tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post4636480723204074879..comments2024-03-28T00:33:57.308-07:00Comments on Sociopath World: Handling sociopathsUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger295125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-22016060251242998742011-08-13T21:04:30.820-07:002011-08-13T21:04:30.820-07:00Hah, spot on.
I've never read that Sedaris fe...Hah, spot on.<br /><br />I've never read that Sedaris fella. I assume he speaks autobiographically. That quote surely delivers.AMoralBingnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-12148567264239506442011-08-13T00:58:22.476-07:002011-08-13T00:58:22.476-07:00"A broken heart is a rite of passage and, loo..."A broken heart is a rite of passage and, looking back, I must have wanted one pretty badly. "Kick me," I demanded, and when somebody finally did, I burst like a cheap piñata."<br /><br />DAVID SEDARIS, O Magazine, Feb. 2007<br /><br />This is a nice, lighthearted article about "toughening up"Bellanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-61345209263823861732011-08-12T22:01:29.938-07:002011-08-12T22:01:29.938-07:00[] people should not trust their intuitions and im...<i>[] people should not trust their intuitions and impressions of strangers, and should rely instead on reputations earned over time.</i><br /><br />Good advice, but I don't think intuition and rep evaluation are mutually exclusive.<br /><br />Victims might be blatantly clueless and bad judge of characters. They might be also intuitive, insightful and bright.<br /><br />The thing victims have in common is that all of them cling to the abuser. Clueless or not, they all keep lying to themselves in face of bad treatment.<br /><br />Having said that, everyone gets crossed, cheated and taken advantage of sometimes. So what? It's like cursing the gods for creating the birds that shit on your shoulder. Victims are the ones that don't deal well with the second, third and fourth abuses and let them become a habit. It takes little or longer time to toughen up, but it happens.AMoralBingnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-15333559175399550812011-08-12T09:38:15.506-07:002011-08-12T09:38:15.506-07:00Good Luck. Do you think that you will always strug...Good Luck. Do you think that you will always struggle with your "numbness" or do you think you can really cure yourself for good?<br /><br />Do you enjoy sex, Erin, and if so, do you feel numb? Or are you bone dry down there, too?Bellanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-14680097986288590932011-08-12T06:54:33.769-07:002011-08-12T06:54:33.769-07:00@Bella
How do I define myself?
Numb I guess like...@Bella<br /> How do I define myself?<br /> Numb I guess like I live inside a giant Novacaine and I can't get out.<br /><br />Inside it my thinking is not right.It is the thinking of a child--black and white.<br /> That is why people think I am "young" lol<br /> I stopped growing emotionally when my mother molested me,I think.<br /> I did grow some but then went almost totally numb at 14.<br /> My goal is to break out of that numb as one would break out of prison walls.<br /> The way to do it is to "feel". You must put yourself in places where you will feel.Then,allow the feelings to come.<br /> Each time you cry you are one step closer to not being numb.<br /> That is my program based on "Cure by Crying" by Thomas Stone.<br /> I don't know what else to do. Shrinks have talk therapy .<br /> Talk therapy will NOT heal dissassocation.<br /> Only forcing yourself to feel will do it.<br /> After you feel,after you cry,your thinking becomes clearer and less black and white.<br /> I get so discouraged sometimes that I will ever get out of the numb but I keep trying.<br /> Everything in life is grey when you are numb.Why bother traveling or doing any number of "good" things?<br />You may as well stay home.It is all the same.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-51029201532918416332011-08-11T23:33:03.516-07:002011-08-11T23:33:03.516-07:00So Erin, how do you define yourself?So Erin, how do you define yourself?Bellanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-17860086782893278052011-08-11T23:30:30.809-07:002011-08-11T23:30:30.809-07:00Sometimes. But not reallySometimes. But not reallyBellanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-45523833424996402732011-08-11T23:26:46.970-07:002011-08-11T23:26:46.970-07:00So what you're saying is that you're a gra...So what you're saying is that you're a grandiose slut, Bella?sw chorusnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-16540993433117487252011-08-11T23:19:17.990-07:002011-08-11T23:19:17.990-07:00Erin, I'm not into the labels. But I am bipola...Erin, I'm not into the labels. But I am bipolar and I have bpd traits. And I'm prolly chock full of narc traits, and histrionic, <br /><br />And I own my own hypocricyLOLnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-32511078021456037172011-08-11T23:15:17.451-07:002011-08-11T23:15:17.451-07:00We