free bubble.)Northnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-2865032817334737052017-03-13T10:10:44.792-07:002017-03-13T10:10:44.792-07:00Hey Superchick,
I'm not much of a one for pop...Hey Superchick,<br /><br />I'm not much of a one for pop culture, lol, so I don't have other recommendations :p. I'm glad you liked The Girl on the Train, though!<br /><br /><em>I always admired people who knew not to exhort power over vulnerable types but offer humility and kindness instead of following the typical crowd. I find that the most authentic power there is....people have trouble attaining that. Maybe we all do in some capacity. </em><br />Thanks for sharing those thoughts. It made me feel something... I'm not sure what. Maybe hope?<br /><br /><em>Most people deal with there own inner demons inside. It's all a mirror, a reflection in how you treat others is what's happening inside of you.</em><br />This is a handy tool for self-reflection. Thanks.<br /><br /><em>Thank God number 1 girl finally figured it out.</em> Yep! I reckon there are reasons for our obsessions... we're waiting for the puzzle pieces to click into place. Notice she stopped drinking when she got her answer. I think that's how it works.<br />Northhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09244806273774124428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-61969863390033292342017-03-13T07:38:46.118-07:002017-03-13T07:38:46.118-07:00North hi. It is an excellent movie. I have been ...North hi. It is an excellent movie. I have been thinking about certain parts for a while. When I say sociopaths can become sadistic I don't feel I'm describing it correctly. I think we "push" ourselves. As you said there is a reason for why we go back to things. The scene where she was described as being a kicked dog. This was her insisting nature. And I feel it works against their (sociopaths) nature. anonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06171208907687415100noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-52924038287329962342017-03-12T12:04:16.232-07:002017-03-12T12:04:16.232-07:00North I just finished the movie that was a good on...North I just finished the movie that was a good one. <br /><br />Anymore you can suggest? Work is boring today. <br /><br />All that kept running through my mind through this movie: Why is it that when people present themselves vulnerable and maybe weak looking, certain personalities exhort power over them instead of trying to help them. While keeping in mind that it's just a movie but there's individuals out there that do just this. Maybe not to this extreme but to other extremes. <br /><br />I always admired people who knew not to exhort power over vulnerable types but offer humility and kindness instead of following the typical crowd. I find that the most authentic power there is....people have trouble attaining that. Maybe we all do in some capacity. <br /><br />Most people deal with there own inner demons inside. It's all a mirror, a reflection in how you treat others is what's happening inside of you. <br /><br />Thank God number 1 girl finally figured it out. Superchicknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-20230290593463972902017-03-12T08:42:48.472-07:002017-03-12T08:42:48.472-07:00..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-64493804264585651972017-03-11T15:45:44.342-08:002017-03-11T15:45:44.342-08:00He used to say that he thought he would marry me t...<em>He used to say that he thought he would marry me the first time he ever saw me, walking into work behind him, and that he made sure not to hold the door open "so I wouldn't immediately get the upper hand"<br />I always thought it was so sweet, and funny, and isn't that just like him to be weird about a door...</em><br /><br />I missed this earlier. It's amusing in a strange way, isn't it. There is something almost quaint about it (from a neurotypical viewpoint.)<br /><br />**-* actually did something very similar although the opposite: he tried to hold the door for me. This was during the cat-and-mouse phase while the court obligation was in effect. It felt like a power play to me so i offered him the door. There was a weird moment with both of us standing there. I eventually marched through and went to pay my parking ticket while he went down in the lift.<br /><br />Someone here commented not long after that holding a door can be a means of establishing physical dominance. So this is how I started to understand things in my way.Northnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-30937413218172666232017-03-11T14:03:37.606-08:002017-03-11T14:03:37.606-08:00WierdWierdAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-52758307566958142172017-03-11T14:02:01.695-08:002017-03-11T14:02:01.695-08:00https://giveaway.amazon.com/p/4fc10a3f66b86d6e
