tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post2864928399137706728..comments2024-03-18T07:07:07.291-07:00Comments on Sociopath World: How to break up with a sociopathUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger1387125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-5860884364293212022022-01-15T23:35:25.041-08:002022-01-15T23:35:25.041-08:00Ok Hanging out with another sociopath. Maybe you f...Ok Hanging out with another sociopath. Maybe you failed to see another similarity re success what success haven’t you seen the pattern with can’t hold a job long enough or consistently unemployed. What achievement you all get bored too quickly and can’t make plans for the long term. So keep fooling yourselves with thoughts of fun achievement success. The achievement and happiness is all in your head and what you’ve told yourself. How happy can one be if they have to keep finding a new target to feel good about yourselves. Yeah right wa wa wa. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-34075056202785916662021-11-24T16:15:09.556-08:002021-11-24T16:15:09.556-08:00You were being gas lighted. There is a big differe...You were being gas lighted. There is a big difference between that and a sociopath. I know because ive been through both different relationship. Gas lighting is psychologically horrible and left me second guessing myself like I couldnt trust me. Took several years to find ground to stand upon and longer to be sure of myself. <br />Gas lighting is very REAL and can absolutely destroy a person so please educate yourself on this subject and realize that the psychological affects are not easy to cone from. Find the courage to leave while you still have fight left in you. Good luckAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-65874733801602254592021-03-09T21:41:31.201-08:002021-03-09T21:41:31.201-08:00https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Lose_a_Guy_in...https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Lose_a_Guy_in_10_DaysAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-18250968322070753092021-03-04T10:22:44.468-08:002021-03-04T10:22:44.468-08:00Mine was real good at the love bombing and guilt t...Mine was real good at the love bombing and guilt trips. He was also my first "love" and partner so I had an even deeper connection to him. I was aware of what he was for years but I literally couldn't keep myself from going back. It was an addiction and the withdrawal periods felt like pure torture.<br /><br />I finally moved to another city across the state when he decided to take a scholarship to a university for grad school. Being physically apart from him I felt safe enough to end it and the distance helped me to detach from the bond.<br /><br />Naturally when I left of my own volition, he got desperate. Promised me a house on the beach, a dog, a wedding ring, and literally--in all seriousness--said he would give me the moon if he could, he just needed me back in his life, he would change! <br /><br />I had been away for long enough at that point that I was seeing more clearly and I wanted to recover my self esteem and confidence. No contact worked. It sucked. But it worked. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-16954511812684071602020-11-28T18:41:30.159-08:002020-11-28T18:41:30.159-08:00And yet he was the one who got annoyed enough to g...And yet he was the one who got annoyed enough to get a restraining order. That's just pathetic. Nobodyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07462059348254066191noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-25842222103692921722020-07-20T10:59:45.018-07:002020-07-20T10:59:45.018-07:00I cheated my sociopath boyfriend. i lied to him ev...I cheated my sociopath boyfriend. i lied to him even when he was asking me to tell the truth. i did every single thing to disappoint him with my lies. i was so afraid of getting caught so i keep on hiding until he himself did not find the truth. so when no options left i accepted whatever i done. I felt guilty and ashamed so i apologized to him and he even acted like that he forgave me. but after some time he started asking me why ,why you have done this and so on. i tried to explain him and keep on apologizing. i am feeling so shameful. so i decided that i will fix everything and will start from scratch. so what is he doing now. "today he will show me a lot of love and then very next day he will abuse me like anything." i really want to help him but due to his behavior i am getting mentally destroyed. sometimes i feel like that this is the only thing he wants and that is revenge. but then he act like he is so innocent and helpless that he does not want to be abusive but when he remember that i have cheated on him so he treat me like a bitch. he has given me threats like upload your nudes ,you do not have any option and many more. but then after behaving like this he will say sorry very next day for his such behavior. i tried to leave him but he is not allowing me to do that because he is saying your cheating is worst hit to my moral and you have changed me so please fix me and help me. i really do not know what to do but i am afraid. it would be really helpful if any one of you can advice me what to do and can me idea that what is he upto.