tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post2374015205832138459..comments2024-03-28T00:33:57.308-07:00Comments on Sociopath World: Sociopaths = communication skillsUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger92125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-60392828842350301402013-02-20T22:42:01.805-08:002013-02-20T22:42:01.805-08:00you are welcome!you are welcome!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-79044345971524191972013-02-19T05:35:03.906-08:002013-02-19T05:35:03.906-08:00Thank you, Anon!
I never got totally agoraphobic, ...Thank you, Anon!<br />I never got totally agoraphobic, but I struggle with wanting to and have for most of my life.<br />I made huge emotional progress with this woman. Now, she treats me with a great deal of respect, vs the scorn she had for me, in the past.I set several strong boundaries with her. I told her to call me before she dropped over. I told her that I was not "exclusive" to her, as I said. I make it clear that she is a business person, not a friend. I don't offer her coffee etc. I don't ask about her life, like I used to.<br />This one experience has been a huge spring board toward my self esteem and getting back the power I lost, as a child.<br /><br />Thanks again, Anon. I don't know if you are MY Anon or not, but I appreciate your comment x xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-34772016877492385052013-02-19T00:17:13.949-08:002013-02-19T00:17:13.949-08:00Monica, I didn't know you were afraid to go ou...Monica, I didn't know you were afraid to go out. <br /><br />She may hope to win a jackpot, but you have the power to make or break her monthly income, don't you? That is power.<br /><br />It will be a nice feeling not to need or owe anything to anyone, right?<br /><br />I am trying to do my relationships this way now. People will want to guilt you or tell you you must be consistent or be forthcoming every time when you just did something once or 2x. They begin to expect.. <br /><br />Zoe is right, You can say no to whatever you want whenever you want, change your mind, kick a few tires, and then turn around and say "sorry I'm not feeling you today", or whatever. <br /><br />You are allowed not to care about her pinning her income on you. It's the price she pays for being self employed. And she knows it.<br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-59432443199263533682013-02-18T22:13:50.384-08:002013-02-18T22:13:50.384-08:00IM MAD AS HELL AND IM NOT GONNA TAKE IT ANYMORE AN...IM MAD AS HELL AND IM NOT GONNA TAKE IT ANYMORE ANsWER YOU OWN DAMN QUESTIONS!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-10013404079258732372013-02-18T19:36:35.169-08:002013-02-18T19:36:35.169-08:00that is a primal instinct. That feels primal to me...that is a primal instinct. That feels primal to me. Thank you, Monica.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-62451812424441426912013-02-18T12:05:46.642-08:002013-02-18T12:05:46.642-08:00To answer the question directly, the ability to de...To answer the question directly, the ability to defend oneself against abuse, of any nature.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-61104898235617012832013-02-18T11:32:15.479-08:002013-02-18T11:32:15.479-08:00I will tell you the whole story. One of my purpose...I will tell you the whole story. One of my purposes for being on SW is to get my primal power back. My personality on here, is my true personality, but in my life I am afraid to be myself. So, I am making the attempt to transfer my personality on here, to real life. When the decorator first met me, I had a victim persona about me. She thought, "Great, a rich wimp, who is afraid to go out. I hit the jack pot ~ "<br /><br />So, she starts bossing me around and getting arrogant with me. She wants to plan shopping trips where she charges me a lot per day etc<br /><br />Well, in the interim, I started getting my power back, from being on here and my own business getting more successful. So, at some point, I pulled back and tried to change the power dynamics, and this last incident was the last in a series of my trying to change the power dynamics.<br /><br />Actually, I don't really care what happens to my house, as far as how it is decorated. I just want to get my power back.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-4930916995405426482013-02-17T20:29:56.517-08:002013-02-17T20:29:56.517-08:00Monica what primal instinct do you associate with ...Monica what primal instinct do you associate with the dueling decorators?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-52050834551891201032013-02-17T15:10:01.149-08:002013-02-17T15:10:01.149-08:00Yes, I realized from this one incident with this d...Yes, I realized from this one incident with this decorator which has been evolving from one step to the next that I lost my primal instincts. Well, my favorite Anon pointed it out to me, at just the right time, and I saw it. That made me fish food for anyone who wanted anything from me. In this case, the decorator wanted money, but it could be anything. My mother undermined my primal self for my whole life. I think this was because I was smarter, intuitively, than she was and she could not take that.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-31852420814316159242013-02-17T14:07:53.747-08:002013-02-17T14:07:53.747-08:00Rich, yes I am that anon. I understand about the d...Rich, yes I am that anon. I understand about the doctors helping you out. I understand it was life saver to you. I understand that you do not blame another for a personal addiction. I think that is very responsible of you and I think it is a good way to recover. <br /><br />I used this to illustrate that my struggle is a 2 person deal. <br />It is not anyone's fault T O D A Y that i am fucked up about attachment and have abandonment issues and have trouble with self worth. The shitheads I choose today are my responsibility. <br /><br />I am just doing parallels. It is not personal.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-58514867143879218882013-02-17T13:11:53.575-08:002013-02-17T13:11:53.575-08:00the hygiene was a surprise for later!! hahahahahah...the hygiene was a surprise for later!! hahahahahaha!