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i quoted the bible because the quot...hey ex-wife, <br /><br />i quoted the bible because the quote makes sense. and it's true.<br />(i'm not religious)<br />anyways.<br /><br />let me show you this logic.<br /><br />it would be true that your husband has never loved you, IF, he acted like how Tii said.<br /><br />obviously that's not the case. Tii doesn't even believe in love. so if a girl did to him what you did, then it wouldn't affect him as much.<br /><br />but your husband trusted you, and loved you (in his way)<br /><br />and most sociopaths don't know that they're a sociopath.<br /><br />you have to understand, that this term has a stigma. and most rationals don't want to say that they are.<br /><br />and this psychological term is fairly still new. not even 100 years old. <br /><br />it's kind of like a spring.<br />the more you put pressure on the spring, it will "spring" up further.<br /><br />so that's how you trigger his sociopathic behavior. <br /><br />and http://www.socionics.com/rel/dlt.htm<br />this link will explain why you(INFP) is attracted to sociopathic(ESTP) types. it's the best match.<br /><br />and i didn't know i was a psychopath until i was 19.<br />but when i found out that i was, it made perfect sense.<br /><br /><br />and i don't consider INTJ as sociopath.<br />they are just rationals. and have much tendencies of one.<br />but not a 'complete' one.<br /><br />INTJs are not 'charming'. so no. you guys are just a boring logical intelligent people.<br /><br />actually, what is even sociopath anyways.<br />everyone has different views of it.<br />this term psychopath/sociopath is very flawed.<br />but it is useful in some ways.<br /><br />it is merely a 'tool' to understand one's behavior. <br /><br />it is not a 'weapon' to categorize someone to play the 'victim'.<br /><br /><br />and alice, i wouldn't want to share my email on this comment, how would we even exchange emails? and that would mean 'someone'(emotional victim) might blackmail me. haha jk<br /><br />and LET people read all these comments. so they can learn and educate themselves. and be ready to get called out on their irrational judgments.<br /><br />it's all of useful information anyways.<br /><br />and ex-wife has already pasted all of her stories on here. so maybe someone can look at her story, and relate. and see that there are comments out there that is 'practical'. not everyone is going to read and comment afterwards.<br /><br />it is beneficial to some.<br /><br />but some people are annoyed. (i don't care about these ones) too bad sucka. haha jk<br /><br />supernocturnalnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-20370630075397091382017-03-10T20:51:50.772-08:002017-03-10T20:51:50.772-08:00..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-39936786016512633522017-03-10T20:44:47.484-08:002017-03-10T20:44:47.484-08:00lol, why would you delude yourself beyond the poin...lol, why would you delude yourself beyond the point of deluding those who don't deserve truth in their lives. <br />If someone isn't capable of taking bs for what it is and make it into a sanctified truth, you know they don't deserve to be an acceptable person. <br />Been there and done that.<br />My bs might not pass the smell test, but at least it's solid enough to help that which I learn to care about.Venator of Verumnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-65797776846089271462017-03-10T17:37:13.157-08:002017-03-10T17:37:13.157-08:00. ... .. ... .Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-80235854886248606322017-03-10T16:48:14.453-08:002017-03-10T16:48:14.453-08:00..Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-24846083979758074942017-03-10T16:44:06.642-08:002017-03-10T16:44:06.642-08:00X wife,
You seem to have absorbed and processed a...X wife,<br /><br />You seem to have absorbed and processed a lot from your experiences. Because of that, I have a couple of other suggestions from what I have learned, but it's totally up to you as to whether they suit you. As Superchick (?) said, I'm another random on the Internet.<br /><br />Nevertheless...<br /><br />The language we use with ourselves and others is very important. One thing I think **-* appreciated was my explaining why I had acted the way I did (in sending the letter to his wife.) <br /><br />You've mentioned a few times about learning from your experiences; you're taking steps to take care of your health and education. That's really awesome stuff and the beginnings of a powerful and compelling narrative. <br /><br />Flesh out the vision of yourself: a capable person who can handle challenges and care for her kids. Think about the things that inspire you and fuel your passion in life at the moment. <br /><br />Then you can create a very positive narrative around what has happened in the past as the beginnings of this significant journey for yourself. Be honest about what happened. Note where you were scared or frustrated or lonely or whatever and how you handled those things by trying to eliminate the pain in ways that ended up hurting him even though that wasn't your intention. That sort of thing. <br /><br />Now your narrative has a vision and a starting point, you can explain how where you currently are is enabling you to take your history lessons and transform them into your vision. <br /><br />Include anything you want in the narrative. Be as honest as possible, as accurate as possible, but please use positive framing. Framing that is merciful to yourself by being factual and not applying any judgement to yourself whatsoever. <br /><br />You will now when the time is right to provide this factual explanation to your ex. He probably is confused by what you did. So explain it and calmly explain what you have learned and why you want him as part of your life.