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-83487946222650678332020-07-20T09:31:47.867-07:002020-07-20T09:31:47.867-07:00i cheated on a sociopath and after he caught me re...i cheated on a sociopath and after he caught me red handed then also i was so afraid that i did not accept anything and acted like i have not done anything. but he keeps on stalking my social media so finally i accepted my mistake and i apologize. but now its been one year but he did not forget anything. he is still in contact with me and he abuses me a lot for what i have done. i keep on apologizing but he is not releasing me. i am mentally destroyed because i am afraid of blocking him. he will get the hell out of me. i do not know what to do. if you have any advice please help me Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-39966952083276141672020-03-19T11:21:14.786-07:002020-03-19T11:21:14.786-07:00Maybe your the psychopathMaybe your the psychopathAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-22342428931570008122019-12-25T06:08:44.255-08:002019-12-25T06:08:44.255-08:00awesomeawesomeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-3353938511102638032019-07-30T04:10:42.348-07:002019-07-30T04:10:42.348-07:00s this thing on? People still commenting on this o...s this thing on? People still commenting on this old post? Look, I broke up with one, took two tries. The first he utterly dismissed, the second was done in an enclosed space (a car and I was driver, giving the sociopath a ride-not a euphemism). My advice is to remember the Maya Angelou quote, "when people show you who they are believe them" the sociopath can only wear a mask for so long and when it slips believe the underside as it were. So to break up treat them as they would treat you. I initially broke up the first time via text, which hilariously instigated the sociopath to want to "talk" which was of course game on for manipulation. The second breakup I called upon my own ability to "dissociate" something you will need to be able to do (meditation can help actually) and using a kind of cold logic explained in a very calm but firm voice that I was looking for something different in a relationship (i.e. not him). This worked. It also shocked the sociopath. If you wound a sense of pride this can work in your favor especially if you then play something I'll call "the feelings game." Here is how this goes, break-up in the cold unfeeling manner described then go on the "emotional attack" with the sociopath explaining later how unhappy you were and that they hurt your feelings with their typical erratic behavior. Lie-I know this is hard but we are dealing with a different animal than is "normal" here so again knowing they lie you do too-say you still have feelings for them, make it seem if they could only "change" you would take them back. Point out why you left was their lack of empathy keep using this as justification. Then go on the wounded pride offensive-they often have other sources of interest...so you develop those too, aka join a dating app. Detail to them the people you meet who are in fact more successful than the sociopath, are the thing they actually want to be etc. (they want to be a doctor talk about the hot doctor from Chicago who messages you). They of course will now go a little "crazy" pulling out all the stops to manipulate you-don't emotionally attach to this put pay attention. Move out, explain to them you never want to see them again (I explained that I had blocked them)this will appeal to their pride (my sociopath thought I actually wanted to hear from them again-see the faked feelings thing above). If you play it right you can use their need to wield power and control and their sense of pride and egotism "against them" in a way to leave you alone. To make it look like if they contact you again it shows a "weakness" for you in particular on their part (a lack of pride and egotism and self-centeredness is what I mean by weakness). Just an idea and what worked in my case. Its emotionally rough stuff if you care about people to do this but keep that Maya Angelou quote in your head. Now of course the sociopath deserves our compassion just from a far, in a galaxy far far away. Lastly, something I haven't seen mentioned on this blog is that one of the primary reasons I ended the "relationship" (transaction would be a better word) is because they were...BORING. Look it can be mighty interesting initially to talk to someone who changes themselves like I would change my underwear but damn after a point I was like "cut the shit." I found the erratic behavior boring-the lack of emotional connection was boring. Life lost its color was reduced to facts, in short it was boring because they were boring. Where was the insight, the self-awareness, the depth? It was one big blank and I found it interesting that the sociopath was often bored because they were so boring to be around (so of course they were bored!) Also that erratic behavior business starts to become its own routine (aka, this old chestnut). Boring-and the sociopath would complain often of wanting a challenge...I have one, pick an identity stick with it never let the mask slip again-I mean NEVER.