tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post1329923251709387551..comments2024-03-28T00:33:57.308-07:00Comments on Sociopath World: 10 Ways to be CharmingUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger48125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-90070901618883852442015-04-12T13:18:57.867-07:002015-04-12T13:18:57.867-07:00So then let me ask you guys...
is there a differen...So then let me ask you guys...<br />is there a difference between PEOPLE PLEASING and CHARMING?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-52216121357269389502015-04-12T13:17:41.769-07:002015-04-12T13:17:41.769-07:00the only issue i have with being charming is that ...the only issue i have with being charming is that it borders on "people pleasing". i think people pleasing is a really bad trait to cultivate - especially as a man. no woman is attracted to a people pleaser. Women like men who follow their own journey and can tell others they're wrong... not the other way around as in "oh you're so great all the time"Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-36616514541869608502014-09-27T13:09:36.246-07:002014-09-27T13:09:36.246-07:00We live in a very strange times in human history. ...We live in a very strange times in human history. We have always introspected, we have always said, "Know thyself," but in historical times we did not have artificial intelligence, we did not have brain scans of our own brains, we did not have genetic engineering, we did not understand that there is no god, we were not working on shaping our own evolution. <br /><br />We are our own Frankenstein. No good will come of this. Pray to an imaginary god that I am wrong. . Radical Agnostichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08630112321918941568noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-42357354040997862212014-04-14T20:35:09.397-07:002014-04-14T20:35:09.397-07:00Disinformation- intentional
Misinformation- uninte...Disinformation- intentional<br />Misinformation- unintentional<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-34258978810230410802014-04-06T07:07:44.731-07:002014-04-06T07:07:44.731-07:00yeah i lie too. but i give them mis-information. :...yeah i lie too. but i give them mis-information. : )<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-31429033830881653492014-04-05T16:33:37.955-07:002014-04-05T16:33:37.955-07:00why should ME be an agent for change?
and who di...why should ME be an agent for change? <br /><br />and who discredited my soundbite? life is busy lately and i miss stuff. am flattered either way that my little soundbite was tweet worthy. : )Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-70315668438363611832014-04-05T16:04:14.500-07:002014-04-05T16:04:14.500-07:00Like it doesnt matter if you're sincerely real...Like it doesnt matter if you're sincerely real or true or lying with a person, what matters is that it is that you say the right things.Jeliza Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03976114169941577450noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-42810462034199406052014-04-05T16:00:04.054-07:002014-04-05T16:00:04.054-07:00Say thank you to people, by text or whatever. Don&...Say thank you to people, by text or whatever. Don't say Thanks. Say thank you. if someone says thank you, say you're welcome. be grateful just because even insincere gratefulness is just common sense.Jeliza Rosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03976114169941577450noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-59600419408485583622014-04-05T14:22:05.658-07:002014-04-05T14:22:05.658-07:00@ Zoe
My point is that ME should be an agent for ...@ Zoe<br /><br />My point is that ME should be an agent for change and use this blog in a positive way instead of trying to defend the indefensible. (Note how quickly she seized your discredited soundbite about people lying to themselves for her Twitter feed). Socios could be encouraged to "come out" so that they can forge relationships in more honest and less destructive ways. It's as if ME has dipped a toe in the water but can't resist running back to dry land.<br /><br />As for the rest of it, I enjoy robust discussion especially with people who don't imagine they have 'pushed my buttons' just because I like to argue the toss.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-26271416656954532272014-04-05T09:11:29.319-07:002014-04-05T09:11:29.319-07:00also... maybe you should have known better?
or a...also... maybe you should have known better? <br /><br />or are you over 80? 80 year olds excluded. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-61356424471956700702014-04-05T09:07:03.248-07:002014-04-05T09:07:03.248-07:00but what is your point anon? other than challengin...but what is your point anon? other than challenging my bs. recap please. i can't tell which anon is which or if you're all of the above. <br /><br />maybe i'm full of shit but why does that push your buttons? that's what you want to look more closely at. that's where you are vulnerable and what predator types will look for and find.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-12521432000508419732014-04-05T07:41:22.924-07:002014-04-05T07:41:22.924-07:00Who's making the victimized into a victim or c...Who's making the victimized into a victim or creating an identity around it? I'm simply pointing out the reality of such encounters and refusing to let your BS excuses stand. Onwards and upwards by all means but don't try to trivialize it or say 'oh shoudda known better'.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-80896685600290494172014-04-05T07:14:50.137-07:002014-04-05T07:14:50.137-07:00@anon,
eventually you learn the language, no? eve...@anon,<br /><br />eventually you learn the language, no? even if it's after they leave. and yeah i agree with you in a way. but why make the victimized into a victim? why create an identity out of it? everything in life leaves its mark, and the point is to learn from it. you can't always make it go away. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-77076158444917592832014-04-05T07:10:34.942-07:002014-04-05T07:10:34.942-07:00alexine you misunderstand me. or something.
