tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post4334956464390196070..comments2024-03-28T00:33:57.308-07:00Comments on Sociopath World: Aspies also wear masks?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger137125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-15406423818110872932016-12-17T09:50:06.624-08:002016-12-17T09:50:06.624-08:00Who recorded this video. I do not see the name of...Who recorded this video. I do not see the name of the speaker anywhere.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-7597395858349810252016-10-08T10:50:42.157-07:002016-10-08T10:50:42.157-07:00Vegas,
I've had a few Thai rolls... can't ...Vegas,<br />I've had a few Thai rolls... can't remember which ones though (I think Spring Rolls was one), and I've had fried tomato's which weren't green lol. <br />I've never really fished. My closest encounters to fishing was hanging around on a boat with a group of friends, some of which were fishing... I cast one and got tired of waiting so passed it to someone else. My second encounter was at a pier, I saw a fishing rod already cast with no one around. The line was wiggling so I took it upon my self to pull it back up. I retracted the line and once it was almost out of the water I yanked it out... Fish went over my head, unhooked, and flew to the other side of the pier back into the water... Never been a fishing kinda guy.<br />As for a garden, yep! Actually just built two raised vegetable garden bed in my yard last week but, there's a hurricane hovering around florida (went through last week and is supposed to be boomeranging back for round two), so we've yet to plant anything. We're thinking tomatoes, jalepenos, bells peppers, and cuccumbers as of now.This Tii Cuntnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-82285345981614717572016-10-07T18:44:02.304-07:002016-10-07T18:44:02.304-07:00Tii-
PPS-Do you have a garden now, and if so, wha...Tii-<br /><br />PPS-Do you have a garden now, and if so, what do you grow in it??? If not, what would you grow in it, if/when you do have one???<br /><br />~VegasAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-55765265678413250432016-10-07T18:22:51.519-07:002016-10-07T18:22:51.519-07:00Tii-
PS-Have you ever had "Thai Fresh Rolls&...Tii-<br /><br />PS-Have you ever had "Thai Fresh Rolls", or "Fried Green Tomatoes"???<br /><br />Just curious.:)<br /><br />~VegasAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-83737668546171768002016-10-07T15:45:46.964-07:002016-10-07T15:45:46.964-07:00Hey Tii-
"we'd rather hand people the fi...Hey Tii-<br /><br />"we'd rather hand people the fish than teach them to fish"<br /><br />So true, unfortunately.:(<br /><br />Speaking of which-do you fish???<br /><br />~VegasAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-32478776692295128032016-10-06T09:43:31.457-07:002016-10-06T09:43:31.457-07:00................^Don't do drugs kids.^................^Don't do drugs kids.^Crawlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-251119390826522522016-10-06T08:26:39.048-07:002016-10-06T08:26:39.048-07:00Was that confrontation? I just figure you were a c...Was that confrontation? I just figure you were a clown clowning around. A fool fooling around. A joke going around. That's the trick of the trade... why the fuck should I was more time on you doing what you do? I'll just do what I do.<br /><br />PS. Thanks for the new "Name Though"... I kinda fuck with it ^_^This Tii Cuntnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-37207866637376870972016-10-06T05:48:19.264-07:002016-10-06T05:48:19.264-07:00Never seen it. Never seen it. Crawlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-32792882431925373802016-10-06T05:47:21.572-07:002016-10-06T05:47:21.572-07:00Way to turtle up Tii. Ur even more pathetic than I...Way to turtle up Tii. Ur even more pathetic than I though u were if that''s possible. Is this how u handle confrontation in real life?Crawlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-87654377350928368812016-10-05T08:06:59.395-07:002016-10-05T08:06:59.395-07:00Crawl what else can I say. You know that part in ...Crawl what else can I say. You know that part in the sorcerers apprentice where all the shadowy figures are gathered up in the hand and they are shifting from fighting to seductive and are finally closed up in the hand. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-75650671987793909342016-10-05T05:49:16.002-07:002016-10-05T05:49:16.002-07:00Crawl,