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-71563850225929171622019-06-19T01:55:39.754-07:002019-06-19T01:55:39.754-07:00Clap, clap that should satisfy you very small need...Clap, clap that should satisfy you very small need to exist. Well done, and to all the real people out their, it’s the fact that really you have it all and sociopaths have nothing but clap, clap🤣Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-21641023721649459812019-06-19T01:36:22.294-07:002019-06-19T01:36:22.294-07:00Everyone who has dated a sociopath has had a bad e...Everyone who has dated a sociopath has had a bad encounter, they are parasites and I like your clan idearAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-89285552298581889642019-01-05T21:47:48.057-08:002019-01-05T21:47:48.057-08:00Nah, there are noot so many subtypes. I am not eve...Nah, there are noot so many subtypes. I am not even sure there are as many as Millon's. What there is is huge comorbidity between cluster B disorders, or rather, if you have one, you have all four, only in different ratios from one person to the next. Every sociopath is a narcissist is a histrionic is a borderline, at least a bit. The other thing people tend to forget is that personality disorder doesn't encompass a person's entire personality, there are elements to every disordered person that are outside he scope of their disorder, which is simply called being an individual. I know a sociopath who can't stand anything human but loves her cat. She neglects her children and her husband, she abuses them, mostly exploits them, but the cat is happy as can be, and these are supposed to be people who intentionally hurt animals. Personality disordered people are people too, even if many of them should be locked in a dungeon with the key thrown away. They HAVE personality disorders, they ARE not personality disorder.Lalaanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-20783313470243022122019-01-05T21:38:06.423-08:002019-01-05T21:38:06.423-08:00LOL, you don't get it, probably a sociopath yo...LOL, you don't get it, probably a sociopath yourself. To Helena, winning means getting rid of her sociopath, so yes, she won. You seem to suggest that winning would mean hurting, one-upping or gaining control over the sociopath. That is precisely the kind of childish idea a sociopath would have. You need to understand that to a neurotypical, making herself look hysterical to the person she is trying to be rid of is a small price to pay to be rid of them, and to the rest of those who saw her posts, she did right and they would understand that she had t do what she had to do, they probably would have done the same. Careful, your lack of empathy is showing.Lalaanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-16763753536310292242018-06-25T19:50:53.943-07:002018-06-25T19:50:53.943-07:00Hi, I have an ex-boyfriend who is a sociopath. I h...Hi, I have an ex-boyfriend who is a sociopath. I have gone no contact with him. This would work if I never saw him again. <br /><br />I do see him once a year at a vacation spot where my family has a house. He lives there full-time. <br /><br />Your advice to make myself so boring so he he loses interest may need some fine-tuning. The problem is he knows I am well-educated and articulate. I have a master's in STEM, and a good job. He knows I would never prattle on and on about nothing. Wouldn't he see that as an insult... that I'm playing a game with him?<br /><br />Any suggestions anyone could offer would be most appreciated. I really want this guy off my back.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-47645889376501759272018-02-17T14:55:02.120-08:002018-02-17T14:55:02.120-08:00Sociopaths my not be into relationships but they a...Sociopaths my not be into relationships but they are out to win even if they destroy. My now xwife has been conquered by her x who over the last 20 years and more has married and destroyed 11 women. I guess he wants a round number and has added my wife back onto his victories.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04465854033516827244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-11841855974689873392018-02-17T14:51:03.052-08:002018-02-17T14:51:03.052-08:00Some of those nut jobs don't stop. I know, aft...Some of those nut jobs don't stop. I know, after 20 years my wife was convinced to leave me and return to her past life with this guy who is a genuine real ass and sociopath.<br /><br />He is charming though.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04465854033516827244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-73493698662992681652018-02-03T04:09:29.243-08:002018-02-03T04:09:29.243-08:00It's your EGO and your subconstient .
