tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post5770696981036879611..comments2024-03-28T00:33:57.308-07:00Comments on Sociopath World: Informed consentUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger50125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-13384916180004027232014-11-30T23:40:18.865-08:002014-11-30T23:40:18.865-08:00Honestly, if she really is a sociopath, then my be...Honestly, if she really is a sociopath, then my best guess is she wasn't interested in you to begin with (at least not seriously). Rather, she wanted to amuse herself with you briefly, get you to believe she felt something, appear mysterious, and then be on her way because she was never really interested anyway. She probably loves the idea that you're yearning over her, which you can never have.<br /><br />I could be totally wrong, though.<br /><br />You know, what this reminds me of is a woman I met in August. Neither of us is a sociopath, but her mind is really fucked up from my perspective. Then again, so is mine. I liked her because we were similar in many ways, both good and bad. I felt so intrigued, she seemed both deeply familiar and yet mysterious in an unusual way: I wanted to know just how similar and different we were because of all the known commonalities. But once I got to know her just a little beyond meeting her at a conference... well... I soon began to feel differently. Reading her blog was like walking into a swamp. It was so uncomfortable, and I immediately lost interest in her. But face-to-face she is so lovely, even if her insecurities started to become apparent fairly early on. I mostly adored her in person.... but when I read her blog I realized she's just like a slightly less eloquent, less intelligent, and less insightful version of me. And I wanted no part of it. I mean, she even said things to me like, "I'm afraid to get involved with women because I don't want to hurt their feelings... I've already hurt so many men's feelings and had so many fucked up relationships with men that I'm used to it and it's okay." I knew from almost the moment I met her that we were a terrible match based on sharing certain similarities, but I still pursued it... I had to see inside her mind for myself in order for the reality to actually hit me that yes, we are a terrible match... thankfully it did not take long.<br /><br />You are similarly intrigued by this woman. It might seem incomprehensible because she is so nice on the surface... but inside she was probably having some dark, horrible thoughts about you already. That was pretty much the case with my story.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-7095733098918531442014-10-26T11:35:50.188-07:002014-10-26T11:35:50.188-07:00The moth perhaps knows the flame will eventually k...The moth perhaps knows the flame will eventually kill it, but is drawn to it's light nonetheless. Being in the light is evidently worth the price. AZWarriornoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-87218332911059208652014-10-24T15:13:18.972-07:002014-10-24T15:13:18.972-07:00"Whether or not older women are better at ora..."Whether or not older women are better at oral sex, providing free babysitting of their grandkids and baking cookies, it doesn't change the fact that men aren't attracted to them viscerally the way they are attracted to young fertile women."<br /><br />You are generalizing from your experience of 'visceral' attraction to all men. Can you consider the possibility that your experience doesn't apply to all men? Also, trivializing being a better lover by giving better oral sex suggests that we have quite different notions about sexual intimacy and the possibities for experience there.<br />DoctorSciFihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13423928917489228542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-82477361053347244422014-10-24T13:41:36.896-07:002014-10-24T13:41:36.896-07:00"Old people like to orgasm. So what?" b..."Old people like to orgasm. So what?" but I thought you said men are only sexually attracted to women who can have babies?Dr. Gingernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-817154605923876822014-10-24T12:29:42.279-07:002014-10-24T12:29:42.279-07:00This is the callous sexist pig again, responding.