Thanks for the feedback. Your words have t...Crawl,<br /><br />Thanks for the feedback. Your words have touched me and will resonate in my mind the rest of my life.This Tii Cuntnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-67549561010121648412016-10-05T04:05:49.989-07:002016-10-05T04:05:49.989-07:00Hey Alice *waves*, go stick a razor blade up ur tw...Hey Alice *waves*, go stick a razor blade up ur twat. I'm intitled 2 my opinions. Ur only offended cuz ur exactly the same as this Tii cunt. Crawlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-39330602374482447212016-10-04T22:26:55.797-07:002016-10-04T22:26:55.797-07:00hey crawl, who do you think you are, trying to dia...hey crawl, who do you think you are, trying to diagnose people you don't know personally? and btw you should do a little research to expand your horizons... you are telling everyone the same and it starts to get boring...<br /><br />aliceAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-33169532735924000812016-10-04T20:31:06.813-07:002016-10-04T20:31:06.813-07:00Vegas. Don't take this the wrong way but what ...Vegas. Don't take this the wrong way but what exactly is wrong with ur brain? Were u born this way or was there a specific moment when everything went 2 shit?Crawlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-13699514394446737542016-10-04T20:28:24.079-07:002016-10-04T20:28:24.079-07:00North. Would u please inject a little humour and p...North. Would u please inject a little humour and personality into ur posts. Srsly this is why nobody visits ur blog.Crawlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-35305965092392441422016-10-04T20:25:02.885-07:002016-10-04T20:25:02.885-07:00"When I look inside myself all I see is a voi..."When I look inside myself all I see is a void". Haha this line is so fucking cringy Tii just like the rest of ur drivel. Probably the type of edgy try-hard nonsense u put in ur retarded little poems(would love 2 read 1). I bet ur some little emo faggot with a pierced lip and a purple streak in ur hair. You seem to hav some misconceptions regarding sociopathy. Sociopath aren't devoid emotions. They have the full range of emotions but only feel them in relation to themselves. If ur pals r calling u a robot it's probably because ur autistic or boring or depressed or a robot. U make it sound like by acting impulsively and landing urself in trouble that you've strayed from the path of tue sociodom. In truth sociopaths don't act according to logic they act according to whims and impulses often to their own detriment. Personally I have a hard time believing u commited any serious offence since u sound like a bitch to me. U should've knocked ur pals teeth out the back of their head when they stubbed a cig out on u that's what any respectable person would've done. It's clear from ur description of ur fight at that gas station that that was the only fight you've ever been in. If u loved it so much why not just go out and spit in someone's face and start another fight? Cuz ur scared that's why. The big bad sociopath who self harms and lets his mummy ground him for being a naughty boy lol give me a break... Anyways back on topic, Sociopath's are extravert. Good at at networking and spreading influence through any group they enter. They don't prefer solitude llike u do. U sound more like a natural loner who grits his teeth, goes along with the crowd and keeps head down in social situations... What I'm wondering now is why you feel the need to announce ur sociopathy and give the people around u a fair warning if u don't care about hurting them? Sounds more like you're wearing your self diagnosis as a badge of honour to me. Mabye u also think having a pd will grant u the rigid sense of identity u admittedly lack. Mabye u also also think having a serious mental condition will justify why ur a drug abusing skidmark still living with his parents. Or maby none of those thing i dunnoCrawlnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-46630311520795906152016-10-04T18:10:53.084-07:002016-10-04T18:10:53.084-07:00Hey Anon,
I think it's ok to be angry - undern...Hey Anon,<br />I think it's ok to be angry - underneath the energy is a potent understanding of what we want or need. Anger is a really physical thing, it demands an action, something physical. Have fun with it, I hope you find a way to genuinely express yourself. That's something special. :)<br /><br /><br />Hey alice: <br />I love your response, it's quite Daoist! I have so many thoughts about it and can't do it justice right now, but I'm letting your comment play over my mind. The river metaphor is one I've played with a lot over the last year. The more I let go, the more awareness I have. The more freedom, greater self expression and the more opportunities I can see. <br /><br />I've recently taught this idea to my sons. My eldest, the 10yo, has internalised it himself and it's transforming him. It's so beautiful to see him heal. <br /><br /><br />Hi Tii,<br /><br />I completely understand your toothbrush example! I have been the same for as long as I remember. For the parts of our relationship that were working well, I think it was because we were treating each other respectfully that way. In fact, it was a real growth experience for me, listening to him and being able to express myself that way. I think that's actually what I mean by negotiation. <br /><br />Since the disturbance, we haven't been able to regain that equilibrium. He started manipulating and controlling and I explained how I felt as a result. He really hated that. Your view makes sense to me and helps me understand his experience a bit better. I do have to draw the line on those sorts of behaviours, though... and I try to indicate my good intent while doing it... but maybe there's a better way to do that in the future. <br /><br />Perhaps <em>time</em> can break this short circuit. I'm cool, but he might need to resolve his concerns in his own way. I wrote to him that he's important and his preferences matter to me, and hopefully he understands that's true. I kinda think he does know that.