<br /><br />It might take some time to work through all your feelings but it's worth the effort, even for yourself. <br /><br />Also, have you seen The Girl on the Train? I recommend it. There's always a reason for pain, dissonance, obsession. Trust the intuitions coming from your own brain over anything else.Northnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-6534184418209547122017-03-10T16:21:56.176-08:002017-03-10T16:21:56.176-08:00"He knows where I am. He knows how I feel, or..."He knows where I am. He knows how I feel, or, at least I have told him. He responds more angrily to my professions of love, even without asking for anything back, than he has in the past to my anger. <br /><br />It feels like he really does want me to just give up..."<br /><br />My interpretation is that he doesn't believe you / is still angry at what you've done. This is a process that has to play out for him. He needs time.<br /><br />He might design his interactions for you to feel like that, it puts him in a safer place. If its over, he's the one who chose it. Something like that. <br /><br />Two things about "deserving" another chance:<br />1. Forgive yourself. I highly recommend this. You were balancing your competing needs in the best way you knew how. You know more now, and can do things in more effective ways. You are out of that space and into a new one of greater self awareness. Be merciful to yourself: this is the best habit you can create and you will learn to create better deserts for yourself. This is the fount of self-respect.<br /><br />2. His revenge is probably his way of re-establishing equity. When we are angry, we become hyper focused on getting "justice" or "righting the wrong", that sort of thing. It's probably similar for him, meaning he'd be focused on wounding just as SN described. He might not have a plan beyond that, he probably can't see beyond that objective of re-establishing what he views as equilibrium. That has to play out in full. We all want fair treatment... but once that is achieved, the need for revenge may be discharged. What happens subsequently may be subject to some of your influence.<br /><br />(These ideas stem from me exploring why I had such strong impulses for revenge. It would be great to hear alice or SN or anyone else explain how they experience it.)<br /><br />Oh, and I think revenge is very much more about achieving a fair outcome than it is about sadism. Even for sociopaths. If we want to break out of revenge cycles, this is a very valuable thing to be aware of because the following questions becomes available: What do I really want here? What does the other person want? What is fair? What would the other person regard as fair? How can I negotiate this? Northnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-15789961952815072552017-03-10T16:06:41.137-08:002017-03-10T16:06:41.137-08:00"And now, he is cold. Every part of his inter..."And now, he is cold. Every part of his interactions with me are different. And they are cold."<br /><br />Remember I experienced both ;) It's not fixed in time.<br /><br />About your ex saying he wants you to move on... <br /><br />**-* did something like that to me. I got an entirely strange lecture about the virtues of staying in a painful marriage and how our affair was a lively dream but it was over now. He didn't pull that lecture off at all and later said that sort of thing wasn't his "forte" and that he shouldn't have tried it.<br /><br />I had broken it off initially.<br /><br />Even this time around, he hedges his bets with me. If I say something he could possibly interpret as distance or interest in someone/something else, he immediately enforces distance or claims he is busy or something that goes above and beyond whatever threat he imagined I was posing. He did this because I enrolled in an training program for early in the evening on a night we usually meet, meaning I'd be 15 mins later than normal. Just as an example.<br /><br />anon has observed there's an inevitability to revenge when the take it. Supernocturnal's descriptions of it made a lot of sense. I see it as their need to be in a position with leverage and not one of vulnerability. I think it's a very particular need for them and something we can recognise and work with. It's not super easy, though, because they are elusive about what their needs are and the puzzle pieces come together in retrospect .. "oh that's why you were doing that!" I think it's so instinctive for them to establish advantage or leverage, it's front of mind, something very native. That's the frame by which they scan the environment. And it's a very physical thing too. They don't want to be in a place they can't get out of. Makes sense, no one does. I just feel it's a hyper awareness in comparison with a neurotypicals level.<br /><br />So my point is really that maybe, if he is still engaging with you, sending messages through others, devaluing or trying to get you to move on... that is a revenge pattern. It's not necessarily a guarantee of anything in the future but it does say what happened in the marriage was significant to him. Northhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09244806273774124428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-1594429813748695252017-03-10T16:05:10.968-08:002017-03-10T16:05:10.968-08:00"However, he hasn't ever denied being one..."However, he hasn't ever denied being one, asked me why I thought so, and when I rattled off a list, he didn't say anything at all."<br /><br />Lol, same with **-*, only when I rattled off my list (via email), he said he loved it :pNorthnoreply@blogger.com