tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post3402812655653325712..comments2024-03-28T00:33:57.308-07:00Comments on Sociopath World: BPD + ASPD = perfect match?Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger140125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-789442615242519752016-09-15T10:40:38.794-07:002016-09-15T10:40:38.794-07:00Everyone who is an ex is a "sociopath" t...Everyone who is an ex is a "sociopath" to every borderline I have met.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-40388622081044899922016-05-29T12:28:58.482-07:002016-05-29T12:28:58.482-07:00If you lock yourself up and throw the key away, yo...If you lock yourself up and throw the key away, your abuser won and left you broken. If you don't think you have the strength within you to overcome the betrayal and be better than them, you've fallen for their trap. If you don't think you have help out there, you've fallen for their trap. If you don't think you deserve better than being a victim of betrayal, than you have no right to complain. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-88429294040070628202016-05-29T12:00:21.117-07:002016-05-29T12:00:21.117-07:00And...BPDS dont take things personally...any more ...And...BPDS dont take things personally...any more than aspds do. We just have "emotional flashbacks" having realized the foolishness on a basic survival level of having given our "key" away in childhood...anything that remotely reminds us of those early traumatic experiences will throw us into a rage...its not directed at you...we just dont always realize this. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-53719655572560749162016-05-29T11:51:17.723-07:002016-05-29T11:51:17.723-07:00The ASPD needs to realize that there are many peop...The ASPD needs to realize that there are many people out there who don't want to control them and would truly care for them if they were willing to put some trust in them. The trouble is that since the ASPD is already so insecure & unwilling to lose any "control" any flaw, any shortcoming, anything short of perfect in the other person would immediately raise red flags in them and likely turn them away. It takes a perfect combination for it to work. Where there's a will there's a way. <br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-38352767985397090082016-05-29T11:29:40.308-07:002016-05-29T11:29:40.308-07:00This is why BPDS are more receptive to treatment t...This is why BPDS are more receptive to treatment than Aspds. As bpds heal they experience less pain and more control. An aspd...in order to heal.. would have to first find the key way down deep...unlock the door and experience more pain...and LESS control. They just Cant do that. So the Aspd solution is so effective in managing pain...it eventually becomes a tomb. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-69416133441571947932016-05-29T10:54:53.951-07:002016-05-29T10:54:53.951-07:00As an afterthought...without a lot of outside work...As an afterthought...without a lot of outside work...a BPD just cant date a normal man. I can sense...they just arent empty enough to CONTAIN me. And i need to be contained. Just like an ASPD can destroy people with his huge empty hole of nothingness...a bpd can destroy with her wild swirling ball of insides...But a BPD only destroys purposefully the ASPD who lets her down...and she is VERY capable of this..because she understands him in a way others dont. But she almost never destroys for sport...shes too busy managing her own ball of emotions. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-40152861544609669212016-05-29T10:39:58.512-07:002016-05-29T10:39:58.512-07:00I technically qualify for BPD diagnosis. (Although...I technically qualify for BPD diagnosis. (Although I believe BPD is actually a form of CPTSD) both bpds and aspds grow up with narcs. This leaves them both with a decision they make in childhood. The apsd realizes his parents are using his emotions to manipulate him...that real love is not there. His emotions are his parents "key" to control and manipulate him. So the aspd simply hides the key. He buries it deep...so deeply in fact...he no longer can find it. HE DEPENDS SOLEY UPON HIMSELF. The BPD chooses another path...she GIVES the key to her parents. She tries to become what they want...to survive...and to win their love she destroys the OUTSIDE PART OF HERSELF...where the ASPD destroys the inside..the ASPD and the BPD both destroy an integral part of themselves to survive...hence the empty core...we both share. But the BPD has essentially given away her power...which makes her wildly unpredictable and somewhat dependent on the ASPDS in her life I am chronically attracted to aspds...because I sense on a very intuitive level they are the other half of me. The outer shell..i never developed. I want to crawl up inside them and hide in that shell. The ASPD who can no longer "feel" can handle all those wild emotions...and is VERY capable of helping me to regulate them. But this is pathological...because I essentially just give HIM my key. But