Try a co...It's your EGO and your subconstient .<br />Try a competent hepl from a professional psihoterapeut asa in all other illness . You have to treat YOU first an after that your relationship with the sociopath ...<br /> Good lack !! MUSHhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06336933503734017003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-87079475334872003792018-01-25T16:15:09.834-08:002018-01-25T16:15:09.834-08:00lol that's one of the most passive-aggressive ...lol that's one of the most passive-aggressive things ever saidsarahjhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04083990565666205857noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-19754399022954229262017-09-26T00:13:31.478-07:002017-09-26T00:13:31.478-07:00I know your pain. I found the book, "The Bet...I know your pain. I found the book, "The Betrayal Bond" (by Patrick J Carnes) tremendously helpful. It was cheap second hand on Amazon and I can't recommend it highly enough if you're struggling to break free.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-66695112223518823352017-09-25T06:12:19.355-07:002017-09-25T06:12:19.355-07:00My bf is in jail right now we have been together f...My bf is in jail right now we have been together for over 2 years we have a beautiful baby boy together... I believe he is a sociopath.. he has cheated before going into prison with multiple women while I was pregnant with our son he had a whole new relationship.. his daughter one night followed in into the bathroom as I was getting my things ready for a shower she informed me I was wearing "Sara's sweater... ????umm excuse me who is Sara so I than asked my bf who she was he proceed to call his daughter I lier and she didn't no whay she was talking about.... she new exactly what she was talking about.. about a month later I decided iv had enough and moved out. He than moved "Sara's into the house.. they slept in my bed for months... he than relized she was nothing that he wanted... so he ropped me back in and like an idiot i went back (still pregnate) and it was okay for a bit until he went out and went right to her house he even got in a fight with a guy she was pursuing.. I snapped we fought and he swore he wouldn't go back to my knowledge he didn't but than a few months later he went to prison... I have learnt a lot about myself while he has been away but I have also relized that he brings me down in ways I didn't think was possible he has mad me doing things that I would NEVER do?! Your probley thinking to yourself he's in jail get away whi me you can right?! It's not that easy it drives me mental no answering his calls I have blocked his calls so I woujldnt even no he's calling but that drives me nuts also ... I don't no what to do anymore?! HelpAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-66394661887377331882017-06-16T19:26:42.236-07:002017-06-16T19:26:42.236-07:00This is my bpyfriend & I too a tee. I know m...This is my bpyfriend & I too a tee. I know my feeling sorry for him and his shitty upbringing and current seperation from his family have kept me here far to long. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08987486654013045266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-89353286588781963432017-06-16T14:52:06.371-07:002017-06-16T14:52:06.371-07:00After reading through this I can say it's all ...After reading through this I can say it's all so familiar. Im living with a social path and have been for over 3 years. Ive tried many times to break it off and get him to leave but nothing works it just makes him more volatile. On top of being a social path he was diagnosed Bi Polar Schizophrenic with accute psychosis before we got together. I didn't find that out until we had been living together almost a year. <br /><br />Reading here is the first time I realized he is also a social path. I am now trying the strategy given here to get him out. I've tried everything else and it results in him getting extremely angry and hostile until I give in to keep the situation from escalating or because he wears me down. <br /><br />I honestly can't believe I have not seen it before. Everything he does is classic social path behavior. I'm hoping by using the methods above he will tire of me & leave on his own without a big confrontation. This may be the answer to my prayers because I am so over this mental/emotional torture and just want to be free of him. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08987486654013045266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-643656953274353802017-05-18T02:40:16.034-07:002017-05-18T02:40:16.034-07:00Winning is sometimes just keeping your sanity desp...Winning is sometimes just keeping your sanity despite their best effort to tear you down. Everyone who knows and loves you will see this for what is was, and that is you out smarted a genius. Be proud of your accomplishments and live your life the way you should, free from drama and next time see the red flags that were likely there, RUN!!!! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-33147006072864827852017-05-15T23:24:06.535-07:002017-05-15T23:24:06.535-07:00Sociopaths do not have the ability to love anyone ...Sociopaths do not have the ability to love anyone but themselves. MOVE ON! Find someone who knows how to love, sociopaths will never love you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com