tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post4045202024341202915..comments2024-03-28T00:33:57.308-07:00Comments on Sociopath World: Lack of self-reflection?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger111125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-78246402157465423202017-12-02T04:46:35.935-08:002017-12-02T04:46:35.935-08:00Just sounds like you're a narcissist to me, Ps...Just sounds like you're a narcissist to me, Pseudonym.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09066445428349619318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-72805245732349209062017-12-02T04:44:45.113-08:002017-12-02T04:44:45.113-08:00Just sounds like you're a narcissist to me Pse...Just sounds like you're a narcissist to me Pseudonym.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09066445428349619318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-62399297277757166992016-02-02T22:21:18.764-08:002016-02-02T22:21:18.764-08:00I know that for myself I've self-aware that I&...I know that for myself I've self-aware that I'm different since childhood. To me when I came across sociopath it was just "Oh, that's what I am" since it fit. It's not that I needed the label to feel like I'm not a total outsider more that a label is nice to have as a way to state what/who you are without having to go into a rambling explanation. And I have spent time thinking about how I am and why I do what I do and about things like social order and to what degree it even merits any consideration. BPS82https://www.blogger.com/profile/11646092653266343953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-75648232651267319362016-02-02T22:12:54.050-08:002016-02-02T22:12:54.050-08:00Oh but sociopaths can love, if just not how empath...Oh but sociopaths can love, if just not how empaths love. I have a feeling towards things I like that I say is love, I'm not sure how close it is to how empats describe it but it fits. And I can in my way love a person. Oh sure it may not come about or progress like people think, or at least write and talk about, love but it's love still. BPS82https://www.blogger.com/profile/11646092653266343953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-2836850494347073272016-02-01T12:20:36.141-08:002016-02-01T12:20:36.141-08:00M.e. - i think ppl figure sociopaths are unrelecti...M.e. - i think ppl figure sociopaths are unrelective because the don't display the emotions. or change in behavior of a normal person who reflects, has an emotional experience and then chages course for the long haul. even if a sociopath has the reflection and emotions, the shitty impulse control demolishes any stated intentions to behave differently - so normals think, s/he must have been lying that time, because of s/he meant it, s/he would have followed through. they cannot imagine the sociopath experience enough to empathize and get it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-49615969483171012752016-01-30T11:08:08.742-08:002016-01-30T11:08:08.742-08:00You reek of extreme neediness and daddy issues,you...You reek of extreme neediness and daddy issues,you're not a sociopath,you're just depressed Schadenfreudenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-4258163961662561162016-01-30T03:54:26.344-08:002016-01-30T03:54:26.344-08:00because a sociopath would be too indulged in doing...because a sociopath would be too indulged in doing whatever he is doing in the first place,if you'd tell one about their sociopathy they'd probably just brush you off as crazy and doing whatever they were doing in the first placeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-83381620689810741532016-01-29T11:22:51.233-08:002016-01-29T11:22:51.233-08:00"That's why I like kids (up to the age wh..."That's why I like kids (up to the age when they become self-aware) and animals: they never pretend."<br /><br />I feel exactly this way. I don't mind if someone lies to me. I can respect that, but when they believe their own bullshit I can feel nothing but contempt. <br /><br />-FKAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-32417350138134415202016-01-28T11:28:11.757-08:002016-01-28T11:28:11.757-08:00Lola - if you are 'afflicted' with the sup...Lola - if you are 'afflicted' with the superiority gene, embrace it. Reason: it is not something you can conquer or overcome. And once you realize that you can advance your life accordingly. I recall when I was 13 and part of my probation was to see a mental health specialist. When she told me that part of my problem was that I did not know the difference between right and wrong I just looked at her and pitied the old cow...as of course I knew/know the difference, just did not care. Fast forward a few decades, and yes - for a time I did leave a trail of emotional rubble in my wake...until I sorted out that it would suit my interests to declare my condition to the mopes around me. In business my point of view is sought out as I have a reputation for going from problem to solution quickly and never allow human distractions to get in my way. In my personal life I have told women that I am not good in relationships unless they give me iron control...and explain that reason for that is I am a well functioning, fully aware sociopath. Ironically that declaration comes with its own groupies who fall into two categories - those poor idiots who think they can change me or those bored thrill-seekers who at least 'think' they like the idea of danger in their lives. So I guess what I am trying to say, dear Lola - embrace what you are and revel in your status of being above the dreary herd. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-78402849333222235052016-01-28T04:25:19.887-08:002016-01-28T04:25:19.887-08:00I know exactly what you mean about being curious ....I know exactly what you mean about being curious . I immediately pulled out my field guide of North America assholes. Sorry that was kinda mean! Sometimes I can't help it. Thank you for your thoughts. They are very interesting! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-67580234398019921062016-01-28T04:11:33.295-08:002016-01-28T04:11:33.295-08:00@ North
same here. Since I know "about this ...@ North<br /><br />same here. Since I know "about this people" I really want to understand, how they operate. I observe my Ex, how he is operating. He is like a puzzle. And I wish him all the best. Of course I was hurt and annoyed, because of our relationshit. But now I learn and somehow it is fascinating. <br /><br />His behaviour is always the same: <br />first: contact "how are you?"<br />than he wants to meet to have sex with me<br />I won't <br />than he is annoyed and want to lash out<br />i don't react<br />he fades away<br />after a few weeks "hi..."blabla<br /><br />this cycles is now going on for nearly three years. I wonder, when he will stop. <br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-16157254126775441342016-01-28T02:29:22.436-08:002016-01-28T02:29:22.436-08:00Anon 1:58 that's really interesting! Bigger th...Anon 1:58 that's really interesting! Bigger than them - it makes sense to some subcortical part of my mind; and maybe that's part of the journey, bringing hidden understandings to conscious light.<br /><br />I don't know, perhaps the curiosity I have will kill this cat, but it's just so intriguing. From the very moment I realised, I knew I wanted to push all the buttons and figure out how he worked. Like, I had a picture of him in my mind as a kind of lab rat which is so dehumanising but I don't mean him any harm at all. He's so fascinating and I simply wanted to pull out my magnifying glass. Its such a deep, intellectual pull. I won't say detached, it's a scientific wonder that fills me. <br /><br />Obviously, that's only one strand of my response!<br /><br />Thanks again. It's really helpful to talk about these things; I appreciate everyone's perspectives. Northhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09244806273774124428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-19404456505109528652016-01-28T02:06:41.688-08:002016-01-28T02:06:41.688-08:00Oh man, you crack me up. He'd have loved a spa...Oh man, you crack me up. He'd have loved a spanking. [holds back flood of images and recollections... Now the wall's breaking...] <br /><br />He tried to make me jealous by saying his son's teacher wanted to spank him for arriving late. OMFG. 'She wanted to SPANK me!' in the most mischievous schoolboy voice you could imagine. <br /><br />I don't mean to laugh at him, but honestly! How can one not laugh at that silly behaviour.<br /><br />Why don't they understand? Because it's beyond their conception. Same as us not understanding there are other humans out there that deliberately seek to simply use and damage - that took a massive adjustment, and it was forced through these intensely emotional experiences. There isn't sufficient necessity for them to change their conceptual framework, generally speaking.<br /><br />The advantage of emotion is that it aids neuroplasticity - we can more easily change our brains because of this. And it's probably why they don't learn from negative experiences; they don't feel them as much and so lack the mechanism of change.<br /><br />Novel experiences also aid neuroplasticity, as does habit. But it must be a more disciplined effort for them. And what's the incentive if they are generally content and coping with life? We all run around with silly and conflicting models of the world in our brains - they only need to be accurate enough for us to secure our survival. <br />Northhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09244806273774124428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-89953534327160644892016-01-28T01:58:51.536-08:002016-01-28T01:58:51.536-08:00This was not my first go around with the sociopath...This was not my first go around with the sociopath. Apparently things didn't end exactly the way they thought they should the first time and they had a need to rewrite it. I feel it was almost an ocd like thing for them. That may be north how the sociopath in your life could be so oblivious. I think that drivevthe have is something bigger than them almost. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-24638763599599611182016-01-28T00:41:48.735-08:002016-01-28T00:41:48.735-08:00PS North-You know what that means, don't you??...PS North-You know what that means, don't you??? THEY NEED SPANKINGS!!! HA!!! LOL!