ASPDS are intrinsically selfish...and this is never a good idea. But I believe the ASPDS love the BPDS as much as they are capable...because we are essentially two sides of the same coin. When I give my key to a sociopath...I essentially want to merge with him...and for us both to then take a little peice of each other...I want some of his hard outer shell...and I want him to take some of my wildly fluctuatung emotions....so we can then separate as two functioning people. It never works. The sociopath doesnt want to feel...and he doesnt want to give any of his shell away. But the BPD is just as incapable of true intimacy as the ASPD (we both grew up without it)..so this rarely destroys her...after all...ANY ASPD will do...she just needs the shell. The BPD wants security and loyalty...she doesnt WANT real intimacy. But the ASPD cannot give her security...because he sees commitment and fidelity as being CONTROLLED. And he just cant risk that. I hope this makes sense. I just dont date anymore. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-83719289083418165532016-05-26T20:53:14.199-07:002016-05-26T20:53:14.199-07:00OK :) got thatOK :) got thatAnon 2noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-16432696919296535302016-05-26T20:22:28.818-07:002016-05-26T20:22:28.818-07:00@ Anon2:
PPS: "I just can't fking shut ...@ Anon2: <br /><br />PPS: "I just can't fking shut up, can I?"<br /><br />LOL. Neither, it seems, can I!!. How's that for spectacular 'lack of specific insight' LOL?!<br />I'll shut up about having high self-discipline about now I think. 8-/ OK. I'm only replying because I could well forget, 15 days down the track, about these: <br />"on the soft/empathy side, and the scrupulous side, and excitable side. And the ocd-ish bias."<br />*That's* [connections made now] why I've been enjoying responding to your posts [XK sees it all very clearly now...hah! got it! 8-)]. All the very good friends I've kept for years are like that. Exactly that. It's a really good dynamic; easy to spot that genuineness, and works for both sides. And never any nastiness. I so dislike nastiness, except as a tool to swat nasty people with.<br /><br />Anyway. Have a good 15 days of OCD-style working. [rueful look: I work like that too. Not due to dwarves though. Some silly people 8-) call it obsessiveness. Me, I prefer 'whatever it takes to get the job done' 8-)].<br />OK. Do not respond with anything more even *faintly* interesting, to this last email, or I will hunt you down and feed you to crows. <br />Maybe just an 'OK, got that', if you are compelled. LOL<br />XKAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-45895831319224708622016-05-26T18:09:25.083-07:002016-05-26T18:09:25.083-07:00PS Oh right! Sorry :)PS Oh right! Sorry :)Anon 2noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-71261479373201649662016-05-26T18:08:08.686-07:002016-05-26T18:08:08.686-07:00What's a PS?
Awesome on the deadline-solidari...What's a PS?<br /><br />Awesome on the deadline-solidarity thing! (even though I want to know the answers, course). Appreciated!<br />Anon 2noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-37069443095651665112016-05-26T18:05:37.973-07:002016-05-26T18:05:37.973-07:00Thank you :)
I'll allow myself one more repl...Thank you :) <br /><br />I'll allow myself one more reply (for now).<br /><br />The dwarfs have fucked off now I'm doing 'the right thing' and I'm chilling out nicely. You're right they could do with a prune. I'm going to work on that. Calvinist's going first.<br /><br />You're right I'm not Borderline too. I've just been reading some earlier posts on it. I feel a bit sheepish, because there's no way I can claim to suffer, or have suffered, with anything. What I have is a personality that undeniably shares some tendencies, to a pretty mild degree (and degree is everything here) and mostly just an uncanny resemblance to Superchick on the soft/empathy side, and the scrupulous side, and excitable side. And the ocd-ish bias. (I could go on, probably :) I liked that you enjoyed my version of it, though.<br /><br />Which brings me back to the dwarves (ocd). The reason they weigh-in like this is because I'm a very good one-thing-at-a-time person and an abominable multi-tasker. Whichever thing is most interesting or fun takes over, and I stay in that mode til I'm done with it, and only then go into another mode. When I get into stimulating-conversation mode, bureaucratic deadlines will dissolve into the ether (where they rightfully belong)(but tell that to the government). So in come the dwarves (Send in the Dwarves?:) demanding the nuclear option, sooner or later.<br /><br />Ah, I notice I just adopted your spelling, unconsciously! I'm such a wimp. (Dwarves is apparently a later variation, popularised by Tolkein.)<br /><br />I just can't fking shut up, can I?<br /><br />(You wouldn't believe the difference in me in work mode. I go right off talking then. I love working instead then (almost always). This is the problem; they're not compatible. And deadlines wait for no man... <br /><br />Ah, reminds me of Douglas Adams :) (anarchic associative piecemeal mind in full swing here)<br /><br />http://www.goodreads.com/quotes/1398-i-love-deadlines-i-love-the-whooshing-noise-they-make <br /><br />Yep, I've really enjoyed this too! And look forward to picking it up :)<br /><br />All the best & bye for now!<br /> <br /><br /> Anon 2noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-35756542638970360082016-05-26T16:29:26.592-07:002016-05-26T16:29:26.592-07:00@ Anon2 again,