...This is the callous sexist pig again, responding.<br /><br />"What I am bothered by is the fact that you are completly comfortable ignoring all of the complexities when it comes to sexuality, and you continue to discuss from a male's perspective."<br /><br />I was talking about my choices. I'm dating a woman that wants a long-term guy and perhaps kids. I know I don't want that. I know that if I string her along, she is less likely to get what she wants. So I tell her to move along. That's me forgoing what I want (sex) and doing something that makes her sad - because I want her to be happy.<br /><br />"With the framework you operate from, how do you explain gays? How do you explain older women are attracted to younger men, and how do you explain younger men who are attracted to older women? How do you explain the sexual relationship between a married couple when neither fit the hollywood mold in regards to physical attractiveness? There must be signifigantly more going on that doesn't get discussed."<br /><br />When it is me and a woman, I just focus on what my happiness and her happiness. I don't bother with all that other stuff. I'm just trying to make a moral choice and live my life so that I feel good. I'm psychopathically focused on optimizing our well-being.<br /><br />"How do you explain the article I posted that talks about senior citizens being sexually active?"<br /><br />Old people like to orgasm. So what? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-59985271264311452732014-10-24T09:02:26.878-07:002014-10-24T09:02:26.878-07:00"If you guys are getting angry at me for ment..."If you guys are getting angry at me for mentioning this, it is because you have a problem with reality and callous but honest people who talk about aspects of reality that you wish were different."<br /><br />ppl who disagree with you are getting angry and you know the reason why. Congratulations!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-38993215908611171032014-10-24T08:24:05.933-07:002014-10-24T08:24:05.933-07:00Different people have differing levels of desire f...Different people have differing levels of desire for intellectual, emotional, and physical satisfaction in a relationship. If you imagine each of these desires as a scale bar, with everyone having different ideals, you can get any combination of people.<br /><br />If you limit yourself to physical attractiveness alone, that primal urge to reproduce, then you are most likely to prefer women around 21. I value intellectual, emotional, and physical maturity, so my tastes do not fit that generalization.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11932547142801073974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-40166205583399492492014-10-24T08:05:21.692-07:002014-10-24T08:05:21.692-07:00What I am bothered by is the fact that you are com...What I am bothered by is the fact that you are completly comfortable ignoring all of the complexities when it comes to sexuality, and you continue to discuss from a male's perspective. With the framework you operate from, how do you explain gays? How do you explain older women are attracted to younger men, and how do you explain younger men who are attracted to older women? How do you explain the sexual relationship between a married couple when neither fit the hollywood mold in regards to physical attractiveness? There must be signifigantly more going on that doesn't get discussed. How do you explain the article I posted that talks about senior citizens being sexually active?Dr. Gingernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-9882991130827052032014-10-24T04:58:22.543-07:002014-10-24T04:58:22.543-07:00The guy that started OKCupid did some data analysi...The guy that started OKCupid did some data analysis and found that women like men around their own age and guys, no matter how old they are, like women around 21 the most.Damagednoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-6344467675787418422014-10-24T02:30:08.075-07:002014-10-24T02:30:08.075-07:00Whether or not older women are better at oral sex,...Whether or not older women are better at oral sex, providing free babysitting of their grandkids and baking cookies, it doesn't change the fact that men aren't attracted to them viscerally the way they are attracted to young fertile women.<br /><br />Whether God made it so or evolution, that's how the world is. <br /><br />If you guys are getting angry at me for mentioning this, it is because you have a problem with reality and callous but honest people who talk about aspects of reality that you wish were different.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-91278050691094115672014-10-23T19:01:10.176-07:002014-10-23T19:01:10.176-07:00I just got home from the gym. I am in close to tox...I just got home from the gym. I am in close to toxic shock from all the empathy. As I put in my 30 minutes of cardio (not guaranteed to prevent stroke but it's better than buying a lottery ticket so I can drop dead when I win a million dollars (which sort of happened to Cousin Joanna when she became a millionaire on Taiwan and then started to dedicate herself to good works and died from breast cancer and medical quackery (an endemic curse like Frankenstein in my family). Anyway, on the CNN Channel (our gym runs CNN for the gloom and snarl addicts such as me (as close as they dare get to to the 24-hour sociopath network channel on cable somewhere but you have to know the secret password/handshake/bribe) the local Puget Sound cheery empath news (Dr. Phil is as gross as they dare get; Ellen is more the main vibe) and lots of sports, with hardly a concussion or bean ball to be seen.