are friends. We rarely see one another, though,...We are friends. We rarely see one another, though, because that'd be like waving ice cream in front of a fatty on a diet. I can count on him as I can count on my closest friends for sound advice, a pick-me-up, definitely casual sex(but I won't go there again) We will always be good to one another. As far as feeling ghostly, I had once felt as if I am the one that vanished. He let me break it off with such ease. I felt cheap and invisible( But that is completely some bpd bullshit. -This man said he should have married me later on.. and I know he thinks of me fondly) <br /><br />The most recent ex is the one who is like a caricature and a 2-D shell. He is like a cartoon. Totally bizarro. Re : future plans ....this one actually once tested me on my level of commitment to him. -Talked about moving to the country with me, and getting dogs together. I didn't buy a thing he said because everything seemed like a test and a trick. I couldn't let myself believe him. I mean he WREAKED of BS, so I didn't have a choice. Ya know that line from Seinfeld that Elaine's boss says about Kramer's self-portrait? "-Hideous, yet I can't look away" ? It was like that. I had my mouth hanging wide open much of the time. I swear this guy's social mask is like way off his face 98% of the time. Like a zoo animal. (Sorry, socios, don't mean to offend any of yous.)<br /><br />Erin, I'm not into the labels. But I am bipolar and I have bpd traits. And I'm prolly chock full of narc traits, and histrionic, blah blah blah. And I don't give a fuck. I like who I am (today)and i try to keep my bullshit to myself. I do try.Bellanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-73035441950926880122011-08-11T09:06:36.793-07:002011-08-11T09:06:36.793-07:00@Bella
What is the nature of what you have now wit...@Bella<br />What is the nature of what you have now with him i.e how often do you see him? <br /> How do you define yourself -"uber empath" ?<br /> Mine was a fantasy drug too but seemed baffled at any planning for anything beyond the present.It was a strange kind of disconnect that made him feel like a "ghost" not a "real" man who was 3D.<br /> Did you feel that too?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-55618247025635990242011-08-11T08:57:03.461-07:002011-08-11T08:57:03.461-07:00anon7:18
The only break-up to make-up relationshi...anon7:18<br /><br />The only break-up to make-up relationship I've tried was with a man with whom I though I was madly in love. He admitted he lacked empathy, and also admitted outright he gets bored with the same woman. Our chemistry was unlike any other relationship I had, and not because he may be a sociopath. There was no mirroring or gaslighting or anything negative, other than the fact that he was admittedly "not a future thinker". He has since given up on a therapist who saw him 3 times a week in order to speed up his desired transformation into a person who could sustain relationships. <br /><br />He loved me but made me unhappy because he couldn't commit. Oh well. We did a back and forth dance because I didn't want to face it, and because he had a great time with me. It was extremely painful and depressing to know so clearly that we were not going to be together. <br /><br />I have the same problem he does, in that I shove people away who get infatuated with me or who can't quite see me the way i am. So if the shoe were on the the other foot, I'm not so sure if I would have been the one who made him unhappy. Maybe I was just infatuated with him...<br /><br />maybe that's why people do that make-up break-up thing. It doesn't feel like "true love" with commitment to a secure partnership the way I see couples in their day to day worlds, raising kids, paying mortgages, struggling with in-laws, etc, that's for sure...it feels like a fantasy drug. <br /><br />We don't continue to fool ourselves. We're very aware of our natures and don't want to hurt one another ever. There is a mutual respect and we have clear boundaries now.Bellanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-4017059898948204052011-08-11T07:26:06.384-07:002011-08-11T07:26:06.384-07:00@Mania
Well let me say this. I take kindness and ...@Mania<br /> Well let me say this. I take kindness and grace and I open myself to the person.<br /> This may be my weakness but I am Ok with it.<br /> I don't want to be too hard or too soft.<br /> That being said you have been very kind to me from my first struggles through my "explosions" etc<br /> You have been a voice of "love" in the loose sense of the word but "love" in that it was caring for the welfare of another and putting yourself out to do that.<br /> So, you do not have Socio qualities that I associate with Socio.<br /> How is that? Perhaps you were born with it and it did not come from abuse.<br /> Perhaps you do not have to jump on "weakness" as a bird of prey as most do here.<br /> If they smell weakness they are like sharks with blood.<br /> For some reason,you don't .I have not seen you do that with anyone.<br /> You are strong about who YOU are but don't need to beat others down to gain that strength.<br /> That is what makes you unique to most on here.<br /> That would be the OPPOSITE of filth which is bullying those "weaker" than you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-34681139878842633342011-08-10T21:35:53.456-07:002011-08-10T21:35:53.456-07:00@Erin
