tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post2717772217498646903..comments2024-03-18T07:07:07.291-07:00Comments on Sociopath World: Sociopaths, mimicry, and blank slatesUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger95125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-76838123977228391102023-02-03T02:39:05.224-08:002023-02-03T02:39:05.224-08:00Just to let you know. Although it may not be your ...Just to let you know. Although it may not be your fault, sociopaths cause untold suffering and pain in the world. Sociopaths and psychopaths are exempt from feeling the pain of empathy, yet they benefit from other people's empathy, which makes them parasites. Narcissists, sociopaths and psychopaths are fundamentally parasites. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-27250320612484229972019-01-30T22:00:06.355-08:002019-01-30T22:00:06.355-08:00Goodness. Reading through some of these comments ...Goodness. Reading through some of these comments is fascinating, particularly the other Anonymous above who said they too tend to be intrigued by these shifty characters and quite aware of the other life taking place behind the curtain, as it were.<br /><br />I too have become very intrigued by all of this like a puzzle. I was with a man that I am utterly certain is a sociopath/possibly with some psychopathic tendencies, who is a walking talking textbook for PD. Charming, witty, seductive in company and outward appeal, but self destructive, drug addicted, chronically insecure but projecting a larger than life, cocky demeanour and highly flirtation character when in public.<br /><br />The thing that gets me is that before meeting the man spent a few weeks laying out his litany of deceits and detours in life on the table in the interest of being noble and honest with me, like it was a big turning point and he didn't want to be a liar and a thief any longer.<br /><br />We dated happily and vibrantly for four weeks. We had the best time every time. We would have such an adventure even just going out for drinks and would talk for hours and hours; quite often a date for us would be sitting in the same bar and four or five hours would pass when suddenly we would realise we were hungry or might need a chance a scene.. again.. the "opiate of his company" is a very relatable sentence. <br /><br />He moved in with me on Christmas day and moved out roughly a week later. During his time living with me, his darker side started showing itself. He would make strange, mean comments or complaints about my home or myself and started a series of disappearing acts; for hours and hours. He wouldn't answer his phone and when he finally did there was always some excuse or he didn't hear etc etc, yet before we moved in, he was calling constantly and texting me all the time.. and always answered. In the week he moved in he went from the bright, affable, funny, light hearted chap to someone who seemed oft troubled or serious or a little bit faraway, deep in his head. He showed no willingness to clean the house or be a gentleman (like he had been prior)in terms of any interest of being flirtatious or romantic or caring. In the end he vanished. He told me he needed to focus on his recovery from heroin and that we needed to dial things back but that he loved me and we clicked so much and that it all felt so real. He was due to call me the next day to hang out and talk about things and pick up from where we had been before the move in, except he never called me again. Gone. And not a word since.<br /><br />I can only believe that his ruse proved too much to continue when her realised I too was only human and not a fantasy, I too had my own anxieties and failings as a person, and that living together meant a responsibility he couldn't live up to.<br /><br />I think mostly though that he realised being with someone meant projecting a reality he was fearful of never living up to. In any case, it was very upsetting to be cut out of someone's life when you only tried to love and help them by letting them move in and out of a desperately dodgy and I dare say living arrangement with junkies and addicts and break ins in his apartment. To be tossed aside like nothing and treated like a problem is immensely hurtful.<br /><br />Sociopaths are frightening. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-82208363674971577452017-12-11T22:56:42.558-08:002017-12-11T22:56:42.558-08:00I truly hate it. I hide my intentions all the time...I truly hate it. I hide my intentions all the time to not hurt others. Its the most taxing and mentally toiling thing in the world, but I have a family that loves me in spite of it all and I think this may run in our blood. I don't knows how else to be 'good' by their standards and how else to honor them. I can't care like they can, but I can still be loyal and have appreciation. I love my family, love to me means sacrifice in spite of my feelings or lack there of.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-23210777526002042612016-02-19T01:30:38.710-08:002016-02-19T01:30:38.710-08:00What a great response Davie. The sociopaths that I...What a great response Davie. The sociopaths that I know too live by a code of being careful in their conduct and not creating negative affects on those around them as much as they can. <br /><br />On a separate note. From years of observations I conclude that those who end up being "victims" (as they see it) of the "leaching" sociopath often crave the attention and the emotional rollercoaster. They almost beg to be lied to, to be deluded just so that they can feel special, significant and/or loved. They throw themselves in, even when they can sense or even know the "danger" of emotional hurt. And they do it because they crave drama, sense of mattering, excitement, feeling of something happening in their world. Some may even be addicted. And then they get the second emotional buzz from being the victim and all the empathy they collect from "normal" people around them. Its very sad to watch.