<br /><br />So on local news comes up a little girl dying of brain cancer. She loves play doh (which her brain evidently has become) and she challenged to community to donate six billion pink squares of play doh or something. I came close to toppling off the treadmill as my empathy glands flooded my system.<br /><br />I got to the super (and super friendly) market to get a hit of junk food before I go home to the boring, wholesome and virtuous dinner my wife prepares. I walked by a stand of gloves. (Everybody on our island is gardening and building and serving and caring 26 hours a day, and everybody owns at eleventy seven pairs of gloves, none of which match any others, so stands of gloves are guaranteed to sell like cheap whiskey at an A.A. meeting. So the glove stand says, "Desert gloves." I ask. On a Puget Sound island as the monsoons pour in? This has nothing to do with empathy. It's just stupidity, Never in short supply. Just as "Group O" (or so the Red Cross tells me) is usable by anybody, the stupidity in my nervous system can be donated to anyone. You can be garden variety moron joke stupid; Islamic terrorist stupid, 1% billionaire stupid, drunk driver stupid, nigger joke stupid, honky joke stupid, pit bull rabid bat stupid. My nervous system can donate a stupidity transfusion to anyone in danger of showing the slightest degree of intelligence and common sense. Trust me on this.Radical Agnostichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08630112321918941568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-62259115867849343292014-10-23T17:37:42.266-07:002014-10-23T17:37:42.266-07:00I am with you June - I've never really underst...I am with you June - I've never really understood why anyone should be concerned with who is sleeping with who (consent and all). I've dated all sorts and viva la difference! 8)~<br /><br />So long at it's no one in my family, I really don't care - <br /><br />@ANON: "...a woman is downhill from 16-18..." I'm not sure I can even come close to agreeing. More fecund, yes, but, "better looking," I don't know about that - many women learn a lot about presentation and seduction. HLHallernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-24130070904479689772014-10-23T15:34:48.127-07:002014-10-23T15:34:48.127-07:00RA: You sound perfectly normal here on socioworld....RA: You sound perfectly normal here on socioworld. While I have been known to hypnotize others, in your case that would be a shame. Your lucid ravings do provide certain cognitive zigzags that for some reason I enjoy. <br /><br />Hang in there. Uncle Bob (now deceased) from mile 18 on the Dempster Highway used to joke, If you want to live fuck the rutting moose when your gun jams. Sometimes there's no other choice but perform as best you can.<br /><br />JuneAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-90878162075757977422014-10-23T15:06:02.760-07:002014-10-23T15:06:02.760-07:00Some men discover that often older women make bett...Some men discover that often older women make better lovers than younger women. They know their bodies, they are more comfortable in themselves and more responsive and able to arouse their partner in ways they may not have been able to imagine otherwise. There's also the relief of not worrying about those babies popping out. Less inhibition means more fun.<br /><br />Of course the whole notion of women as entitled sexual beings rather than there for the pleasure of men is kind of a new thing.DoctorSciFihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13423928917489228542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-68444108261254560192014-10-23T14:54:39.320-07:002014-10-23T14:54:39.320-07:00Anon, this might be difficult to swallow, pardon t...Anon, this might be difficult to swallow, pardon the double pun http://www.toledoblade.com/Medical/2012/08/27/Changing-trend-Seniors-are-latest-focus-of-sex-education.htmlDr. Gingernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-56541174689287256972014-10-23T14:23:00.190-07:002014-10-23T14:23:00.190-07:00Studies show it's typically the women who lose...Studies show it's typically the women who lose interest in sex with their long term partners before men do. They seem to be more tolerant of routine, aging and how women's bodies change than women are of men.<br /><br />It's women typically who do the selecting regarding sex too. It's women who are more often the ones who seek divorce. Look it all up.