<br /><br />He's like my youngest son, kicking and carrying on when he feels someone hasn't respected him. My son calms down eventually, and is learning he is respected so it takes less time to reset these days. Minutes instead of hours. I hope **-* can learn that I do respect him too. In fact, I think the way he moves through the world is fantastic in its own way. There's something incredibly beautiful about it: a tenderness on one side, yet sharp and capable and intelligent too. Northhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09244806273774124428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-74477854217332920132016-10-04T17:16:10.548-07:002016-10-04T17:16:10.548-07:00Alice I'm not a sociopath but I understand a l...Alice I'm not a sociopath but I understand a lot if the extreme tendencies. I'm more raging river than calculated control freak. Sometimes I just lose it. It happened to me a few minutes ago. I have never wanted to smash something so bad.... Well actually maybe I have. But I didn't. I have really had to become mindful of my thoughts and actions which is really hard but necessary. And north-believe me I am familiar with the games you are speaking of. I am going to try to chill and send some positive energy out. Or at least try to not break anything. ;-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-49399791212525849852016-10-04T16:57:32.240-07:002016-10-04T16:57:32.240-07:00North,
Let me know what he thinks, though I mysel...North,<br /><br />Let me know what he thinks, though I myself don't think gaining insight on neuroplasticity may help much (neuroplasticity, the way I see it, needs to be done by the brain by itself, there's no point in that function if we're to force changes upon it... well unless that comes from figuring new ways of learning).<br /><br />As for me negotiation means taking away from what I want originally. Plus, I hate when people tell me what to do, no matter how simple it is. Especially if it's something obvious or routine for me. Nothing grinds my gears like that. Example, when I wake up the first thing I do after getting out of bed is brush my teeth. If I wake up and on my way to the bathroom someone tell me "go brush your teeth, and come eat breakfast" you practically just ruined my morning. One, I don't need you to tell me when to brush my teeth, two, I'll eat whenever the fuh I please. It's not much but, nothing pisses me off as much as someone telling me what to do. I suspect that negotiating is similar to him, almost as if saying, well instead of that here's what we'll do, we'll take some of what you suggested and add a bit of this to cap it off. I bet something like "how about if we do this", or "would it be horrible if we also did this" would change a workd to him. Just like asking (instead of dictating, "are you going to brush your teeth now to eat breakfast" would change a lot to me, even though it's pretty much hinting the same thing. Everytime someone tells me to do, first thing that comes to mind is "who or what the hell do you think you are to me to tell me what to do". Of course, I usually keep that to myselfTiinoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-59473513397787638012016-10-04T16:04:33.006-07:002016-10-04T16:04:33.006-07:00ME,
You have aspergers yourself. Not sociopathy. ...ME,<br /><br />You have aspergers yourself. Not sociopathy. Thats what you want to believe though. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-10159970234565123502016-10-04T14:41:56.287-07:002016-10-04T14:41:56.287-07:00hey guys, I experienced that having control is ver...hey guys, I experienced that having control is very good if you deeply want something and that I also tried to gain as much control as possible. but I also experienced that having no control and just improvise is much less effort... also it is much more exciting if you don't have the control and you need to react spontaneously... it's like a river, you can try to tame it (which is exhausting) or you can just follow the river and use its power and see where you go... I think this is much better then seeking control. well.. so I don't think that everything in a sociopath's life is about having control... but maybe this depends on what the person exactely wants...<br /><br />aliceAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-35346638012220422422016-10-04T14:32:28.586-07:002016-10-04T14:32:28.586-07:00Anon - You really are onto something.