Sorry i didn't answer, I was at a famil...@Erin<br /><br />Sorry i didn't answer, I was at a family dinner.<br /><br />What makes you think that I'm not filth?ManiaAzerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08392558153606037653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-87664562826023592702011-08-10T21:24:47.901-07:002011-08-10T21:24:47.901-07:00To those who have been asking what happened to my ...To those who have been asking what happened to my blog:<br /><br />I ran into some issues recently, can't get into details about it. I'll be back with a Blogger or Wordpress account in the near future, probably using a different alias.<br /><br />Until then, I will probably be using Anonymous. My diction should be transparent enough.<br /><br />CheersTNPnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-42735792594289292412011-08-10T21:12:34.188-07:002011-08-10T21:12:34.188-07:00Did Jason get kicked? I sure hope soDid Jason get kicked? I sure hope soKoknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-61248544093765161972011-08-10T20:49:26.543-07:002011-08-10T20:49:26.543-07:00Psychopaths is Homo sapiens version of the Natural...Psychopaths is Homo sapiens version of the Natural Order concerning cognitive and emotional processing. They are indifferent predators with oblivious intra-species prey constantly available. It is no wonder they are all sadistic in one way or another. How could they not be? They have an almost infinite supply to gorge upon. Sociopaths are not Psychopaths. Sociopaths are individuals who display antisocial behavior and psychopathic interpersonal traits due to physical or emotional trauma which forced the brain to modify itself in order to cope at a very young age.Bobhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12876807642758531827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-52898730185335452272011-08-10T20:29:33.369-07:002011-08-10T20:29:33.369-07:00Now you're talk'n. I agree. That's the...Now you're talk'n. I agree. That's the real news. See yaRavenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04332209662518792285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-56705092325435899082011-08-10T20:25:38.054-07:002011-08-10T20:25:38.054-07:00time for john stewart...nite eden..time for john stewart...nite eden..bette blunoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-32471463136553096652011-08-10T20:16:15.710-07:002011-08-10T20:16:15.710-07:00I did good in the beginning. But I can never commi...I did good in the beginning. But I can never commit to more than a couple of things in my life for long. I'm just too lazy to delete them.Ravenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04332209662518792285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-66122489199912216892011-08-10T20:08:24.641-07:002011-08-10T20:08:24.641-07:00you really follow all those blogs? this is the onl...you really follow all those blogs? this is the only one that has held my attention at all..and even here..i am in and out..bette blunoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-84594379039863619852011-08-10T20:05:35.673-07:002011-08-10T20:05:35.673-07:00yeah..I wish..funny how o'reilly is now the vo...yeah..I wish..funny how o'reilly is now the voice of reason over there..Glen Beck and Hannity did wonders for O'Reilly's credibility..bette blunoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-58892195478918292942011-08-10T19:57:08.965-07:002011-08-10T19:57:08.965-07:00"A cable access show has a character called &..."A cable access show has a character called 'Dick Smart' and it was a talking penis, trying to tell kids about contraception. A court of appeals has laid down the law that you cannot have a talking penis on the TV. Fox News has reacted immediately and fired Sean Hannity." --Bill MaherRavenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04332209662518792285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-67170250175534907452011-08-10T19:48:17.225-07:002011-08-10T19:48:17.225-07:00lol...God may hate him ..but if Fox News loves him...lol...God may hate him ..but if Fox News loves him were all fucked..bette blunoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-67715566398160298862011-08-10T19:40:39.928-07:002011-08-10T19:40:39.928-07:00we are heading for a societal collapse, mainly due...we are heading for a societal collapse, mainly due to resource shortage, unfortunatelyaspienoreply@blogger.com