<br /><br />Needless to say the notion of what men or women "are" or how they "are the way they are" is socially constructed and changes as society and the roles of women and men in society changes too.DoctorSciFihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13423928917489228542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-69926591340658072792014-10-23T14:01:09.063-07:002014-10-23T14:01:09.063-07:00Do you have restraints and padded jackets? Do you ...Do you have restraints and padded jackets? Do you have a regular arsenal of pharmaceuticals, both legal and illegal? Anybody proficient with hypnotism and brainwashing? Equipment and wiring for electroshock treatment? And so on.<br /><br />Believe me, I am the retarded member of a very intelligent and talented family. A Pulitzer Prize / MacArthur Genius Award composer. A Taiwanese Jewish Christian millionaire, co-founder of Graco with a library named after her in Taipei. A lead guitarist for a national champion contender for the almost champion rock and roll band of Senegal who hates rock and roll. A narcissist sister who talks to Jesus (who does what she tells Him). A bright brother who is psychotically depressed, bi-polar, AND schizophrenic; regularly picked up by the cops in Springfield, MO, who ask (as they observe him talking to himself and replying) Off your meds again, Joel?"<br /><br />It goes uphill and downhill from there. So even though I am the dumbest and most normal of the herd, when I go, I will really go. It will be mistaken for a super volcano at Yellowstone or another asteroid striking Russia. Remember as your world dissolves in chaos, pain, and terror, you read it here first. It is entirely your fault the world was not saved. --RAAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-45395607967918964702014-10-23T13:59:15.668-07:002014-10-23T13:59:15.668-07:00I didn't intend to imply that women are worthl...I didn't intend to imply that women are worthless after they can't reproduce. If that's what you heard and then you got upset, that's unfortunate.<br /><br />I meant to describe womens' final reproductive years as "prime years". I meant that in the sense that their value on the dating market drops precipitously as they age because men find women that can't have children less desirable than women that can.<br /><br />Being a guy and aware how men view women, when I've dated women that wanted a long term partner and potentially kids, and I haven't explained that I have no intention of giving them what they want, I've later regretted it. So now I'm honest.<br /><br />In any case, if I'm just wrong about how things are, why attack me by mocking me? Why not pity me for being deluded? Why not try to educate me? <br /><br />And if I'm right, why attack me? If you don't like how the universe is, please don't blame me just because I notice things and describe them with words. <br /><br />Of course, you and I only exist because men are the way they are and women are the way they are. If men considered old and infertile women to be attractive, it'd be a completely different universe. We simply wouldn't exist.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-67217343662793549712014-10-23T13:47:23.741-07:002014-10-23T13:47:23.741-07:00Forgot to sign the Anon. JuneForgot to sign the Anon. JuneAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-76772370864164361902014-10-23T13:46:07.100-07:002014-10-23T13:46:07.100-07:00Dr. G, Right back at you. :) So glad you're...Dr. G, Right back at you. :) So glad you're here to help us manage RA's breakdown.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-38058663494088927892014-10-23T13:31:23.310-07:002014-10-23T13:31:23.310-07:00This is senile RA without his password. Days hardl...This is senile RA without his password. Days hardly go by without forgetting my aliaiaia. (Is that plural for alias? Sounds like someone having an epileptic fit. I had a close friend who was multiple personality disorder and transgender. Danger of Internet relationships. I thought Joan was David until three days before we went out to dinner. Joan told me that mpd is really Dissociative Identity Disorder. “selves” are now known as “alters.” <br />When I met Joan / David she was much prettier in person than her Internet picture indicated. Joan is now fully integrated and supremely intelligent and talented. She told me at her max she had nine separate “alters”; I guess keeping track of them as the equivalent of getting nine degrees at Princeton. She had been kicked out of Oberlin for being stalked and threatened by a “real” (genitalia-wise) man; Oberlin being one of the most “PC” colleges in America, they refused to protect her against a dangerous lunatic, who perhaps may be reading this even as post. If you are the Oberlin / stalker of a transgender DID person, and in the neighborhood, there is a very large lake not that far away; you know what to do with yourself. Please staple a waterproofed note absolving “Radical Agnostic” for your suicide by drowning self-punishment. With her brilliantly integrated whole, David / Joan may now be secretly running the country and Barak is dancing like a puppet as she pulls the strings.