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-12179586970079095792016-02-19T01:09:58.521-08:002016-02-19T01:09:58.521-08:00Reading these comments full of judgement and fear ...Reading these comments full of judgement and fear of psychopaths and sociopath make me realise that we still live in dark ages. :( How are these fears and rationalisations are different from blind fear of witches and belief into "normal" is different from religious fanatism of 12 century when inquisition, torture and burning at the stake prevailed?! Just because you don't understand and are scared of the dark does not mean dark is out there to get you. <br /><br />There are plenty of sociopath out there who are by all formal measures have positive impact on our society. The difference is they know what and why they are doing, and they consciously choose to make positive impacts. <br /><br />And as for playing with people - yes it is amusing sometimes. However most sociopath don't waste their life on this. It gets boring quite quickly too. In fact most focus their attentions on positive personal achievement, not you. <br /><br />Manipulation is useful and natural mechanism. And everyone, including deep empath and most altruistic people in the world manipulate; so do babies, animals and genes. So before jumping to vindictive hatred look in a mirror. The difference is sociopath are more commonly in control of their intentions and actions. <br /><br />So why not focus your emotional energy onto making a more positive impact on the world and others. I promise you in 90% of cases you are not interesting enough for sociopath to bother with wasting his/her energy on negatively affecting your life. A_Ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00652785584813529726noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-14931537992415491152016-01-31T11:27:28.568-08:002016-01-31T11:27:28.568-08:00Please don't blame sociopath behavior on paren...Please don't blame sociopath behavior on parents or upbringing. We have a daughter who we loved and cherished and raised her to care about other people and she was never abused. She is now is behaving like a sociopath...no empathy just for what she can get ..and is very smart witty manipulative. We are exhausted and deeply hurt from the horrible lies fraud and other things she has done including cutting us out of her life.She can look as if she if well put together and people buy into it.The grief and loss is awful as parents.There is not anything we can do because she is of age. She was not always like this she was not out to kill animals or hurt anyone as a child.But she could be manipulative. She was proud at being able to say she could manipulate me. She seemed to have a range of emotions as a child at least I thought so. I also had a lot of comments that she seemed so happy as a child. It seemed to develop in her late teens early twenties. She has completely given herself over to the entrepreneurship/startup culture which has not helped anything and a lot is just one scheme after another and she is drawn to the high drama of it all and wanting to make a billion dollars and doing whatever it takes to get there including using her body other people etc. with no conscience empathy morals or ethics. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-15123461722727618952016-01-12T19:32:33.579-08:002016-01-12T19:32:33.579-08:00we know we are abnormal, we are simply okay with t...we know we are abnormal, we are simply okay with the way we are, and accept it as being who we are. also, these basic facts are true, most sociopaths have developed personal codes and manufactured moral compasses that we use to judge right and wrong, and really aren't looking to hurt anyone as a goal in itself. Ignoring all else, hurting people is counter-productive. More bees with honey, happier society around you means less persecution and more open-mindedness to different kinds of people.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-8131882277903205862016-01-12T19:24:44.127-08:002016-01-12T19:24:44.127-08:00I am fairly happy with the way I am, emotions woul...I am fairly happy with the way I am, emotions would get in the way and they seem to complicate life horribly. I do have ties where I wish I could connect with people on that deep level, as there is this deep sense of loneliness and emptiness. What is horrible about being a sociopath is that we can see the world in a fairly un-biased and frank way. And what we see is this sort of pointless, futile existence. But our lives are not without purpose. Many of us create a goal for ourselves, something we want to achieve with our lives, and we work towards that. I personally like doing things that make empaths happy, or relieves some of their stress or emotional confusion, doing things that have a good life. <br /><br />You've actually gone about this perfectly by the way. This is all written with a very open-minded, accepting, and genuinely interested view. You haven't written out of resentment or hatred, simply out of curiosity. You also seem to be quite intelligent. You're very good at interacting with people :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-90562209877588826392016-01-12T19:11:26.578-08:002016-01-12T19:11:26.578-08:00A bit much, don't you think? We're not exa...A bit much, don't you think? We're not exactly Godzilla or Satan now are we? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-32341617137676108192016-01-12T19:05:14.699-08:002016-01-12T19:05:14.699-08:00M. Momo, no one has commented because I don't ...M. Momo, no one has commented because I don't believe anyone sees any fault in his statement, It's very relatable and needs no adding on to.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-13388132625099859782016-01-12T18:57:47.299-08:002016-01-12T18:57:47.299-08:00On the topic of the stare, probably not. It's ...On the topic of the stare, probably not. It's a very personal aspect of a sociopath and it's most likely not something he wants to share with someone he loves. Any sort of vulnerability is something a sociopath won't want other people around, it's a core aspect of our nature. He doesn't want you to see the emptiness he feels because he knows it's not what you want and that you deserve more emotion and connection than he can give you. But he still loves you, even if he can't show it. In his own way he really does care, which is most likely why he doesn't want you to see the empty look, as our outsides often can't project what we think and feel, it's a lie of facial expression and not one he seems to want to project to you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-66474743129661284892016-01-12T18:50:17.620-08:002016-01-12T18:50:17.620-08:00I believe you may be thinking of people forced int...I believe you may be thinking of people forced into certain stereotypical survivalistic mindsets by desperation and socio-economic class. Most sociopaths a very lone-wolfish and really don't enjoy being part of a large 'pack'. We're fairly independent and tend to stay to ourselves most of the time.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-27059691822636031762016-01-12T18:44:55.056-08:002016-01-12T18:44:55.056-08:00EVERY. TIME. I've been caught off guard by so ...EVERY. TIME. I've been caught off guard by so many of the little sociopathic tendencies I have (mimicking, listening to everything and anything, changing how i behave to fit various situations better) and the fact that apparently not everyone does them. Messes me up constanltlyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-44319023986137390592016-01-12T18:40:55.793-08:002016-01-12T18:40:55.793-08:00....... you had a really bad problem being bullied.......... you had a really bad problem being bullied when you were younger and are now looking as to explanations as to why, gravitating to the simplest ones aren't you? We aren't elementary school bullies, and individuals around sociopaths and what they do don't really effect sociopaths that much at all, we're simply working towards a goal.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-10255580455261297732016-01-12T18:37:29.672-08:002016-01-12T18:37:29.672-08:00It's really funny to see the empaths on this t...It's really funny to see the empaths on this thread being generally aggressive, biased, hateful and close-minded; while the sociopaths are being generally logical, open minded, understanding and (shocking) honest. And yet the sociopaths are being seen as cruel and evil......Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-35754924420121399472016-01-12T18:31:31.927-08:002016-01-12T18:31:31.927-08:00PLEASE keep doing what you're doing. I try to ...PLEASE keep doing what you're doing. I try to reach for the same goals of being a good person to other people, to follow my 'manufactured moral compass'. You most likely don't get enough credit for the efforts you put in, but you should. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-52678518373744627002016-01-12T18:26:14.975-08:002016-01-12T18:26:14.975-08:00^ Also, adding on to my previous point, you descri...^ Also, adding on to my previous point, you describe sociopathy as a "disgusting character flaw". It has been proven by the few studies on sociopaths that it caused in part by a disconnect and abnormal functioning in the brain and brain structure, one of the few solid facts about sociopaths. It is a physical difference, and therefore is no way related to character, which is based more on things picked up growing up, and personality. Sociopathy could well be classed as a disability as it is a difference in brain structure and functioning. character flaws can be changed with some will and true effort by the person possessing them, I can tell you from first hand attempts by myself, it isn't possible to 'erase' being sociopathic, at least not really, not anything past putting on a show or changing the colors of a mask.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-92130599493373696262016-01-12T18:18:29.453-08:002016-01-12T18:18:29.453-08:00A) In my experience, yes we do feel pain, loneline...A) In my experience, yes we do feel pain, loneliness, and misery. As a sociopath I've always seen other people, interacted with them, but I can never really connect with them. I want to be able to, and i can imagine what it would be like if I did, I just can't seem to get it right. We may understand society and people better than anyone else, but our main natural defences are mimicking and lying. They aren't necessarily bad things however, as, being as I am, I can always know how to say the right thing at the right time to help people get through emotional traumas, keep a tense situation calm, and help people through difficult situations, as I can see the whole picture in a relatively un-biased way. It kills me that I know that I'll never be able to have a deep, empathetic connection and relationship with anyone, and I long for it as something I know I may never have. But I can try to help the people I like, and try to be supportive of them, and at least try to make an effort towards that deep connection in case it does work out. <br /><br />B) You seem very angry right now, and seem to be typing in a very dramatic tone.