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-58051691378943084702013-02-17T13:11:03.217-08:002013-02-17T13:11:03.217-08:00oh god, Zoe! lmao!oh god, Zoe! lmao!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-56293471480635108912013-02-17T13:00:01.166-08:002013-02-17T13:00:01.166-08:00Yes, Zoe. I try to work on my prizeness everyday. ...Yes, Zoe. I try to work on my prizeness everyday. It is hard.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-11442829794746201602013-02-17T12:07:48.318-08:002013-02-17T12:07:48.318-08:00when i would try to share and tell my side of a st...when i would try to share and tell my side of a story, she would always challenge my take on it. if i shared a wrong, there was always this subtle implication that i was the one who had been in the wrong or misinterpreted the situation or rude, the bad one. always this subtle erosion of self esteem.<br /><br />We have the same mother, Zoe, except mine is emotionally dumb like Monica's. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-58618600370911470982013-02-17T08:36:12.589-08:002013-02-17T08:36:12.589-08:00:-):-)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-18969600495744678882013-02-17T08:31:23.709-08:002013-02-17T08:31:23.709-08:00my mother passed away several years ago, so it'...my mother passed away several years ago, so it's been years now without the endless criticizing. it used to make me crazy. but it wasn't an option to cut her off. so you either detach, suppress or stew. <br /><br />for the most part i was detached but the demand on my time, as it was never enough for her, and then to spend it sitting there listening to her picking on me over this or that would make me ballistic. i don't believe in the endless self improvement bullshit, and am insanely jealous of my time. we could never just have fun. what's the point of living if you have enough food, clothes and stuff, and can't enjoy a moment of it because it isn't perfect yet? <br /><br />growing up was like being stuck on this train to perfection that could never reach its destination. you were never quite there yet. crazy ride on the crazy train. i really hated being dragged back on it every time we would see each other. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-58939518745320906292013-02-17T06:00:26.243-08:002013-02-17T06:00:26.243-08:00LOL Zoe
Great story and it illustrates all our poi...LOL Zoe<br />Great story and it illustrates all our points. Ye, my mother always has to be the one who knows more and she invalidates my primal instincts, which are damn good. Don't leave home without them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-26295784494381429322013-02-17T05:58:11.946-08:002013-02-17T05:58:11.946-08:00so monica, two mantras to live by which will make ...so monica, two mantras to live by which will make you feel a whole lot better: "screw you i was right, you don't own my brain", and "yes i was a bitch, but i love me like that, deal with it." :-)<br /><br /><br />YES *Doing a Snoopy Dance* Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-47656112555814673502013-02-16T22:42:19.330-08:002013-02-16T22:42:19.330-08:00it can't really work if you're not a prize...it can't really work if you're not a prize to yourself. people see through it eventually. <br /><br />i mean if you put effort into tricking someone into thinking they got a prize, that uses up valuable resources and reduces your prizeness. your first duty is to being a prize to yourself. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-66473137489737476602013-02-16T22:34:16.670-08:002013-02-16T22:34:16.670-08:00Yeah, Zoe, I think deep down i must value other pe...<b><i>Yeah, Zoe, I think deep down i must value other people more than myself. I think if I can only trick them into thinking they got a prize i am golden. It works. But then what? Then I get angry I have to get up the energy every fucking day for them. </i></b><br /><br />i chased after someone once, treating him like a prize i had to have. and when i got him that's exactly how he acted. he invited me to go canvassing with him. as we walked, and he talked, he suddenly asked if i was in love yet. he tossed that over his shoulder like a treat for me to snap up, not even looking at me as he hurried to the next house.<br /><br />pretty soon he didn't seem so shiny and i started to lose interest. he started to annoy me. i grew bitchy. well damn if he didn't fall in love. suddenly i was the prize!<br /><br />he said he was in love with me because i was no longer a pushover. when i told him i wanted to end it, he said now that was overdoing it. ha :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-79336659943091336352013-02-16T22:05:30.876-08:002013-02-16T22:05:30.876-08:00hiyahiyaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-15420490259899943062013-02-16T22:01:30.099-08:002013-02-16T22:01:30.099-08:00his father was a dominating and bullying bragging ...his father was a dominating and bullying bragging type, who probably made him feel like nothing. his mother was weak or dominated. i wasn't really around long enough to unravel it. <br /><br />i almost forgot this gem: he liked to smell bad. his friends would beg him to take a shower. apparently his father didn't care for showers either. so maybe in his mind bad smell equalled power? when we first started dating he was on his best behaviour and the hygiene was a surprise for later, like the binge drinking and rambo knife. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-44845785974249349932013-02-16T21:50:07.625-08:002013-02-16T21:50:07.625-08:00How is Interoceptive communication used by Sociopa...How is Interoceptive communication used by Sociopaths Different from normal Human communication?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-38776848989650007862013-02-16T21:45:29.042-08:002013-02-16T21:45:29.042-08:00fine thanks, rich. lil sleepy fine thanks, rich. lil sleepy Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-44294429213982267932013-02-16T21:44:57.748-08:002013-02-16T21:44:57.748-08:00no mushrooms, i missed that drug boat. but i coul...no mushrooms, i missed that drug boat. but i could get high just by thinking about it anon. <br /><br />kidding, mostlyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com