<br /><br />My point is – I have no point. However, it must be a real trip to date a person with two genders and nine alters. Probably less boredom than experienced by a Mormon with forty spouses, and no square laws violated.<br />I woke up this morning and thought, “I am bored with wearing my “THANK GOD I’M AN ATHEIST” shirt to the gym. Today, I would prefer for my shirt to say, “TOO MUCH EMPATHY AND ALTRUISM GOING ON.”<br />I am going to create and postal mail to my granddaughter with two Mommies in Seattle (now married) and two daddies in Chicago (still playing the field) asking her to start working on the divorce/wedding for my wife and I in a year. <br />“Dear AE,” I will say. “I postal mailed this RFP to you using a Janice Joplin stamp. When you were four, the postal service, desperate for cash, let me use stamps with your own photo on it. You are a very bright little girl, you can probably spell narcissism now, and unlikely to suffer from it. <br /><br />As you get older, you may not marry. You may marry a boy like grandma did [marry me] or you may marry a girl, like your Mommies did. Or both at the same time. You love cats and dogs. I don’t know if you know what “tacky” means (my vocabulary is primeval) but marrying cats and dogs (or giraffes as the Locusta ancient urban legend asserted} is not well received in polite society. <br /><br />In any case, in a year, Grandma and I will get divorced and then marry again. As a very intelligent, talented, and appropriately for ten years old attractive tall young lady, I wish to put you in charge of the proceedings and declare us divorced and married in the power granted to you by . . .<br /><br />Who grants you the power, anyway? A.E. here’s a book called ATLAS SHIRKED. I assign this to you as homework until our 50th anniversary. I know it’s boring. Listen you spoiled lesbians’ brat, time for you to deal with the real world before you enroll at the University of Helsinki. http://www.helsinki.fi/university/<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-1942126348209667242014-10-23T12:58:44.553-07:002014-10-23T12:58:44.553-07:00June, I like you :):)June, I like you :):)Dr. Gingernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-28880670187386745932014-10-23T12:49:45.287-07:002014-10-23T12:49:45.287-07:00Hi Dr. SF, I know a lot of women who don't ca...Hi Dr. SF, I know a lot of women who don't care whether or not a guy can always function. Especially older women. We don't take it personally, and are versed in other ways to enjoy the company of the man we love. Sexual intercourse is great but certainly not the only meal on the menu.<br /><br />JuneAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-85488713840522943582014-10-23T12:47:41.859-07:002014-10-23T12:47:41.859-07:00I would actually argue that it is your conditionin...I would actually argue that it is your conditioning. You seem to be judging women for their reproductive value. Once they can't have babies anymore, they are useless. I'm not sure how you can say that about an entire group of people who, at that point, have gained an incredible amount of knowledge, experience in life, are generally respected for their knowledge and experience in the workplace among other areas of life. They often become CEO's at this point. Hilary Clinton may run for president, and very possibly win, but she can't have babies anymore. She would be the president of the most powerful country in the world. To me it looks like women still have a lot of value even when men don't wanna stick their peepees in them anymore. Many become independent and don't have to rely on men. Your perception of women is heavily biased, and you to have no interest in knowing how they are perceiving things. This will be difficult for you living in a feminist era where women have acquired an incredible amount of sociopolitical power. Dr. Gingernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-53115229074776666492014-10-23T12:44:25.066-07:002014-10-23T12:44:25.066-07:00Hi Dr. Ginger, Glad you're still with us.
&q...Hi Dr. Ginger, Glad you're still with us.<br /><br />"Howcome we can't talk about older women who date younger men without abuse and derision?"<br /><br />I've gotten tons of abuse for dating younger men over the years, from friends, family, you name it. Even being 60 and the guy is 40 I still hear grief. I wonder why people care so much what consenting adults do, however they may wish express their sexuality. It's baffling. But I don't let it bother me anymore -- having too much fun.<br /><br />JuneAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com