<br /><br />C) Many sociopaths grew up in abusive situations where they couldn't trust anyone, any emotions they had were used against them, anyone they connected to either hurt them or they were forcibly cut off from, and never knew when the next shoe was going to drop. Many sociopathic traits may stem from this, and were certainly aggravated by it. Childhood development is so excruciatingly important to human behaviour and identity, we keep many of the traits we acquired in childhood forever, as that is when we shape our views of the world and grow to survive in it.<br /><br />D) sociopaths generally work by pursuing a certain 'goal'. They aren't necessarily 'evil', and most save for a few are perfectly normal, they're simply goals. It could be wanting to go to outer space, or becoming the best chess player in the world, or getting a degree. It's a very effective and efficient way of looking at life, and is especially useful in a leadership position, getting projects done in the best way with the least amount of effort for all involved. <br /><br />E) The way you're speaking about is eerily similar to the witch trials, spanish inquisition, multiple genocides and Hitler's persecution of the non-pure germans. Something you may want to ponder.<br /><br />F) Who hurt you??? It's obviously damaged your view on the world. That can lead to dangerous and erratic behaviour. <br /><br />G) You people seem to almost enjoy persecution of a certain group, common enemy, to a frightening point. (see point E)<br /><br />H) Always remember to take any scientific studies and information about sociopaths with a grain of salt. The information and subjects available to them come only from sociopaths in prison, and a handful of CEO's and lawyers. Sociopaths in prison are by their nature low-functioning sociopaths, unstable enough to commit crimes, and (bit spooky) get caught. It is a very biased and small sample selection, but a one of the natural defence mechanisms of sociopaths is remaining hidden, and high-functioning sociopaths are very good at this, it is the best sample selection researchers can find, no matter how inaccurate it may be. short of being sociopathic being widely accepted by society and there being no chance of persecution towards sociopaths, our natural instinct is to remain in hiding (see point C). Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-68475265717745088632016-01-12T16:23:15.268-08:002016-01-12T16:23:15.268-08:00High functioning refers to skill in mimicry and in...High functioning refers to skill in mimicry and intellegenceAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-74823113218720956792016-01-12T16:17:33.603-08:002016-01-12T16:17:33.603-08:00You deserve a medal for that...
You deserve a medal for that...<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-12867031185226639722015-10-21T16:15:07.072-07:002015-10-21T16:15:07.072-07:00They target you because they are jelous or have a ...They target you because they are jelous or have a use for you. It is all about control and domination. They need to knock you down so they look better. Just a bullying child basically. Show them how pathetic they are by completely ignoring them. They are insignificant to you. Then become highly successful in every area of your life. Basically make them jelous. By doing this you show them that they will not destroy you. They are powerless to destroy you. Go live a wonderful happy life without them. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-32242632583376046942015-10-10T08:18:47.128-07:002015-10-10T08:18:47.128-07:00So true, I like to collect accents for later use. ...So true, I like to collect accents for later use. Depending on the situation I pull one out. I even learned sign language so I could fake being deafAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-74255039340392299602015-10-10T01:27:46.641-07:002015-10-10T01:27:46.641-07:00Anybody gives a single fuck about you lmao...Anybody gives a single fuck about you lmao...Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14904017565546679179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-60288213315198485372015-09-08T20:36:09.949-07:002015-09-08T20:36:09.949-07:00This 'taking on accents' could also be an ...This 'taking on accents' could also be an extreme empathic response. I went around the web just for this reason, to figure out why I (without knowing it) mimic accents. Again, these mirror neurons work both ways. Empathetically, you automatically do it because you bond with those persons. Psychopathically (as I've understood), you mimic because you want to fit in with those people.Virushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04218395764888689045noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-7829391384209987912015-08-05T23:47:16.595-07:002015-08-05T23:47:16.595-07:00Do you have to control the stare from occuring? I...Do you have to control the stare from occuring? I was married to a sociopath for 10 yrs and only saw it once but he never looked me directly in the eyes. Especially during sex. We accidently Locked eyes during his orgasm and that's when I saw the empty stare. He also like M.E. would not want me in the bedroom with him when he was extremely ill on several occasions.<br />He told me he is not capable of loving me the way I want and he can try to show me love but cannot say it. Recently I told him I knew he was a sociopath and it didn't go well. He denied it. Then flipped it and has painted myself as one in court. Is there a way I can get him to show me the stare?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com