alexine you misunderstand me. or something.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-32924975239051477202014-04-05T06:24:26.761-07:002014-04-05T06:24:26.761-07:00@ Zoe
"i was referring to people who willing...@ Zoe<br /><br />"i was referring to people who willingly enter relationships, ignore the signs"<br /><br />Ah yes, willingly. Consent. The point is the 80-year-old woman is admitting the man from the electric company to her home. She is not admitting the con man. Few people 'willingly' enter relationships with sociopaths because the socio misrepresents him/herself. There is no consent, it's a violation from the get-go. They don't ignore the signs because they don't see them; the signs are in a language they don't understand.<br /><br />"it's draining to get worked up over stupid stuff/people you will barely remember a year or two down the road."<br /><br />Many people are damaged well beyond a year or two after dangling with a sociopath. They may barely remember the person but still have to deal with the fallout. Consequences - an alien concept for most sociopaths. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-1433729076862287932014-04-05T02:57:56.109-07:002014-04-05T02:57:56.109-07:00She doesn't know that?She doesn't know that?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-48200544327859013862014-04-04T23:46:14.315-07:002014-04-04T23:46:14.315-07:00"But are they sincere about it?"
This i..."But are they sincere about it?"<br /><br />This is the tricky one. Empaths would like to believe so, but it is just mirroring our own values and emotions.<br />Only sociopaths can answer, but since we cannot believe them 100% because they lie to us, and/or to themselves... I guess we'll never know for sure.<br /><br />But taking it on a really psychological point of view. Sociopaths are not "monsters, they're on a different spectrum of emotions, particularly about the empathy scale.<br /><br />Seems it seems that sociopathy is nurture, and some studies show that empathy can actually be increased or decreased (with certain limits), I guess we can imagine that sociopaths are in some punctual circonstances able to relate and to be sincere.<br /><br />There is no reason that they cannot feel admirative, curious, intrigued, about someone at the first place without necessarily plotting some twisted manipulations, and therefore being kinda honest in their charming interest.<br /><br />I'm used to say that they don't see us as people, but as possessions. While in relationships, sociopaths can be very possessive but also protective. <br />Becoming from charming to protector, it might not be intentionally planned, they can get genuinely upset when someone else mess with their "toys".<br /><br />I guess that's the closest way for them to "care".Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04050604611521165783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-74253453728693407952014-04-04T23:20:39.654-07:002014-04-04T23:20:39.654-07:00Really well said.Really well said.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04050604611521165783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-58954494395358273612014-04-04T23:12:25.504-07:002014-04-04T23:12:25.504-07:00"i think people confuse being put on a pedest..."i think people confuse being put on a pedestal as proof that the other has deep feelings"<br />In the normal world, most of the time, when people put time and efforts for another, it is usually a sign that he cares (what for otherwise?).<br />Sorry if empaths don't have a paranoiac twisted mind :)<br /><br />"don't take women too seriously, the world is filled with their drama"<br />I have to admit this one made me laugh really hard hahaha. <br />I thought "Drama... Geez you should meet my sociopath ex"<br />No, seriously... you wanna talk about drama?? hahahaha<br /><br />"rather than seeing life as a series of obstacles, you have to look at the obstacles as a series of opportunities."<br />You wouldn't like that we start to thank you, maybe? lol<br />The ultimate jubilation for a sociopath, having his victim saying "Thank you made me stronger"<br />Sorry love, you didn't made me stronger, I made me stronger.<br /><br />"i'm saying they're not victims. just poor losers"<br />Or narcissist troll in action :)<br /><br />I agree on one point, I'm kinda tired that we affiliate empaths always as victims. We've been victim of a situation, it doesn't define us as a person.<br /><br />Why sociopath are usually able to fool us, because at the first place we have a lack of knowledge about the situation. That gave them a serious advantage, don't you think?<br /><br />Though when we "ignore the warning signs", it's because the sociopath encourage us to ignore them, by distractions (usually a lot of talking, blaming others, calling our empathy).<br />We did feel these signs in our guts, but we chose to follow our melted heart, given sociopath what they use the most "the benefice of the doubt".