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-77255877573462071862016-01-28T00:40:02.818-08:002016-01-28T00:40:02.818-08:00North-Why don't they understand, when "th...North-Why don't they understand, when "the show is over" and "the gig" is up"??? It is sad once the "cloaking mechanism" is exposed, and they still try to use it!!! DECODED IS THE PERFECT WORD!!! You and I are successful decoders!!! It is ABSOLUTELY LIKE TALKING TO A CHILD!!! The arrested development that was mentioned, was 6-12 years, and that seemed right on the mark to me!!! That is a great description-sexualized children making nuisances of themselves!!! PERFECT ANALOGY OF THE "BABY OF THE FAMILY", WHO KNOWS THEY ARE CUTE AND LOVED AND THINK THEY CAN GET AWAY WITH BEING AS NAUGHTY AS THEY LIKE!!! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-62906716188015373962016-01-27T20:50:21.997-08:002016-01-27T20:50:21.997-08:00Anon 9:52
I can see what you mean. It's dange...Anon 9:52<br /><br />I can see what you mean. It's dangerous to generalise, but the idea of a circular track resonates powerfully for me... and Anon 10:36 yes! Operating on the same track and thinking he was still "stealthy"... Less than 2 months after the court situation, he came at me with that "lovestruck" expression, touching me, inviting me with his eyes, mimicking my laughter. He *knew* I knew he was a sociopath and it was *all* so weird. At that point, it might have been wild sex, but not "love of my life" infatuation. It was so strangely contrived and so clear how disconnected he is that I felt a shred of pity for him. Fancy prostrating yourself like that! He couldn't conceive that his patterns and behaviour had been decoded. <br /><br />I think of another time I explained to him - as if to a child - that people get angry if you tell them they are the love of your life when it's not the case because it may influence choices they make. He was looking at me the way my five year old son might, as if he really didn't understand the mechanism at all. He had a lot in common with my then five year old son. At the link I posted earlier, the author posits that sociopaths have arrested emotional development and suggests an age range of 6-? (can't recall.) It resonated immediately - the easiest way to understand this guy is as a sexualised 5 year old with an extra 50 years' experience making a nuisance of himself. He's exactly like the youngest child who knows he's cute and loved and thinks he can get away with being as naughty as he likes.Northhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09244806273774124428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-67183556699361040072016-01-27T19:41:21.381-08:002016-01-27T19:41:21.381-08:00Anon 11:44-You are absolutely correct. I think th...Anon 11:44-You are absolutely correct. I think they have a "God Complex"...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-30347742234050778002016-01-27T17:55:20.969-08:002016-01-27T17:55:20.969-08:00"Oh it really does."
North, you are so ..."Oh it really does."<br /><br />North, you are so on the ball. :)<br /><br />Mr. Hyde<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-7870447038810441642016-01-27T17:51:47.584-08:002016-01-27T17:51:47.584-08:00Pastoral stormy. With veins of lighting running th...Pastoral stormy. With veins of lighting running through it. <br /><br />You are considerate to ask. Thank you Musical Anon.<br /><br />How's it going?<br /><br />Mr. HydeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-19837814284976895612016-01-27T15:22:45.134-08:002016-01-27T15:22:45.134-08:00"What, how, who and when we choose to explore..."What, how, who and when we choose to explore does seem to make all the difference."<br /><br />Oh it really does. <br /><br />Thanks Mr Hyde.Northhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09244806273774124428noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-84124147528408513742016-01-27T11:44:09.522-08:002016-01-27T11:44:09.522-08:00I think they don't believe derailment is even ...I think they don't believe derailment is even a possibility. So strange. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-29361096216424446562016-01-27T11:00:56.641-08:002016-01-27T11:00:56.641-08:00Hello, Mr. Hyde.:) I had a feeling, The Matrix wa...Hello, Mr. Hyde.:) I had a feeling, The Matrix was alight with action.:) I would like the soundtrack to match for you-I aim to please.:) What is the mood???Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-81823949305632346552016-01-27T10:36:58.686-08:002016-01-27T10:36:58.686-08:00Anon 9:52-YOU ARE SO RIGHT!!! The funniest part, ...Anon 9:52-YOU ARE SO RIGHT!!! The funniest part, is that once you've figured it out, they keep operating on the same track, and still think they're "stealth"!!! HA!!! LOL!!! It doesn't take "rocket science" to derail them, at that point...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-32069222505316095332016-01-27T09:52:14.511-08:002016-01-27T09:52:14.511-08:00North I like your analogy of sociopaths being on a...North I like your analogy of sociopaths being on a track. It seems more of a track than a game to me. I imagine a tiny toy circular track and they are the engineer. Around and around. Thinking they will never be derailed. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com