tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post2658540105172897353..comments2024-03-18T07:07:07.291-07:00Comments on Sociopath World: Aspie sexUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger218125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-12948107832786310512014-07-08T09:52:20.057-07:002014-07-08T09:52:20.057-07:00Please quit comparing Asperger's to sociopathy...Please quit comparing Asperger's to sociopathy. Aspies have to cope with enough misunderstanding and stigmatisation as it is.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-513814569286383652011-01-05T05:57:08.661-08:002011-01-05T05:57:08.661-08:00Schlepschtick - que laughterSchlepschtick - que laughterGagReflexnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-84857121936380457922011-01-05T05:42:10.698-08:002011-01-05T05:42:10.698-08:00Why all the criticism? I used the brazen fabulist&...Why all the criticism? I used the brazen fabulist's locus classicus of erotic literature, <i>I Can Stick My Hand in My Vagina Anywhere (Even in a Job Interview)</i>, as inspiration for a spot of breath control play and it was oh, oh, OH so effective. Thanks, M.E. :)Sea Witchnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-3823865045965784722011-01-05T03:18:21.667-08:002011-01-05T03:18:21.667-08:00Yup "the women are suppossed to vent and men ...Yup "the women are suppossed to vent and men of worth think before they speak thing". Though I don't get the point in having this distinction at all. Makes me speculate about the waste of potentially gifted minds of 50%? of humannity.<br /><br />Women seem to focus so much more to skills and dynamics of the dating/mating routine whether in school or in the household and I don't think men in their conscious state care as much. Though as part of the contract with hormones it matters supremely. Hence the befuddled farmer or endless fixer of damaged women typecasts.<br /><br />Thanks for your perspectives Amelia, Medusa, AspieGagReflexnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-52095589030412306412011-01-05T02:39:59.508-08:002011-01-05T02:39:59.508-08:00No one gives a shit when John Boehner cries like a...No one gives a shit when John Boehner cries like a baby, which he's done more than once.<br /><br />Strange times.Mɵᴅʊsahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13217438537249025614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-55568209656777539412011-01-05T02:32:45.966-08:002011-01-05T02:32:45.966-08:00But, to look at it from another perspective:
Sinc...But, to look at it from another perspective:<br /><br />Since women are allowed to gush forth, perhaps there is less need to siphon that sensitivity into philosophy, art, etc...<br /><br />Men, on the other hand, kind of have to siphon that sensitivity into said activities because they aren't allowed to gush forth directly...<br /><br />Is this what you were saying, Gag?<br /><br />I think though, that things, they are a changin', and women are going to be the ones who have to repress and build up the dams. (e.g. Hilary Clinton and the big to-do about her shedding a tear once is going to have an effect on how women present themselves from here on out).<br /><br />And men are going the way of metrosexual 'pussies', if you will.Mɵᴅʊsahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13217438537249025614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-34254684949583549332011-01-05T02:31:23.724-08:002011-01-05T02:31:23.724-08:00This comment has been removed by the author.Mɵᴅʊsahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13217438537249025614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-38659553810838480562011-01-05T02:18:37.131-08:002011-01-05T02:18:37.131-08:00Women don't get as much press Gag, and haven&#...Women don't get as much press Gag, and haven't for centuries. Nor have traditionally been supported in pursuing such activities as you list.<br /><br />Also, people are taught what to be inspired by, and what qualities are worth being inspired by. Generally male-leaning stuff so far.<br /><br />Women's dysfunction is also downplayed as "oh don't mind her, you know women, they are all crazy/emotional/this/that." It's expected, therefore doesn't stick out so much.<br /><br />So your argument is neither here nor there.<br /><br />I think if you met me, you'd be surprised.<br /><br />I often forget what gender I am, though...Mɵᴅʊsahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13217438537249025614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-28093413096661636692011-01-05T02:15:48.129-08:002011-01-05T02:15:48.129-08:00GagReflex,
I'm not sure that I could arg...GagReflex, <br /><br /> I'm not sure that I could argue effectively that much in the way of human action isn't based in some kind of emotion. However, the pool of emotions from which our actions are based seems to be varied. Some are consistently pulling from the same spot each time, and some are pulling from all over the place. <br /><br /> Are you saying that you aren't trying to insult women but that you haven't met any who are inspiring or surprising lately? <br /><br /> I'm sorry that I'm so dense, which comments of mine left you with this impression of social filtering?Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12408087943581976418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-87585062207995976072011-01-05T01:58:04.713-08:002011-01-05T01:58:04.713-08:00there are times when I attempt to rise above the b...there are times when I attempt to rise above the bullshit of yesteryear. Then I notice that the majority of people are engaging in the same tactics and I remember that trying to rise above it did me no good back then, either. And I lob back my own dose of BS. It's fun to win. <br /><br />2cool 2 B 4gotten. (it occurs to me that note-passing high school girls 15+ years ago used similarly ridiculous acronyms and shorthand as texting 'tweens do now....)Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12408087943581976418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-41823637383208438512011-01-05T01:56:49.817-08:002011-01-05T01:56:49.817-08:00Not meaning to denigrate but can come up with soci...Not meaning to denigrate but can come up with socially dysfunctional philosophers, scientists, fugue gendered artists musicians. Cook savants, Criminal/non criminal geniuses at the thresholds. Have I been inspired or surprised by any women lately? <br /><br />Somehow, I still stand by the notion that every human action or human thought stems from an emotional base. As a child I was strangely moved just looking at watches on people's wrists especially in movies and the act of putting on neckties. Totally dysfunctional. <br /><br />Guess the pressure caused by the tiny pin pricks makes for all the difference in mixing it all up before the release.<br /><br />Amelia's comments reinforces my suspicion that women by and large and some men act as homogenizing social filters(the rules?).GagReflexnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-39473001617066580652011-01-05T01:42:28.993-08:002011-01-05T01:42:28.993-08:00Not much difference at all, Amelia. These girls we...Not much difference at all, Amelia. These girls were pushing (if not over) 30.<br /><br />One of the girls, I think, or one of her friends, was trying to get with my ex when I was seeing him.<br /><br />I admit it was a bit of a bone of contention at the time, because he did nothing to dissuade their attentions, and they were unaware of my existence. He found them annoying, but he obviously liked the attention.<br /><br />High school 4everMɵᴅʊsahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13217438537249025614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-72252772570123137272011-01-05T01:35:30.303-08:002011-01-05T01:35:30.303-08:00Medusa, there are moments like that sometimes... I...Medusa, there are moments like that sometimes... I think they are terribly satisfying. <br /><br /> sometimes it is nice to surprise people, and sometimes it is nicer to give them exactly what they expect. And is there really a difference between high school and later in life for the majority of people? It's hard for me to give them that much credit sometimes.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12408087943581976418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-38569994620428239102011-01-05T01:32:56.998-08:002011-01-05T01:32:56.998-08:00Note-
What I was getting at was that I feel if I ...Note- <br />What I was getting at was that I feel if I could clear my head of the myriad emotions before acting I would perhaps have less moments of wanting to die of embarrassment later. Usually the things that I ruminate over are excessive displays of emotion. So... with that as an example of something I might experience less often as a sociopath I envy the ability to assess things BEFOREHAND in a dispassionate manner (more frequently and more consistently than i do now). <br /><br /> I'm wondering is there some empath/neurotypical tendency that you find yourself wishing for a dose of now and again? <br /><br /> I hope I'm explaining myself better now.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12408087943581976418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-15391066753138838272011-01-05T01:28:38.055-08:002011-01-05T01:28:38.055-08:00Bowling was interesting, and pretty fun. I was a s...Bowling was interesting, and pretty fun. I was a social rock star.<br /><br />A couple of poser metalhead girls (the kind who decided they were metal, like, 6 months ago) were all huddled talking and looking over at me. Girls who were acquainted with my ex (who used to be in this bowling league). No doubt they knew something about me, who knows what they were told.<br /><br />I just stared straight at them while I watched them talking and as they looked over it was pretty clear they knew I knew they were talking about me and I just looked right into their eyes with a sly grin, not giving a shit.<br /><br />It was rad. And high school.<br /><br />I don't even mind if they were told I was crazy or evil or whatever, in fact, I welcome it, it only will only be good for my reputation and career.Mɵᴅʊsahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13217438537249025614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-91674272902857296492011-01-05T01:21:57.914-08:002011-01-05T01:21:57.914-08:00Medusa, how were the head-bangin' bowlers?Medusa, how were the head-bangin' bowlers?Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12408087943581976418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-55731897882963896442011-01-05T01:18:12.294-08:002011-01-05T01:18:12.294-08:00I would find the whole "What? Are you kidding...I would find the whole "What? Are you kidding? Just take your clothes off." as the least sexy route to having sex. the anticipation of sex (at least initially) or the whole "are we, or aren't we" plays a big role in fueling desire for many people. Foreplay can (and for many should) begin before physical contact even begins. <br /><br /> This scenario makes sex sound like a chore. Or something that is expected. Neither of those things will light the fire of most. And, yeah, I see what you mean, Note, it doesn't seem entirely like the aspie doesn't "get" it as it does that the aspie isn't interested in making an effort in that manner. <br /><br /> I've had similar instances where people just say "are we gonna have sex or not?". And at that point I'm usually thinking that the person has done or said *nothing* to turn me on, no matter than I'm reasonably attracted to them and such a question is a turn off. For me, anyway, it isn't a matter of you are goodlooking and I am horny, it *is* a dating/mating ritual. Different with every partner, sure. I enjoy pleasing and being pleased, but I dislike being with anyone who doesn't show enthusiasm in the process. I don't want someone to perform sexual tasks like they'd wash dishes. I think that knowing someone is enjoying pleasing me makes it that much more intense and pleasurable for me. When they seem brusque or mater-of-fact about it they don't seem *into* it. And I think that they might as well be home jerking off to porn. <br /><br /> I can only speak for myself, but even if it isn't particularly personal I want to *feel* like it is, not like it's just some biological function. <br /><br />WV-unstiff...REALLY?!?Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12408087943581976418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-58372804221880064892011-01-05T01:05:33.176-08:002011-01-05T01:05:33.176-08:00No they ain't. It all just comes out of differ...No they ain't. It all just comes out of different holes.<br /><br />Ladies have big holes, men have a bunch of tiny pin pricks. Same leakage volume, but tiny pin pricks makes for more pressure per prick than does a big hole.Mɵᴅʊsahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13217438537249025614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-30351363074362220322011-01-05T01:01:10.303-08:002011-01-05T01:01:10.303-08:00men are emotionally more complexmen are emotionally more complexGagReflexnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-78871042521517316002011-01-05T00:58:16.381-08:002011-01-05T00:58:16.381-08:00reading the original story left me very cold.
Of c...reading the original story left me very cold.<br />Of course, i suspect it's an exaggeration.notmenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-19030104100611503282011-01-05T00:47:54.888-08:002011-01-05T00:47:54.888-08:00@Amelia: I look back at situations and try to calc...@Amelia: I look back at situations and try to calculate where I could have improved the situation for future reference. I don't think there's anything odd about that. Possible emotions tied to such hindsight probably differ, but that's about it.<br /><br />Back on topic: Although people differ in certain things they expect/desire in the bedroom, there's a fair amount of commonalities between partners. Figuring out those differences isn't remotely challenging and can be easily accomplished and adapted on the fly. The Aspie did not so much seem incapable of doing such as much as she seemed unwilling to do so. In the bedroom, I aim to please and to control. The only time I get frustrated with someone is when they habitually do not want to engage in foreplay and only want intercourse. Foreplay is my favorite part, and if my needs are not met, the physical relationship holds no longstanding merit in my eyes.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-88943886735316457572011-01-05T00:43:22.711-08:002011-01-05T00:43:22.711-08:00i'm desperately trying to stay awake to pay my...i'm desperately trying to stay awake to pay my overdue rent.(it's early morning here). If i fall asleep now i won't wake up till after my landlord's gone home. So if the convo doesn't perk up i'm fucked.<br /><br />seems like the socios have gone to beddy byes Amelia.notmenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-19614905400237159172011-01-05T00:35:05.739-08:002011-01-05T00:35:05.739-08:00chronic restlessness and proneness to bone-melting...chronic restlessness and proneness to bone-melting boredom isn't exclusive to aspd, though i know you weren't saying that. I'm borderline and feel those things intensely. <br />Empathy or lack thereof is not the issue.notmenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-48141613785687705732011-01-05T00:30:21.490-08:002011-01-05T00:30:21.490-08:00Loki, maybe you should start your own blog? Would ...Loki, maybe you should start your own blog? Would be nice to read stuff from another writer.notmenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-80912050778350229142011-01-05T00:26:58.394-08:002011-01-05T00:26:58.394-08:00I'll ask a question of those who identify as s...I'll ask a question of those who identify as sociopathish... I envy the ability of socios to look at things, even really intense things dispassionately. I tend to look *back* on things at a later date with chagrin or outright embarrassment at times due to being overwhelmed with my emotions; once i see them less emotionally I think about how I could have acted that would have been a better response. At the same time I wonder if this is the price I pay for not feeling that bone-melting boredom, restlessness and emptiness that seems to plague so many with ASPD-characteristics. <br /><br /> Is there anything specific that you envy of empaths/neurotypicals?Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12408087943581976418noreply@blogger.com