Having little regard for dwarves,...@ Anon2 again, <br /><br />Having little regard for dwarves, I can take a PS anytime I want. LOL.<br /><br />Forgot to say; your questions above, I could respond to most. But not for 15 days. Having a disgustingly high level of self discipline myself, I am fully supportive of those attempting to practice the same. [self-important tone: off] 8-)<br />XKAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-34072217097126787182016-05-26T16:18:46.906-07:002016-05-26T16:18:46.906-07:00Anon2:
8-) Likewise, re the education, and likew...Anon2: <br /><br />8-) Likewise, re the education, and likewise, re chatting about this stuff. It was such a lovely change, and well appreciated. For the fact that all of it was coherent, really descriptive and absolutely without antagonism [I know that sounds like I'm marking an essay 8-)] It's that writing style again 8-/<br /><br />It would, certainly, be good to 'talk' again when there is time; I hope you meet your deadline. 8-)<br /><br />As for dwarves, how about a few surreptitious stranglings of some of them...in that dark room, if they get too insistent; where no-one can witness the crime? <br />8-) Works a treat. <br /><br />No BTW I don't think you've been very Borderline; it was something I read you suggest about yourself to SuperChick, is all. Yes, I do have a prolonged acquaintance with a Borderline. Which is why aggressive, hostile rants Just Do Not Work. They essentially mean nothing other than someone wants to antagonise, to learn your weak spots, so they can attack those more efficiently another time. To see if you will give up on them. Because, sadly, that's what they expect. <br />Done that, seen the movie, even bought the t-shirt. <br /><br />bye for now, <br />XK<br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-19064485215681929992016-05-26T12:08:45.545-07:002016-05-26T12:08:45.545-07:00they said I could have one ps
I meant to say some...they said I could have one ps<br /><br />I meant to say something about the padded room... the padded room...my kingdom for a padded room... but without the doctors and the non-smoking policy.<br /><br />I sometimes wonder if I should pad my house, and make believe, from time to time, that I'm not allowed out and don't have to pay rent :)<br /><br />That's it now. Because I've got discipline. And I believe in things like deadlines. They're dead real to me.<br /><br /><br />Anon 2noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-73624756678414561882016-05-26T11:59:42.832-07:002016-05-26T11:59:42.832-07:00I think I've given myself borderline burnout n...I think I've given myself borderline burnout now :)<br /><br />More importantly, I have a deadline in 15 days, the only chance I stand of meeting is to get bored and stay bored without further ado! Which means no more of this.<br /><br />Or this:<br /><br />"Anyway, suffice to say that your description of how it 'feels' [shudder 8-)] is both lyrical and sufficiently evocative that I can 'get it', and discuss it with Short Shrink without both of us looking blankly at each other. Many thanks!"<br /><br />That's great :) Pleasure to be of service :)<br /><br /><br />And absolutely none of this:<br /><br />"Anon2, if this is your version of Borderline - the entire world needs to get it! 8-) Wars would stop instantly. LOL"<br /><br />I'm dying to ask you what you think about this, actually... You know your Borderline stuff, by the sound of it - do you reckon I'm one? Can you tell these things? Are you getting a borderline vibe from me?<br /><br />And for pity's sake, nothing like this: <br /><br />"I have actually 'suffered' a few weeks of having really strong emotions. I thought [no joke] I was going mad."<br /><br />The latter doesn't surprise me! The former intrigues me no end... How did it happen? How did it stop? Was there a how? What was it like? (all contingent upon your actually wanting to answer, with no offence about to be taken should you not :)<br /><br />or this:<br /><br />"That depersonalisation part I once had for several days. It was very interesting to know that I could blow up half the world pressing a button if someone asked me to, and then go watch TV. Even more interesting that that was just 'filed away' - and then I watched TV LOL. <br />The second part you described, is how things usually are..."<br /><br />Did you mean that it no longer feels like that (world, button, TV) out of the depersonalisation? (with the same footnote as before)<br /><br />There, that's me done for 15 days. With a bit of luck. Thank you again for your responses! Fascinating stuff. It's been an highly entertaining education :)<br /><br />(the dwarfs have been giving me hell over this, it's the only way I can shut them up)<br /><br />Anon 2noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-24440514139953672342016-05-26T04:52:03.455-07:002016-05-26T04:52:03.455-07:00@ Anon2:
The 'shrink names' just allude t...@ Anon2:<br /><br />The 'shrink names' just allude to their body types, in a nice way. 8-)<br /><br />[XK carefully steps over something very messy in the corner]<br />Let's tactfully ignore the vituperative vomit, someone's obviously very sick. 8-)<br /><br />XK<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-15721301855012235312016-05-26T02:04:15.494-07:002016-05-26T02:04:15.494-07:00I knew it was a mistake to use a question mark. Si...I knew it was a mistake to use a question mark. Sigh.Anon 2noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-6717297079617254372016-05-26T02:00:13.639-07:002016-05-26T02:00:13.639-07:00XK - Chortled right the way through your interview...XK - Chortled right the way through your interview!<br /><br />Why Short Shrink and Big Shrink, just out of curiosity? (or is that a stupid question?:)<br /><br />The world is requiring that I Do Things today, but I'll be back! :)<br />Anon 2noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-44361147352763755032016-05-26T01:51:31.653-07:002016-05-26T01:51:31.653-07:00Anon 2 don't be so serious. I'm not picki...Anon 2 don't be so serious. I'm not picking a *fight* with you. *XK* is more attractive and affordable. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-40484116705926107752016-05-26T01:48:49.765-07:002016-05-26T01:48:49.765-07:00I bet you're the *fearless* *machismo* type wh...I bet you're the *fearless* *machismo* type who nearly shits himself when confronted. You don't sound like a *lady* but I bet you play the role, and love it don't you? You're so *fearless* you can't help but display your aggression & your inner dare devil as the Mighty *XK* online. Doesn't change the fact that you're a *cheap* ****** <br /><br />Did I get carried away with the *assumptions*? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-78127701290164252172016-05-26T01:46:28.166-07:002016-05-26T01:46:28.166-07:00" 8-/ it seems as of an hour ago she did. &qu..." 8-/ it seems as of an hour ago she did. "<br /><br />Nice one! :)Anon 2noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-54278927335672302072016-05-26T01:43:11.452-07:002016-05-26T01:43:11.452-07:00@ boring anon
You sound like a really serious per...@ boring anon<br /><br />You sound like a really serious person who can't handle anything humorous, particularly when it comes to irony. Or is that an act?Anon 2noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-90018351501158722722016-05-26T01:34:29.074-07:002016-05-26T01:34:29.074-07:00I see your type now. Here let's make an *assu...I see your type now. Here let's make an *assumption* you're a patho liar and you know it. You get a kick out of it don't you? Let's make more *assumptions* while we're at it. Considering the frivolity you display, I'd say you're the type that undoes *emotions* just so you can enjoy your sexual perversions more often. I bet you're the *whoring* type and you love it don't you? <br /><br />Responsibility? That doesn't exist in your pathetic little world. You "can't" feel because it doesn't serve your pointless existence, not because you just "can't." Go on now don't mind my *assumptions* and try again. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-74947316110339333592016-05-25T20:47:01.982-07:002016-05-25T20:47:01.982-07:00@ [shit-stirring?] Anon at 6.42pm:
I knew it wou...@ [shit-stirring?] Anon at 6.42pm: <br /><br />I knew it would be too good to last. Sigh. <br /><br />"You sound like a really weak person who can't handle anything unpleasant, particularly when it comes to emotions."<br /><br />I'm afraid all the clinical evidence [re weak, fearful, anxious, emotionally vulnerable etc] disagreed with you. It is a fact that the things that traumatise and cause fear and anxiety in most other people, don't. To be more specific: can't.<br /><br />So once again, *with feeling*: 8-)<br /><br />'Assumptions, assumptions. My kingdom for no assumptions.' <br /><br />"It shows in your writing style."<br /><br />Absolutely correct. It does [although I'm assuming 8-) I understand what 'it' you refer to]. Being usually either rational [internally] or highly amused and engaged [internally and externally], it of course influences writing style. Amusement and delight don't get transferred into 'written' very well, hence all the LOLs and 8-) spread thru the text. Rage doesn't occur much nowadays because there are shrinks for that. [No that doesn't mean they get hit about their heads as a therapeutic technique to quell rage BTW]. 8-) <br /><br />"don't explode on me"<br /><br />LOL oh OK then. Drat. 8-)<br /><br />"I really feel for you."<br /><br />Probably because you make "Assumptions, assum....." you know the rest. LOL<br /><br />XKAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com