I was expl...Anon - You really are onto something. <br /><br />I was exploring some of the implications of this as they came to me by sending him texts. He's blocked me - this was simply me spitballing my lovely, warm NT feelings into the void.<br /><br />Only not. Somehow he has a setup whereby he receives my texts but not my calls and I had no idea. I've been doing this for two years!<br /><br />ALL OF A SUDDEN he CAPS LOCK snaps at me on Viber to stop it.<br /><br />No, you are definitely into something. Northnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-26538631018530952102016-10-04T12:41:28.054-07:002016-10-04T12:41:28.054-07:00I have a sense that he thinks negotiation - even f...I have a sense that he thinks negotiation - even fully considering his needs - would put him at severe risk because he'd have to reveal his position. I'm genuinely surprised at how much he has already revealed.Northhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09244806273774124428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-41935657607932482722016-10-04T12:37:30.231-07:002016-10-04T12:37:30.231-07:00Also Tii, fascinating stuff re LSD. M.E. Wrote som...Also Tii, fascinating stuff re LSD. M.E. Wrote some posts on neurofeedback you might want to check out. She was able to temporarily experience empathy.<br /><br />I sent your original comment on the topic to a friend who was interested to understand whether our growing knowledge of neuroplasticity might have benefits for sociopaths.Northhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09244806273774124428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-34955820578791074302016-10-04T12:33:34.029-07:002016-10-04T12:33:34.029-07:00Thanks Anon and thanks Tii, that's very intere...Thanks Anon and thanks Tii, that's very interesting.<br /><br />Anon: Your loopholes comment has something to it, I think. Perhaps the pattern is the more deeply they want something, the tighter they lock down the controls - I think once they are on this slope, there's no coming off it. As Tii says, probably even in the act of locking down, they know it's slipping away... and when I negotiate, try to see his side, somehow that makes it much worse for him, it makes him increasingly angry. <br /><br />It's frustrating but not hurting me because that's his deal, if that makes sense. The confusion from my side has disappeared... which makes it easier for me to pull back. Time is the only possible salve.<br /><br />Tii, I think a lot of hanging on through the pain is a drive to solve the why? question. It's an extremely powerful driver in the human mind and our brains use emotion to compel us into finding answers. Answers help us learn to predict the world better and that's why the mechanism is very successful across so many domains of species activity.<br /><br />Dealing with sociopaths is one area they don't work well in because the sociopath masks his intentions so as to have control. Nobody else does this so innately and it fucks with our predictive mechanisms, creating a strong dissonance which we are compelled to resolve.<br /><br />The trap is that we stay in our own paradigm to resolve the questions- we actually do our very best, pull out all our resources! Meanwhile, the sociopath is wrapped deeper and deeper in his own paradigm, which is control. He needs control in order to predict. This means his problem-solving strategy is to exert more control.<br /><br />On one side, we have a drive to negotiate; on the side, a drive to control. No one is speaking the same language and things fall apart. The neurotypical is wondering, painfully, deeply questioning why their best efforts were of no avail. <br /><br />Common ground cannot be reached using our respective native strategies. The question is: what could work? Northhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09244806273774124428noreply@blogger.com