<br /><br />We're nice enough to not follow your instinct, give people the benefice of the doubt, and they reward us by throwing in your face that was your fault.<br />But if you are "charming" at the first place, it is to use the benefice of the doubt, you cannot deny it, little ungrateful rascals :)<br /><br />Feeling as a victim and blaming (ourselves or the other) is honey for the sociopath. It's actually not that hard to move on, once you realised you've never been in a relationship but in the game, and that's not about you, it's never been about you.<br />They are like this, they cannot change, and in fact they need us more than we need them. We just have to accept it and let go the waste of time and energy (if it's just that, it's not that hard paid after all, couldn't have been worst, see it like if it was an "accident": hurtful, unpredictable, unfair, nor merited but punctual).Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04050604611521165783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-51937666930504540452014-04-04T23:09:23.758-07:002014-04-04T23:09:23.758-07:00First thing who came into my mind reading Zoe'...First thing who came into my mind reading Zoe's comment was "don't feed the troll".<br />I guess it makes sense since trolls have commonly sociopathic and narcissistic tendencies :)<br /><br />Zoe you are mistaking a lot of things, starting by your knowledge about empaths.<br /><br />First, every and anyone start a relationship (friendship or sentimental) for a reason that we can how consider as selfish. To respond to a need: to be loved, to not be alone, to be happier, because the person met make us feel special, different, having good times.<br />No matter if empath, sociopath or normal people have a different understanding of "good times".<br /><br />"when the need is no longer there, the sociopath leaves. so does the empath"<br />This is incorrect, one of the biggest problems of empath is that they have difficulties to get out relationships even when they've been able to consider them as toxic and are unhappy within.<br />For different reasons and factors, which might not seems logic at the first sight. That is one go the thing that make them empaths.<br /><br />"but it's okay as long as they felt something before! feelings are the get out of jail free card"<br />Here it is not about feelings. It is about concordance of what you think, what you say and how you behave.<br />Sociopaths do not have any consistency between the 3 of them. <br /><br />While we focus and want to believe what they say (which is a 2 sides responsibilities, the empaths focus on it for some reason, but the sociopath also behave to make us focus on it as he knows exactly what he's doing). <br />We misunderstand the way they behave (once passed the "charming phase") trying to find the correlation between their talks and their acts. This is when they did most of their job well as we start to find excuses for them.<br />Until we start to see under the mask and have an idea of what they think. Here is the shock, and here is the betrayal feeling.<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04050604611521165783noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-44552971646152655332014-04-04T21:13:28.486-07:002014-04-04T21:13:28.486-07:00no, i'm saying they're not victims. just p...no, i'm saying they're not victims. just poor losers. something people with PD's seem to be. ; )<br /><br />this is sort of unrelated, but rather than seeing life as a series of obstacles, you have to look at the obstacles as a series of opportunities.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-25511047445555295402014-04-04T20:14:05.832-07:002014-04-04T20:14:05.832-07:00Yep, no turning back. Screw me over one to many ti...Yep, no turning back. Screw me over one to many times, we're done, finished,adios amigos!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-53140744292997594632014-04-04T19:46:14.748-07:002014-04-04T19:46:14.748-07:00Funny, I am open and honest and don't "HI...Funny, I am open and honest and don't "HIDE" my feelings, opinions.<br />So, data mine me all you want. <br /><br />I will be nice to you until I am sick of the bullshit. I can see the manipulation and when I am done, it is VERY hard to get on my good side again.<br /><br />Bipolar empath<br /><br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-53294495665343605772014-04-04T19:38:49.914-07:002014-04-04T19:38:49.914-07:00You're blaming the victim. Something I thinks ...You're blaming the victim. Something I thinks people with PDs do. <br /><br />"It isn't my fault you were hurt. I told you I was an ass."<br /> <br />Well, Fuck you. It is still your fault. Stop being an ass or of do it on someone else's time.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-628748600098131100.post-71771105739297358832014-04-04T18:22:06.400-07:002014-04-04T18:22:06.400-07:00How cute, melissa found a way to be creativeHow cute, melissa found a way to be creativeAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com